
Update on my post and further advice needed asap.
I managed to make contact with breeder yesterday morning and she was very surprised about the situation. Agreed that I can take puppy back but not that day as she is very busy and out all day. I asked if I could take her today and she agreed but said it would have to be late in the day as she has a potential customer for a show puppy. I agreed to take her later in the day but not ideal.
I then had a urgent message from my daughter asking me to take her for urgent medical procedure today that required sedation so that she could not drive. I contacted breeder to ask if could take her tomorrow (which would be today) and breeder happy with this as it is more convenient. Don't know if breeder playing silly begars anyway, to delay me.
During the several exchanges with the breeder she did admit that this puppy that she had previously described to me in an email as 'sweet natured, quite and laid back but not SHY, with waggy tail' is actually a shy and nervous puppy, but not so bad as the two that she has for sale that are 4 months old (hence why she did not KC register the 4 months old ones)
(going a bit away from my eventual question, she is advertising these 4 month old puppies, that she has now told me are very shy and nervous, on one of the websites as having 'superb personalities, very friendly and cuddly')
Back to my dilema: Last night had a major breakthrough in the pup one side of the baby gate and older dog at the other. Older dog approaches gate and no snarling, snapping occured from puppy, but puppy now licking older dogs face through the bars - knock me down with a feather.
This morning, same again so I let older dog out into garden and and puppy sat at my side in door way giving her the option to go out or retreat to puppy pen and she stepped out onto patio. Older dog approached slowly with big waggy tail, puppy did the submissive puppy 'squirm' and older dog licked puppy and then ran off with puppy cautiously following.
After getting back from hospital with my daughter at lunch time, I did the same again, older dog out first, puppy given the option of following and within minutes they are playing together. I have supervised several short sessions of this play between them and now puppy is chasing older dog round garden as older dog is 'teasing' her with toy - come and get me.
I have had several PM regarding taking the puppy back, not taking the puppy back as not the right place to take her back to and my mind is a jumble of what to do for the best. Puppy is extremely nervous and jumps at everthing and although she gets upset if I leave the room - howls and cries pittifully, when I come back she comes running with waggy tail and although I crouch down to her she freezes, although she clearly wants contact. Last night she was quiet for the first time overnight.
What to do?????????? Is it possible that I can get her through this as I can see lots of issues that need to be dealt with? Lead walking, going outside anyway, she runs in if a pigeon coo's, car travel, meeting new dogs and people etc. I can also see a potenial lovely girl at the other side, given half a chance.
I am going to have to make up my mind before morning as I am reluctant to return her because I am sure that one of her agression problems may have stemmed from being shy and nervous in a housefull of many adult dogs and maturing puppies who may have bullied her and therefore the agression is of a nervous nature. Second reason is that she will put this puppy back up for sale and the poor little soul will have to go through this again, maybe several times.
I know that she is going to do this as my daughter contacted her yesterday after she agreed to take puppy back, re-advert and was told that she had 2 x 4 month old puppies not registered and one 6 month old girl KC reg(this one)
My own older girl is so outgoing and confident and happy go lucky that maybe she would be a big help towards giving this little one confidence - I don't know, perhaps clutching at straws.
It may be that if I contact the breeder again and suggest I keep her for a futher week to see how she progresses, she will agree to this, but if she does agree and it does not work out, I will feel dreadful to return her after nearly two weeks as this will not only upset me (trying not to get attached, but it is not working) but seems a cruel way to treat this little girl.
Someone please help me to get my head around this and make the right decision for both dogs and me.