okay this maybe a bit sensitive but i need to ask lol. i was showing my bitch for 3yrs (i withdrew her recently to plan a litter) and in that time, alot in my breed have been very helpfull giving advise which has been wonderfull :) so i went off last year and gets myself a dog puppy, just happens that this breeder wanted a show home so it suited me just right. between bringing this dog out at six mths until now, (hes 18mths now) all those who helped me now longer dont and dont really speak to me?? even hubby says they are always staring at him. and all those who never spoke to me now do??!!
biased i know he is a smart dog is it the competition? my breeders are pensioners and were gobsmacked at what i was saying. wondering if you other folks get this?
your thoughts please

If you bought your male from a different line to the bitch then yes, it happens. :-) A lot :-D It is mainly, IMHO, a thought of 'how dare you go there, aren't mine good enough for you?' So it is partly jealousy, partly competition. There is also the cliques in breeds. If you start off in one camp you are not expected to go to another one for a new puppy. Even if the lines are similar.

Are you winning with him? Sadly they may be jealous. The true friends will still have time for you whether your dogs are from their lines or whether you are beating them or not!

Often newcomers with just an average dog will get lost of help as they aren't viewed as serious competition until they get better at showing their dogs or get a better dog. 

Then depending on the sort of person some may be jealous and less friendly than they were.  So take it as a compliment. 

As already said the genuine majority will still be there.

Try as far as you can to ignore the cliques, and not allow yourself to be pigeon holed do your own thing, and be even handed.  You will eventually gain more respect that way.

lol thanks, its not putting me off showing its just that it doesnt seem to be getting any better! at one champ i arrived late, it was grab the dog from the car and run to the ring. lucky judging was delayed and i was kindly offered a table to brush my dog on, but wait for it..... only if i wasnt in the same class as them!
so far ive got or the dog has a couple of best pups and recently an rcc.

Well that is pretty good going for a newbie,s o a bit of green eyed monster. 

Of course the comments may have been meant half tongue in cheek, definitely a compliment if you have competitors rattled, LOL.

does it matter if i dont add my kennel name to his name as im not really bothered, i think you get 30 days - something like that.

its more for bitches isnt it

Well it is nice to have your affix on a dog you own. 

You can only add it before the dog wins into the stud book, or within a short time after it qualifies.

okay thankyou

> lucky judging was delayed and i was kindly offered a table to brush my dog on, but wait for it..... only if i wasnt in the same class as them!

That wasn't necessarily because that person didn't want to help you out if you were their competition. If you were in the same class as them, you would both be wanting to get your dogs ready on the grooming table at the same time.

> Try as far as you can to ignore the cliques, and not allow yourself to be pigeon holed do your own thing, and be even handed.  You will eventually gain more respect that way.

And this is excellent advise to listen to!

> all those who helped me now longer dont and dont really speak to me?? even hubby says they are always staring at him.

What ever their reason for behaving in this way is not acceptable in my eyes. Its a form of bullying, to which i abore.. I know it happens a lot, most of the time the person has no idea why others are being funny or ignoring them either. If someone has an issue why not pull you aside and speak and discuss!!
Childish school ground behaviour, not easy to deal with when your still learning the ropes either..

You hear far too much bitching going on and the worst part soo many people do it within ear shot of the person they are taking about - not nice...:-(

Chin up and try and ignore them as best you can, if you need to bitch, do with your hubby on the way home :-)

Wow well done, afraid it defo sounds like jealousy, find some better friends who don't care if you're beating them or not! I have friends who I usually beat, and friends who usually beat me, it doesn't matter to our friendship. Re adding your affix, I have done it on most of mine, Henry didn't have it but that's because he got a CC long before I really started thinking of getting an affix so I couldn't add it. He was still my special boy though!