
It sounds to me from the symptoms & what your vet has suggested very much like she has an ectopic ureter. If that's the case - unfortunately she will need surgery. Which would be a very expensive operation or 2 (depending if it's a bilateral ectopic ureter).
I've seen pups with this that have been operated on & sometimes they are completely dry afterwards with no problems at all. Others will have slight incontinence which can usually be controlled with propalin drops or similar.
In the short term to make her more comfortable try & get some hibiscrub from your vet or a chemist & clean her vulva & surrounding area several times a day. Then put on some sudocrem to soothe if it's sore.