Some of you may remember me posting about my then 17 year old daughter telling me she was pregnant...
Id like to thank you all for your kind messages (i know im late in thanking you.. it was ages ago now) and for the p.m's telling me it wasnt the end of the world etc
You were right!
My grandaughter will hopefully be with us for xmas...
I still feel worried, and a bit edgy as im verging on the unknown.. But im sure things will be ok

Thank you all
Donna xx
(and my boysxx)

Things will be great, when you get to hold your new, tiny, little grandaughter I'm sure the love you'll feel for her will overshadow all the worry :)

I'm sure you will be fine. Just remember that you are now the Nan/Gran/Grandma  so enjoy the good bits and remember to let your daughter deal with it on her own.
I know of someone who had a baby at a young age and found her Mum tried to take over a little too much. Thats not saying you will, but something to bear in mind. Its important your daughter deals with the good and bad stuff and learns from her mistkes.

What a christmas present- a baby grandaughter. Hope it all goes well
xxx

When I was a teenager (some 20 - OMG was it really that long ago - years ago) that was drummed into me as being the worst thing that could happen.  Nowadays we've all realised that there are much worse things that can happen and the girls who find themselves in this position have much more help and support.  Your daughter's lucky to have you by her side to help and once you see your little granddaughter, you'll be completely head over heels in love and nothing else will matter.

Best wishes to your daughter who must be terrified about what's going to happen to her (I was and I'm several years older).

Keep us posted.

Simone x

Thank you x

I have no intention of taking over... ive not picked a thing apart from the steriliser (but thats because it was on offer and to good a bargain to miss)
I am also paying for the cot and keep asking her to pick one...she wants me to... but i keep saying 'your baby, your choice...
Plus im far far too busy to take over... work, dog walking, cleaning etc etc

However a little part of me is looking forward to seeing the baby, but a part of me is really worried about her being in pain etc etc, she also wants me there at the birth and id rather not be... Im happy to pace the hospital coridor!

Donna x
(and my boysxx)

Hi Donna,

a granddaughtr for Christmas sounds like the best present ever :)  Fantastic news and I'm so happy that things have gone well for your daughter's pregnancy and that you're 'in a better place now' than the initial (very natural) emotional roller coaster of before.

Many blessings on you all - any new baby has every family member edgy and worried but the joy of their arrival is unsurpassed by anything else.

Very best wishes to you, your daughter and the bump :-p
Teri

part of me is really worried about her being in pain

One word EPIDURAL!  Wonderful things.  I couldn't have done it without one.  As I told my cousin, there's no awards for bravery!  I took everything I could get to make it easier and I wouldn't have had it any other way as I'm a complete woose when it comes to being in pain.

Donna it is brilliant news that you are going to have a little Grandaughter for Christmas.
I understand completley about you not wanting your daughter to go throught the pain of childbirth, it comes with being a Mum, and no amount of people saying 'don't worry' will stop you from worrying, it is your job :)  When my daughter was in labour I was a nervous wreck, but like childbirth itself you will forget all about that as soon as you hold the little darling believe me :)

You are in for some wonderful times, and you sound as if you have the balance of not interfering but supporting your daughter exactly right.
At one stage my daughter asked me to be at the birth and I thought the same as you, (prefer to wait outside) but didn't say that to her.  In the end she decided it would be her husband with her and didn't want me there.  But at the time when she was in labour I would have done anything to be with her so I think whatever you and your daughter decide you will be fine.

Just enjoy it, what a Christmas you will have wow :) :) :)

Congrats!  Have fun with your daughter, and your grandchild.  Spoil lots, and love lots. 

Glad to hear, that your getting on better now.  (((((hugs)))))

Thank you all for your kind words.. Im sure everything will be fine.
Time will tell!
(im sure you will be hearing my rants, if it isnt ;) )

Simone (earl) my daughter is determined not to have an epidural and just wants gas and air.. but we'll see! That can all change when contractions start...I will be using the phrase 'there is no awards for bravery' so thamks for that! x

Perry
Yes is shall be an exciting time... just hope i get to eat my xmas dinner first.. otherwise paddy will be in for a treat! x

Crespin... thank you.. things are ok... i still have my moments... but thats understandable bless you x

Donna x
(and my boysxx)

AWwww congrats, I bet you are so proud!!  :-D

Congratulations, looking forward to hearing when baby is born, its great having a new baby to cuddle and cherish, my granddaughter is due on 15th January with her 2nd girl, so looking forward to a new baby in the family ourselves.

A very wise old lady (my Grandma) used to say to me that "every baby arrives for a reason, despite circumstances!"  you'll find that out soon enough though!

Also, just wanted to say that I used to work with young girls that were either pregnant or had babies, and for the vast majority of those girls the sense of purpose, ambition and real desire to better themselves for the sake of their children was extremely admirable.

And that's you now peaked to the best job in the world anyway, kids always love their grandparents!!

>One word EPIDURAL!  Wonderful things.

Hmm, although it was great at the time I now have severe back pain. The first thing my doctor asked was had I had one? The problems I have now were probably caused by this injection. If she can do without an epidural then I say good on her. Only use it as a last resort.

I now have two wonderful grandchildren, both born out of wedlock (as they say ;-) ) and wouldn't be without either of them.

> ...........that was drummed into me as being the worst thing that could happen.  Nowadays we've all realised that there are much worse things that can happen..........

My thoughts exactly. :-)
IME teen mums often step up to the mark and flourish with the responsibility and love a baby brings. I'm not saying it'll always be easy but it's going to be a lovely happy time for you all.

I'm very jealous of your daughter's new Christmas arrival. Maybe Father Christmas will leave a baby under the gooseberry bush for me. Not sure my OH would approve though - he seems to think 4 is enough! :-D

GLAD THAT ALL IS GOING OKAY.
HOPE ALL GOES WELL WITH THE ARRIVAL ETC.
XX

Hiya
thanks for all the positive messages... its nice to know that not everyone thinks its the worse thing ever!

My wicked step mother thinks my daughter should move out and get a 'place' of her own!!! (I DONT!) she also thinks the baby should be in her own room from day one... (i dont) sorry when i dont i mean me and chanelle (my daughter) dont...
However she is an interfering old busy body who actually 'told' chanelle to have a termination... just as she told me 18 tears ago...

I'll keep you posted

Donna x
(and my boysxx)

It doesn't matter what age you are when you are pregnant with your fist child, people insist on giving advice weather you want to hear it or not!!

I was 20 when I was pregnant with my first, I've always had lovely long nails and I got fed up of being told to cut them off by my OH's gran - 'you could have your babies eye out with those' - GRRRRRR!. I learnt to nod and not get into arguements about it as I realised I'd have unwanted advice forever! (incedently, I never cut my nails and I never scratched my babies with them, LOL).

It's great that your daughter wants to stay with you and that you are happy to have her there, it will be good support for her and piece of mind for you as you can see how shes coping :)

It must be very exiting for you, with the birth getting closer and closer :)

It's getting so close now, my love and best wishes for you all.
I love getting to hear all the advise, and thank all for the ideas.......Wouldn't be possible to follow it all.!

Karen ;)

There is nothing as wonderful as new life, no matter what the circumstances, she'll be the best Christmas present ever, have you started knitting little pink cardies and blankets yet?

I am sure your daughter will be fine, I know its a lot of work cause I had my first at 18 but I had no help, I was on my own since a lil before I turned 16. I would help a lil bit but in the long run def make her do everything for her baby. The hardest was not able to go out all the time with friends cause I couldn't afford a sitter and sometimes I had a friend that would sit for me and tell me to go out lol My sis had her first at 17 and I helped her out alot I knew alot about babies cause I looked after my bro when he was born and I was 9, the only thing I didn't do was make formula.

Congrats and I hope she has a fast labour and a healthy baby (((hugs))) and all the best :-)

I totally agree with having baby in the same room- I did until they were about 2-3 months old, even tho their room was right next to mine lol

god thats come fast hasn't it? i remember your original thread. best of luck to your daughter and calming thoughts for you :) (and a poke in the eye for the nasty old one lol).

i know what you mean about christmas dinner though lol my nephew was imminant through my graduation and i kept telling my sis to cross her legs :)

this time next christmas you'll have a toddler about- its delightful, you'll love it.

praying for a fast and smooth labour.

has your daughter got any names yet?

Now a baby for Christmas is a good thing. :) A good friend had his daughter when he just turned 18. He always swore it was the best time to have children - he was only 36 when she became an adult. :) So, there are pros and cons in every action. Why not focus on the positive. I hope all continues to go well and am looking forward to the big announcement on our newest member of CD! :-D

> A good friend had his daughter when he just turned 18. He always swore it was the best time to have children - he was only 36 when she became an adult.

i think thats a good way to see it- how many folk today get to meet great grandparent etc? or have a grandparent who is fit enough to run about after them as a kid? having your kids young and(dear lord! :)) out of wedlock really is not such an issue now

It has came around very quick.. i cannot believe she is motivated enough to be still at college everyday determined to make a better life for herself and the baby.. she certainly has grown up very quickly!
Im almost certaint eh baby will be called Daisy unless knowing chanelle changes it at the last minute!

So in our house, its not countdown to xmas its countdown to baby time... im enjoying the peace and quiet while i can... thats when paddy allows me to!

Thanks again all, you have made entertaining reading plus good advice

Donna x
(and my boysxx)

aww, daisy is lovely :)

> i cannot believe she is motivated enough to be still at college everyday determined to make a better life for herself and the baby

lol, i shall smugly say i told ya :) as i said when you first mentioned this it does seem to give new mums a real drive to succeed. best of luck with it all :)

Awwwwww, I remember that point where I was not waiting for Xmas but waiting for my son to be born, due 19th December. Arrived new years eve nearly 10 years ago LOL
Its not all that bad havig kids young.
I was 2 weeks off my 18th birthdy when I had James, and 21 when I had Sam.
By the time I am 40 James will be 22 and Sam 19.
THEN I will be able to have a life :) :)
I would never advocate people to have children young, as it has been very hard and I missed out on so much of my 'fun years' And would always encourage people to wait (trying to do that to my ex 'step daughter' who is only about 15 and wants a child :o :o ) But what is done is done and it is great that she has a mum to support her :) :) :)
Lea :) :)

Sounds like she is being a very sensible young girl and is lucky to have her family to help support her. Is babys dad on the scene?

Hi Donna,

It sounds like Chanelle is determined to do the best she can for her baby which is fantastic. I wish her (and you) all the best. It must be such an exciting time! I am so broody at the moment, one of my friends has just had the most gorgeous little girl, I held her last week and fell in love. My OH and I are going to wait a few years before we start a family, but people always say to me that there's never a right time to start a family.

I'm sure Chanelle and the baby will do really well, especially with such strong support from her family. You will have to keep us all updated! By the way, I really hope she does call the baby Daisy, that's what I'm going to call my little girl if I have one! :-)

Its lovely to see so many positive comments...
Chanelle is def calling her 'daisy' so as chanelle pointed out 21 days and counting...

Freds mum.. yep the dad is still on the scene and has done a brilliant job of providing for both chanelle and the baby. :)

So now its 'sit back and wait'

Donna x
(and my boysxx)

Sounds like the shock is well and truely gone ;)  Good luck to yourself and your daughter.  It's nice to hear that the father i still on th scene.  Hopefully everything will go smoothly and I wish you and chanelle the best of luck. :)

So now its 'sit back and wait'

Enjoy it while you can :)

Love the name Daisy, but what about Holly?

I also like 'holly' as its more christmasy... my husbands neice is called holly tho... so decieded against that one very early on...

Donna x
(and my boysxx)

Just to let you know the baby has still NOT arrived... Chanelle has gone shopping!

Happy new year all

Donna x
(and my boysxx)

Oooo.....could be a NYE baby then! :-)

I'm sure baby wont keep you waiting too much longer.
Happy New Year
xx