Don't they have "pen names" my two have always used them so i have to goggle Dilarus or Antigone, whatever. I do note I am on their facebook as a friend so thats ok and I keep in touch with Sam on line now. When he needs something he sends me his link address so I can wave the cheque book!!! My two do not use their real names they say its too risky.

They will always remain my greatest achievement, love them to bits.

i totally agree
my eldest daughter Chiara went upstairs and came down with her eyebrow pierced! then came her belly button and then her togue which thankfully she had done properly
my 17 year old daughter Tiffany  has had a lovely tattoo done on her back i cant really shout as i have my fellas name in Japanese down my spine.. and to be honest as she now has her own place and is a very good stepmum i cant shout..........

Ive got two piercings in each ear so I can wear 2 pairs at once. Now my idea of rebellion is blue or black nail varnish on my toes. I would like a tat my step daughters have them and my best friend but I am chicken....
I love it sometimes when the boys say "Mum your'e wierd" glad I can still shock them a bit.
How did you deal with drugs? the village we were in had a problem so i told the boys if they wanted to try some I would get some and they could try it at home!! that got me a wierd comment as well, they never took me up on it. When i was younger we all had a puff scared me half to death as i could not drive home I thought I was doing 80 and I was doing about 30, sat up all night till my head stopped fuzzing... Would never drink & drive now but as a young women i did. I cringe about what i did now, I was so irresponsible. When you are younger you never think about what you could do to others not only yourself..

To be honest drugs have never been an issue
i have never touched them
we used to live in a town full of druggies however the kids were younger so they didnt go out much or come into contact with it
and now thanks to Amy winehouse i dont have to tell ben not to take them..he hates her so much and thinks that she will die from drugs
he constantly says that she is supposed to be his role model ......

You are lucky we all three of us were around drugs a lot. We all tried the stuff it went along with the group we were with. Both my brothers used a bit I tried it once and hated it so no more. One of my cousins progressed to heroin. My boys haven't (I dont think) they do not smoke. But in our village it was and is rife. My friends had sons same age as mine and took the same stance as I did, all 4 boys are now out of the area as such, we moved about 5 years ago and Ben left home last Oct, Sam the previous Sept for Kent.
I think the biggest decision I had to make was to support Sam having a motorbike as my younger brother was killed at 19 on one. I took a motorbike across the Sahara once!! Sam has a 650 Suzuki now and it has given him freedom in Kent and he can travel for a part time job. Ben will not drive he is the mountain bike king, but both have GF with car's.
I felt that a bike is safe if the boy is trained and my younger brother took Sam out and rode with him and brought him his leathers so he would be safe. Kev & I are really close cause we lost Martin when we were 17 and 21.

i loved bikes when i was younger and ben wants to do motocross!!!
he went with me and dave to watch my friends son who is a champion at it and got hooked..

when we went to Donnington race track the other week he was wetting himself watching Valentino Rossi
he got to meet him and i thought he would faint.........(ben not valentino)
i prefer casey stoner though.....

i am sorry about your brother i lost a good friend in a motorbike crash in 1987

> these sites you just dont know who your talking to

er... yes you do. you can make your page private and for anyone to message you you need to accept them. it shows you their email address and username etc so you can tell if you know them.

Although that's true it's very difficult to always be sure - especially for kids. My two teenage daughters use Beebo. I had talked to them about privacy settings and only ever 'accepting' people that they are sure they know and I always keep an eye on what they're doing - but we still got caught out. My second eldest and her friends seem to collect and swap 'contacts' like I collected stickers when I was little. She assured me she knew everyone on her list - but in fact she didn't. The first I knew of it was when the police contacted me to say my daughter's (and other girls) details had been found on a spreadsheet on a PC belonging to a man convicted of grooming underage girls on the internet. He was posing as a 14yr old girl and police told me he had talked online to my daughter on at least two occassions. We're lucky it didn't go any further as Police told me his MO is to become sexually explicit, suggesting webcams before finally asking to meet. My daughter thought it was her friends sister she was talking to - he convinced her that's who he was. These people are extremely clever at what they do and use a variety of ways of getting new contacts. These contacts are then shared with other paedophiles.

I must admit that my first reaction was to ban Beebo/MSN etc. and I deleted my Facebook too and asked family to remove any pics of my kids they had posted onto their Facebook pages. I am now considering letting her have Beebo again but she will only be allowed around 10 contacts so that I can easily verify each one. I know she finds it hard being the only one in her tutor not on Beebo (not exaggerating!) but the Police told me that banning her could mean she just sets one up at a friends house or at school, and then I'll have no way of monitoring what she's doing and who she's talking to. Unfortunately these social networking websites are part of our childrens culture so it's difficult to avoid altogether. I don't blame anyone for trying to protect their kids though - we all just do what we think is right at the time. Children should come with a manual - especially teenagers!

Thats terrible I think we have a real problem with protecting our kids and scareing them  with too much detail on how dangerous it can be out there. I am soo soo pleased I have grown up boys now. I do not envy you out there with youngsters.

god thats awful, what a sicko. but it sounds like you've accepted that this is very unusual and the police were right, if you ban it she'll still find a way. it must have been scary though.

i think bebo is great, personally i use it to keep in touch with friends from school who moved away to different uni's, my cousins who live quite far from me, my friend that moved to abu dhabi etc. its really useful for keeping in touch.

given the age of the op's daughter shes about to enter a stage of her school career where she and her friends start getting split up by the choices they make- different classes, sixth form colleges, leaving school etc. i drifted from a lot of my friends because of these things but since the creation of bebo i've managed to get in touch.

yes definately keep an eye on things, and she should certainly punnish for the lying, but its a good thing really!

I notice a few of you are on Bebo.This is the main site my son goes on,and it does sloooow our computer right down after he's been using it.

Another question.my daughter(16) doesnt use bebo as she says it's for younger kids,i cant tell just by looking at it.For thosde of you who use it,why would she think it's for the youngsters?

some people think bebo is a bit chavvy and facebook is a bit more upmarket.  i guess it depends who you speak to.
(Chavvy Ali with a bebo page) ;)

chavvy chelle with a bebo page!
sophisticated chelle on a sunday with facebook.......
intelligent chelle with a myspace account.....

how could I forget myspace - the cool outsider!  Obviously I have got one of them too ;)

Do you become sophisticated Michelle - using your sunday name with your sunday facebook shenanigans? ;)

lol
i become Michele Louise on a sunday incase my mother arrives for a cup of tea in my best china!!(a mug with a picture of Bejing on it)

lol - took me 2 reads to get that one!

lol
i have had a posh haircut today my fella paid for it to celebrate 8months without a ciggie!!
i am ready to welcome all visitors on sunday......yah!!! i only have one china cup so please form an orderly queue behind jeeves!!!!

dunno, i'm 23. i'm not on it all the time like others, in fact i hardly ever am but my friends (ranging from 18 to 30) are all on it. only person i know who has not succumbed is my bf lol