ok, so so its that horrible time of year when everything turns red and tacky... yes, its valentines.

as i am spending my first valentines day in a LONG time as a coupled up person i am now free to rant without being chasitised and told "you just don;t like it cause your single!"

actually, no. i just don't like it.

reasons as follows:

1) its just so tacky! really it is! you know it!

2) it;s a capitalist cash in on peoples emotions

3) it makes many single people feel bloody miserable and causes more fights for couples than i believe anything else

4) it makes my work day horrible (busy busy with grumpy people phoning to complain about flowers being horrid etc)

5) why do you need a special day to be nice to the person you love? you should be nice all the time (failing that anniversaries- relationsships are hard work and getting through another year deserves being noted). my example, my boyfriend is missing the football, spending a fortune and will probably be bored senseless taking me to crufts- a tacky card will not say "i love you" any more sincerely than that.

so... i am opting to boycott valentines day and ask all you sensible champdoggers to join me. everyone have a wee rant with me and add your reasons for disliking this most tacky of hallmark holidays.

;)

I suppose I am one of those grumpy singles :D  I don't think I count as I have been single a very long time (18 years in fact).

I don't like any of these commercial dates, including Mothers day, Fathers day etc.  For the same reasons you give above.

All these people have birthdays or special, anniversaries of their own, and of course should be treated to surprise gifts and tokens of appreciation at any time.

yep, quite agree, though i do mothers day (37 hours of labour and a c-section, least i can do is get her some flowers) and so do fathers day to be fair lol

Im feeling the same way, however, i do thinks its because im bitter at being single! last year was my first valentines day that i was coupled up and even though i didnt want my boyfriend (ex now) to go overboard, i was really excited about being taken out for a lovely meal and getting a card from him. i think this was because i hadnt ever known what it was like to be part of a couple on valentines day. however, this year now that im single, ive turned into a right scrooge again, and all the red love hearts everywhere is just doing my head in. i was the same last christmas. i do think it makes a difference to people if u are spending the day with someone you love and loves you, but i would never expect someone to spend a fortune on pressies or anything coz i do think thats silly. oh well i guess i will have to come on here tomorrow and see who else is lonely and single on valentines day lol

becky x x

I've never seen the point of it and realy can't be botherd with it.  This will be my 3rd valentines day with a partner and we arn't even seeing eachother!  I'm at uni during the day and have work till 10pm.  He will be working during the day and won't really fancie driving all the way here just for one night.

Had a lovely relaxing weekend last weekend.  I'm working this sunday so won't see him then either!

I've decided I'm going to treat myself to a DVD, housemates (one single, one also in LDR) and open a botle of wine! :D

Will never go out for an meal on feb 14th as it's not worth paying extra to hear other couples row! :D

>Will never go out for an meal on feb 14th as it's not worth paying extra to hear other couples row!<

I don't know - it could be more interesting than the soaps!!

I'll join in with the valentines boycott, I'm not single but i think it's a load of old rubbish. I agree with number 5 on Astarte's list, there are so many ways to show love than buying a card and flowers, thingsl ike my OH got up early this morning and de-iced my car so it wasn't cold when I got into it - which I thought was really lovely, but then some mornings I get up a bit earlier and will make him a bit of lucnh and leave it in the fridge for him (he works from home) I think those are the kind of things that show real love, not tacky plastic hearts and expensive meals :-)

Claire

Crikey - I've just read that back and I'm neither soppy nor grumpy nor stingy - honest :-D

We normally wait until the following weekend to go out for a meal and OH send me flowers :-) He normally gets lovely bouquets for half price from the local florist as they normal make up too many :-p

Valentines Day is such bull.  I hate the holiday - if you can even count it as one.  Ok yes, I am single, but I think we put to much into the whole "Does he really love me a lot"  because more couples fight over what the other decided to get them, or where they are going to supper, I cant even be bothered.  

Been hooked a couple valentines days, and didnt enjoy them at all.  To much worry warting about trying to get everything done in time.  And then, we both ended up staying in, and eating Chicken Noodle Soup since we were sick.  (Ok, I actually did like that one, but the whole planning up to Valentines, and then it not working out, really bit.)

I am very happily married to my soulmate yet we have never felt the need to celebrate valentines day. Just another commercial "special" day! :-)

I'm single and am working in a restaurant tomorrow night, oh what fun. 
Mary

http://www.history.com/minisites/valentine/

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Ah well, standing alone (as usual :) ) I love Valentines day ...we don't go overboard but Stephen will cook me a meal tomorrow night and we will exchange a card and a small gift

:)

Don't get me wrong I do get a night off and my hubby cooks me a lovely meal but no pressies! I am the same about mothers day, fathers day etc etc its nice to have a nice meal maybe even a card but I wouldn't like to spend alot of money on a day that really is there to make us spend more money. ;-)

ditto with the whole tacky thing.

My OH and i have been together for nearly 20 years and married for 13 in June. (mostly happly)
We dont do the gift and card thing as we would sooner spend the money on the dogs.
Doesn't mean we dont love each other as being together for 20 years proves we do, we just dont need a "spcieal day" to tell each other we care.

Just been to Tesco's for bandages for Lastar, don't ask!!  You should of seen the men in there getting cards and horrible flowers, made me puke.  Oh and no I'm not jealous one bit, I've always been single and the few times I've had valentines presents they've nearly made me want to be ill too!!

I dont mind Valentines Day but hubby and me have never bought each other flowers/gifts etc for it.  We tend to buy little gifts etc as surprises throughout the year.  We did go out one Valentines for a meal (BIL and SIL arranged the meal as a surpise for both of us - son was 7 weeks old) and hated every minute of it.  We were packed into the restaurant like sardines and the tables were so close together I could eat from the plate on the table next to us and we all could hear what everyone was talking about.  It was horrible and embarrassing for everyone.

We usually put the children to bed and then cook a nice meal between us with a bottle of wine etc.  We buy each other a card (or handmade this year!) but thats all.  However, St Valentine usually vists our house and leaves some little sweets on the doorstep for the children (something that my parents/grandparents did when I was young).

oh god mary, my thoughts will be with you!

I think that Valentines day is at it's best, when you are receiving cards and flowers from an admirer, (early teens etc.) it is the excitement of who you think it is and the fact that someone has a crush on you, that is the whole point of not putting your name on the card, and when really young is very exciting..................I used to love it! :-D

When you have a partner/husband/wife it is then just romantic, but if your other half is always romantic, Valentines just for me turned into an extra Birthday. :-) And once settled/married very rarely do you then get more than one card, those secret admires suddenly disappear. :-)

Hubby and I still buy each other a card, but it doesn't mean anything anymore, and I have to say I do look at everyone rushing to get their cards, thinking why are we all doing this. I thought it was just my age and length of marriage that made me feel like that. I could quite happily miss it out now.

I'm shocked at your age, you have already sussed it out and lost the romance of Valentines, it took me until I got to over 40 to do that! :-D

i never found the notion romantic to be honest... i;ve never been into cards, i don;t see the point in killing a tree to say something when you can just say it. theres no doubt that theres always that hope when your a teenager (lol and the crushing disappointment) but nah. i'd rather have something specific to me done thanks- like i really like these white chocolate biscuit dip thingys, you can only buy then in a couple of shops round here. my bf bought me one specially cause i was having a horrid day. cheap as chips but very touching.

I am just glad to have my husband here for once as he is usually either away on tour somewhere or on excercise or on a course. This will be the first valentines day that we have spent together in the 6 years we have been married and the 2nd one in the 9 years we have been together. Not got anything planned though as to be honest I'm not really into it that much.

Now you mention it Cali2, i think this Valentines will be the last one for a while that we will see each other. :(.  My hubby due to go to Afghanistan in the late summer/beginning of Autumn.  We have been lucky in 11 years and the only thing he has missed was Christmas morning a couple of years ago. 

We have been lucky so far that he has always been home for christmas :)

I got married on Valentines day 1997, 11 years of marriage, OH has the day off tomorrow, making up for being away last year for our 10th Anniversary!
He has chosen the wrong time to give up smoking though as he is very grumpy today, we have just had a row and are in separate rooms for the evening, Oh joy!

Valentines day is the birthday of my best friend Tracey, who died from an asthma attack in November 1999. She was a 35 years old mother of 2 young girls and was so full of life, that she drove everyone who knew her quite mad. We were together every day then and were like sisters because neither of us had our families around,our kids were at school and life revolved around home.
All I know is, that I would give anything just to be able watch her and laugh at her choosing yet another Valentines card, for yet another new boyfriend, as I'd done so many times before.
I bet she's still looking!

spiritulist your maessage just reminded me.
On feb 14th 2002 a 17 year old mate died in a house fire :( :( :(
Hits me every year, but normally afterwards when I remember and feel guilty, but tonight I remebered and just looked at the article about her :( :(
RIP Kayti
Lea :)

oh and there was me thinking of proposing, well it is a leap year.....well dont think ill bother now! :)

Oh, don't let us sado's put you off!  Romance is still alive and kicking and Valentines is for those who wish to woo, I'm still for it in that way. I just don't need wooing anymore same as most on this post, so for us it is kinda pointless.

But Sam.............. for you, looks as though it's not.............. go for it! :-)

I`m not complaining, my hubby of 15 years walked in this morning with a red rose for me! :-)

I love Valentines Day :)

We don't go overboard but always exchange a nice card, a small gift and either go out for food or cook. Tonight I am surprising my husband by having a picnic at home with all his fave nibbles :)

Sam, isn't it Feb 29th women are supposed to propose?
If and when you do, let us know the outcome! (Bit nosey)
:-D :-D

Well I got a card this morning and have no idea who sent it, they spelt my surname wrong on the envelope.
Mary

My husband buys me flowers every week and tells me every day he loves me, so today is no different.  We don't bother with cards either, we've been married nearly 21 years and been together for 30 years.

> My husband buys me flowers every week and tells me every day he loves me, so today is no different.&nbsp; We don't bother with cards either, we've been married nearly 21 years and been together for 30 years.

see thats how its done