I have recently moved to Lincolnshire and live in the middle of nowhere.  We do have neighbours and the wife is like me a little overweight (well 5 stone is a little isn't it) and we have both decided that we must lose weight and are going to take up jogging or is that plodding round our area. I intend to start tonight but my neighbour hasn't got any trainers yet so it just me for now (has to be the evening as i work all day).  We both want to shut our husbands up as we are fed up with the comments of michelin man, norbot and fatso.  Thre will be no encouragment from either of the men just laughter as we set off.

Are all men like that or do some of you actually receive encouragement when attempting to lose weight.  Yes we know it's our fault in the beginning for eating to much (i am having a healty lunch smoked salmon & salad sandwich (reduced in Tesco's otherwise to expensive for me).

Sorry i'm just on a whinge fest but any words of weight loss wisdom would be appreciated.

  

I'm overweight and I have to say that if my husband EVER called me fatso he'd be out the door!

It's a matter of respect IMO.

Just do your thing and lose weight in whatever way you see fit.  If your husband is being childish and calling you names then I would tell him exactly how that makes you feel.  You are losing weight for YOURSELF not HIM!

If he insists on carrying on with the childish name calling then tell him you'll start treating him  like a child until he can show you he's now an adult ;)

Debs

If you are 5 stone overweight, you would do better by starting walking, at first, not jogging!  Your neighbour wouldn't need trainers for that....... just sensible shoes!  :)

Think it will probably have to be a mixture of walking quickly and jogging until some of the weight is shifted.

Thanks Deb I will certainly start to treat him like a little boy if he continues to make fun.

Val

I agree with the walking not jogging first off!  Speed walking is probably best as jogging if you are not used to it and don't warm up and cool down properly can be pretty traumatic on your knees and hips, especially as you are overweight.

I'm not overweight but like most ladies I can put a couple of pounds on here and there and lose it just as quickly, but my husband would not dream of making any awful comments and calling me names, I'd be very cross if he did, I think it would make me want to show them, after all I bet they are not in perfect shape either :rolleyes:

Totally agree. I'm currently trying to shift some weight and have been advised by both parents (both doctors) to be careful about exercising as the extra weight puts strain on your joints- you may actually do yourself more harm than good by jogging (injuries meaning you can't exercise). Try something low impact like power walking (you look silly but it REALLY works!) or if you don't feel too self conscious swimming is brilliant as it lets you really get going but your joints are cushioned. Also you're best to really cut the calories first and try losing a little bit of weight before implimenting the exercise routine. Plus with a weight like 5 stone you should make quick progress at first as the more overweight you are the faster it comes off to begin with but when it plateaus is when you have to persevere and not be disheartened. Maybe take a little trip to the GP just to make sure there's nothing that will stop you from exercising. Also try to speak to the nurse at the GPs office as they are great for giving you diet advice.

Other advice is:

Ignore what those rotten men are saying- you're doing an amazing thing by putting your health first and you WILL succeed.

Don't do any silly fad diets- the weight comes off quick but it also comes back on just as quick! Best method is to have three balanced meals a day (not massive portions though! If you have smaller plates that's a good tip to stop you eating too much... small portion on your plate, eat slowly and if you still feel hungry you can always have another smaller portion for seconds) and if you want to snack then try having some fruit for dessert. Also have a good breakfast and your lunch should be the biggest meal of the day as you're active during the day and are more likely to burn it off than having a big massive dinner. Try to aim for about 1500 calories a day. (Calorie counting is annoying but unfortunately it works...:rolleyes: Luckily food labels are much better now so you can count easier).

If you're craving something- DON'T DENY YOURSELF! It'll just make you crave it more... So have a little piece of what you fancy eg. If you're a chocolate freak like me then have a little bag of maltesers or a bueno as they're not too calorific. But stick to just the one!

Last one, give yourself little rewards (but not food rewards!) for each step you progress. So maybe you and your neighbour can have a pampering session when you've both lost 5lbs. That way you'll both help each other as you both have something to aim for and a reward when you make it.

Now go and show those silly boys that you mean business! Good luck!

Goodness, my husband would never say anything like it! I've gone up 2 sizes since I met him (and was NOT small to start with) but he has never complained and would never even think of it -but when I try to lose weight he's encouraging and helpful. Good on you for giving it a go!!

So glad i checked back here before i left work (have not got computer set up at home yet) i feel so much more positive now & i really appreciate your words of encouragement and advice.

Wow

My OH would never say anything like that! unless of course he wanted a divorce. ;-) Just think, when you're slim and looking a million pounds worth he'll be worried about you dumping him for a nicer guy :) Remember it's for you not for him.

My biggest tips for weight loss;
include weight training as well as aerobics, muscle burns more calories so you'll raise your metabolism
don't eat the same number of calories every day, mix things up and keep your body guessing
give yourself one day a week when you can eat anything and everything you want; honest, if you are sensible 6 out of every 7 days you'll lose weight and you won't be suffering from the total denial that will make you pack it all in
eat a balanced diet with enough protein, often in attempts to get rid of fat we eat carbo heavy diets. You need a balance, think lean meat the size of your hand and twice that amount of veg is a meal
do like yourself; self-loathing and name calling like fatso will make you reach for the chocolate

It will be a long slow course but you WILL get there! and you'll be very happy when you do. :-D

I agree with the others start walking first , and as for your husband tell him what goes around comes around and not be so rude

Agree with the walking first thing as its much much better to build up your muscles before attempting to go running! I can't believe your husband though, i would be mortified if my husband ever said that to me!

Do it for you not for him, as you start to lose the weight it will spur you on to lose more!

Dogs are fantastic for weight loss as you have to go and walk them even when you feel tired etc etc!:rolleyes:

Am reading this in utter astonishment, you mean to say you are both married to a handsome, svelt, muscle-rippling Adonis??  WOW, no wonder you feel the pressure :D :D :D :D

Good for you wanting to lose weight and doing something about it, but I think the men really need a reality check, I bet they're no nearer perfect figures than their women ;)  Good Luck in your venture and remember, whatever weight you are, you are wonderful. :D :D :D

I wish you all the best with your weight loss and the hard work in front of you - perhaps your OH could work on losing his unbelievable attitude at the same time :(

Don't have a hubby, but my Dad is simply horrid about overweight women.  He won't beleive there are actually more obese men, 1 in 4 to womens 1 in 5.

He thinks if he keeps on that I will loose weight again.  I did three years ago, but just coudln;'t keep it off for more than a year, lost 5 1/2 stone and put it all back.  Just can't get motivated to try again as it always seems that I go through all that only to not be able to keep it up once I get there.  I ahve doen this at least 3 times now in my adult life.

I have struggled all my life with excess weight, losing it, putting it back on, but I think at last that I have found something which is working for me. When I weighed in March I was 15st 8lb at 5'5" tall and today I weigh 11st 12lb, with a couple more stone to lose, which I am confident that I can achieve.

What has made the biggest difference to me this time, well here goes:

* I no longer weigh myself constantly, just once a month, so I avoid all those negative feelings when the scales show me that I haven't lost anything since yesterday or I weigh a 1lb more than last week. Monthly weighing will show you a good, real, weight loss.
* I exercise regularly at my local gym. At the start it was difficult, so I tended to stick with swimming and walking on the treadmill, but now I can do 2 hours of aerobic type classes 5 days week.
* I know that to burn 150 calories, I wll have to exercise hard for 10 minutes, and this has acted as a great incentive to avoid empty calories.
* I have kept a pair of trousers that fitted me at the start of my diet and when I want re-assurance that I am thinner, I put them on !!
* I avoid anything sweet at mealtimes, so no pudding, cakes, desserts etc, but if I have a craving for chocolate or whatever then I allow myself to eat it, I am NOT on a diet. Knowing that I can eat something if I really want to means that I don't feel deprived.

Anyway, you have taken the first step, by deciding to do something about your weight, but take on board the comments about joint damage, as you will be more susceptible initially. If you can get to a swimming pool, then maybe you could incorporate swimming in to your routine.
Good luck xx

Bedruthen - thats wonderful - well done !.

Fantastic bedruthen, well done!  I like the 150 calorie tip by the way, I may remember that one myself.

I also agree with not denying yourself something if you're really craving it - though I do hold myself an exception to that.  I'm like the alcoholic of the sugar world - I simply can't eat it, it's like a drug to my system.  One tiny bit and I won't have a chocolate bar - I'll have a three, four, five day, sometimes week or two long binge of sugary foods and feel awful at the end of it - and it happenes every time, no matter how little the sugar.  The cravings are just too strong - and I have considerable willpower!

So absolutely, don't deny yourselves everyone - I wish I could join you! :p

Good luck fluffydog, we all know you can do it :)

Sadly I am like you with sugar and carbs, I am a binger, cope better with total exclusion.

Lori - I agree with you 100% !.

I'm not hugely overweight, a stone maybe, but have been feeling increasingly bloated, uncomfortable and the lbs had crept on without me really noticing.
I go to the gym anyway but although I'm fairly fit the weight wasn't moving.
With diet and exercise advice from the staff, in 5 weeks I have lost 10lbs. The first few days were tough (I decided to go all out and pack in coffee.....was having too much anyway) but after that I haven't looked back. I've had nothing but fresh meat, veg, fruit (no precessed/packaged foods). I've been making sure I snack healthily between meals, always have carbs & protein together, drinking about 6 pints of water a day and NO WHEAT. Almost immediately the bloating went (no more bread for me !). I'm full of energy and when I sleep at night I sleep well.
They advised plenty of weight training and its paying off.
Even my husband has lost weight, just through the healthier food.
I will start to add a few treats here and there but I really feel that I have educated myself. No fad diets in the future.....just healthy food, plenty of water and as much exercise as I can fit in.

My hubby would never make such comments to me about weight. He loves and respects me to much. I can't understand why some men have a dig when they are very often lacking themselves. but we accept them as they are. :rolleyes:

Some really useful comments made re weight loss, some i will certainly use myself. :) Its amazing the useful tips, quite simple, that you don't think of till someone else mentions them! As to exercise, a bike or static exercise bike is useful, little at a time, it carries your weight yet you exercise well. same as a rowing machine. Another thing, sometimes your body cannot tell the difference between being hungry or thirsty, so a drink can sometimes make you feel satisfied.

i dont think my husband is brave enough to make such comments!!!!!!!!!

I too have struggled with my weight for most my adult life.
The weight is on off on off on off on off on .......................
good luck and keep us informed, we can provide support for you. Maybe i  could take a leaf out of your book and give it another go!
good luck x

Thanks everyone i will bore you with the weight loss (notice positive attitude of there will be weight loss).

I went power walking last night (thanks Salukipupup) on my own as my neighbour said she was too tired.  Husband actually showed a bit of concern about me going out on my own although of course he did laugh when i set off and said it would be a five minute wonder but i ignored him.

Everyone on the site has really given me great ideas and i will keep rereading all your advice and good wishes as it is a source of inspiration for me.

Perhaps we could have a champdogs weight loss club?

would be a five minute wonder but i ignored him.

Good thing to do! And, when the weight comes off, you can give him a 'I told you so'! Just remember, you will be exercising, so don't take so much notice of the scales because muscle weighs more than fat. If you have an item of clothes which is tight at the moment, use that to see how your shape is changing. When they are loose, find something else! I find this more of a motivator than the scales. Good luck! :)

Yeah!!!! Good for you for going out on your own. I've never found a workout buddy that worked as reliably as I did so good for you for taking the initiative.

As for clubs I think we need a fluffydog husband bum kicking club! and you're more than welcome to show him these posts. Doesn't matter what shape he's in I wouldn't give him the time of day. He's lucky to have you. :-D So who's up for the first meeting of the FHBKC! ;-) I reckon we could keep it up a lot longer than 5 minutes. LOL :-D

Thanks Lori you've really made my day.

Can i just say all members welcome!!!!

Have got a really tight pair of trousers that just about does up - i will use them as a measure.

http://i172.photobucket.com/albums/w29/lesley8162/men%20v%20women/menandwomen.jpg

LOL @ that Lesley, so true!

i think its terrible that your husband calls you names like that.

Mine would never do such a thing as (a) he is not brave enough and (b) he respects me too much!

However we can't all be married to Brad Pitt, you must be really lucky!!! lol

i am nearly 7 stone overweight, i was just under 10. I joined weight watchers bout 3 months ago have lost 29.5 lbs. I will be starting to swim after xmas. the one thing i have learnt is that this is for me not for everyone else. i have been over weight pretty much my adult life and would love to go out and feel amazing.

If you are happy stay the way you are if you are not eat heathily, swim and do a couple of aerobics classes until you feel amazing. either way if your husband doesn't like it tell him there are planty of Brad Pitts out there that would love and adore you more than him.

sorry about ranting, i just can't believe it!!!

Good luck xxx

Have you tried simply skipping, as that is one of the best cardio/ calorie workouts available and it is something you can easily do at home and doesn't need any fancy equipment . You could still carry on witht walking/jogging, but stop every so often and do a couple of minutes skipping then carry on.

Be careful with skipping if you are a lot overweight as it could be bad for your joints.  Swimming is a good general exercise if you are overweight as the water supports your body weight.

Well done you for making the effort to lose weight and as for your husband sorry but he would have received a right hook if he was mine.
Mary

he would have received a right hook if he was mine.

:D :D :D :D :D

I have taken a step against him.  I told him that i could lose over 150 lbs just like that - by losing him.  I think he was lost for words.

I have been out every night so far power walking and in fact i completed three tours of our village last night.  One on my own, one with my two lurchers and the third with my boxer who took me for a speed trial (she only knows one pace ramming speed).

Absolutely loved the picture, printed it out and have stuck it up at home.

Have resisted the temptation to weigh but i am sure those trousers are slightly looser already!!

You go girl!

> (well 5 stone is a little isn't it)

Most definitely! ;) Or even 6 stone..... *whistles casually*

And best wishes with the diet - I won't say good luck cos you won't need it, you'll do it. :)  Wish I could too - but food is my comfort blanket, it's how I cheer myself up in the evenings. Sad but that's life.

Ditto

I did the kellogs diet as i'm really hopeless at cooking you have breakfast & dinner is a kellogs cereal and evening meal is the same as you would normally eat its meant to regulate your eating which it really does no snacking.. i dont do breakfast so use it as a supper..

I love that diet.... its for the lazy dieter.. :D :D