hi, I know its only day 2 but its not going well. Puppy just wants to play, but first dog is very misserable and keeps growling at the puppy. and trying to get away which just makes puppy think its playing chase. First night went ok we all managed some sleep. Then  last night put puppy to bed and about two hours latter puppy starts crying and howling then first dog starts barking whole house awake poor neighbours. OH up all night he's now gone to work. I have puppy asleep at feet and first dog on my lap, trying to stay out or reach. help!

give it a week then it will all set down,
the old dog as had  his nose push out of joint.bit like the first child then come along the second child which going to take up time and tension fom mum/dad,

one thing you are doing wronge is letting the old dog on your lap while the pup a sleep.both should be a sleep on the floor,beacuse the old dog is going to the alph dog in time and while he on your lap he above the puppy,with you may be cause the problem layter.

put a radio on in the night,feed puppy last meal as late as poss so he gos to bed with a full tummy.

Thanks, the problem is that the first dog is a toy breed and used to sitting on lap,so she's just doing what sadly we have taught her! We know we made a rod for our own backs!! I think we did do wrong last night as puppy ate about 8 then we didn't go sleep ourselves till 10 by which time she'd been aslepp a while herself. will try the radio and the late dinner tonight.

Have a chat to your neighbours to explain you have a new pup and it will just need a little time to settle and that should help you feel more relaxed. Don't worry it is hard at first..even one pup on it's own can be hard...it is so easy to forget what they are like.  I'd not worry having your dog on your knee..if you shift the way you treat him it could make the problem worse. Treat him the first as your no 1 dog so the pup will learn its place more easily. My dogs are not toys and they sit on my knee. The pup still needs to learn the house rules and settle down. I'd give each dog some one to one time and some one to one rest time. And lots of cuddles for your first dog.

Im picking up the first dog when it gets too much for her. but she seems to be teasing the puppy. by running about so puppy chases, and then by staying out of reach but just close enough for the puppy to get near. I'm trying not to change too much for the first dog. the puppy is just so playful and a much bigger breed so its hard work. I'm worried about how much growling I should allow befor interveening

Do you give the older dog a break from the puppy at all - one thing you must ensure is that you still have one to one time with the older dog without the pup about so that they dont feel pushed out.  We used to crate our youngest when he was pup for 10 mins or so every so often during the day so we could have some one to one time with our elder one just to have a good play etc.

Yes the puppy feeds, plays, then goes to sleep for a few hours and the first dog gets undevided attention. So nothing really has changed for her as such she's probably getting more fuss, its just the puppy chasing her and her growling at the puppy!