Has anyone else watched this???
I am sitting here crying.
None of my family have this, but one customer died last year, luckily for him in the earlier stages of it, out of the blue. A very very astute, clever man.
Another one of my customers has Alzheimers. I will call him Mr L.  We atarted his garden 3 years ago, and he is getting worse. He reminded me so much of Malcome. He was a very clever mad, had a good job. Wrote a book on one of the local theatres.  Has been getting worse in last 3 years but has only just been diagnosed as having this dreadful diesease :( :(
We go there once a fortnight at the least and I see him walking into town on his own most weeks ( he is still at the stage where he can find his way home, and the shops he goes to know him and help him) but I cant see it being long before he gets to needing 24 hour care, and I know Mrs L is not strong enough to go through what Barbara did :( :(
That documentary really did make me think and put a whole new slant on the diesease :( :(
Lea :(

It just made me angry. So much money handed out to undeserving people yet when others really need the help it can't be found. It's almost as though because you can no longer offer anything back you are forgotten.
I have an 86 year old uncle. Has lived in an old folks home for 20 odd years. Spent all his money (worked fulll-time - didn't marry so lord knows what he spent it on - my Dad did the same job and had wife and 3 children to raise). Anyway, he gets so many handouts and has more spare cash than my parents do, they just get by on their pensions. And can you believe - he is perfectly able-bodied.................yet gets a carer in everyday to put his dinner in the microwave and make him sandwiches ready for tea. And worse  - somebody goes in and gives him a bath 3 times a week. A man who can look after himself.

I couldnt understand why if she demanded respite care they would demand he was put into full time care :( :( :(
Surely a weekend a month, or even a week a month would be cheaper than full time care :( :( :(
Barbara is so so strong to be able to cope with what she did.
Unfortunatly alot of people arnt, so would end up having to put thier partner into full time care when all they want is help at home :( :(
I just want to scream about the injustice in it all :( :(
Lea :(

I couldn't watch it.   My Mum died with Alzheimers a couple of years ago, and the memories keep coming back.

One of the most upsetting  parts was when the local authority conned their way into her flat and made her sign authority to see her bank accounts so they could assess whether or not she could pay for her care.    They knew she had Alzheimers, and she should never have been asked to sign anything.

As it was, the bank gave the wrong details to the local authority, and  the business is still not sorted.

Jo

Oh Jo, thats awful :( :( They do people for conning old people, why cant they arrest authorities for doing the same :( :( :(
I know they need to sort out the ones that are conning them. But that is NO way to go about it :( :(
I hope you get things sorted soon :( :(
Lea.

It was so sad!

I didn't watch it as I was at training club, think I'd find it hard to also from the clips,  We wonder whether my dads got this but he won't go to the doctors and it's hard to prove anything as some days he's great.  It's an awful disease and so hard for the rest of the family around.

I couldn't watch it.   That will probably be me in the future, doing the caring :(  Hopefully, though - still some good years left.

Margot

Anyone know if / when the repeat is on?
I missed it :(

I watched it last night.
I was quite moved by the programme.
I hope now that Barbara can find a companion and peace.
I don't think I could go through what she did.

Pam

I found it very distressing to watch, especially when Malcolm was nearing his end.
It convinced me that dying suddenly is a much better option - I know a sudden death is hard for those left behind but to slowly lose your mind, and eventually all your faculties, to such a dreadful disease must be unbearable for both sufferer and carer. Unfortunately how we end our days is one thing we have no choice or control over .....

> I know a sudden death is hard for those left behind but to slowly lose your mind, and eventually all your faculties,

I so agree :( My MIL died very suddenly (whilst cooking the Sunday lunch), 14 years ago. It was a great shock, but on numerous occasions since, we have said how glad we are that she went that way. In the last 18 months we have lost my FIL (aged 91), my aunt (aged 101) and my mother (aged 92). My aunt had had Alzheimers for at least 10 years (although we didn't know what the problem was initially). My FIL had suffered with bad strokes leaving him unable to walk, talk or swallow food and drink properly for the last 12 years. My mother, fortunately, had only been ill, physically, for the last two years. We are fortunate to be able to choose a better end for our pets - but not for our human loved ones :( :(

Daisy

Just awful to watch, wasn't it. terrible how life can cling on when the body is so clearly shutting down. We witnessed a similar shutdown with an aunt of ours who reached 100... she was just skin and bone and (I'm sorry if this is a horrible thing to say) her body looked like it should have been in the grave weeks before - but still something clung on.
If that is ever me - I truly hope my husband puts a pillow over my head. The lift, the nappies - what a terrible loss of dignity :(

> I truly hope my husband puts a pillow over my head.

Me too :( :( It did cross my mind whilst watching my mother die :( :(

Daisy

If I can't die in the arms of a handsome young man who is plying me with champagne and strawberries, at the age of 95, then I demand the right to run off a high cliff in the electric scooter I shall purchase for that purpose!

Margot x

Wishes granted, Margot :D :D :D

Daisy

Surely that was illegal..........:rolleyes:

Margot :d  I must admit I hope the law changes for when I get to that time!