I can't believe this, my friend has just called to say (she was meant to come over this evening) sorry she couldn't make it, but when she went to pick up her daughter (my God-daughter) from the village youth club there was a bit of a 'scene' going on.. two of the attendees, aged eleven had been caught having sex. ELEVEN!! Not sure about the age of the boy but couldn't have been much if at all older, to have been there. My friend is really really upset, angry and worried sick, and understandably so. 

It makes me shudder - they are just babes. How sad :( :( :(

Very shocking :(

Don't suppose your friend will be too keen on her attending again :(

Sadly even when I was at school (late 70's early 80's) there were girls as young as that in the news who had had a baby.

There were a very precocious and physically mature pair of 12 year old girls with no self esteem/respect at my school who had to be kept an eye on as they would allow boys to fondle them in quiet corners, very sad.

My son is 16 and his current girlfriend was only 15 this week and they are sexually active (he lost his virginity a few months ago to his former girlfriend who was his age).  I was not pleased, but her Mum allows him to stay at their house

Having spoken to both my offspring (16 and nearly 20) it is very rare for girls to still be virgins at 16 and at least half have had sex by 14.

Thats just really sad isn't it. And they are just kids - do they think about contraception? No wonder STDs are dramatically increasing in under 16s :(

Well mine are very clued up about using condoms and not only for preventing pregnancy, but why start so young.  I wasn't having those worries until I was 21.

Both of mine were just 16 :(  And they were considered slow but their friends.  With the boy especially I think there was so much peer pressure, whereas I think it can be quite fashionable in some circles for girls to say no and wait.

My daughter had been going steady with her boyfriend now for over four years, though they didn't rush things as they had known each other as friends since she was 12.

She had managed to resist pressure from previous boyfreinds, though it was a close thing wioth one who was several years older than her 15 years, luckily she saw through him, and realised waht a gem her freind (now boyfriend) was.

Eeesh, certainly not the case among my extended circle of friends through-out high school and 6th form. I would saying 18 tends to be the age where it switches to more people being non-virgins than virgins.

Maybe it is the decadent south?

Yup, my daughter is nearly 17 and has no interest in that sort of thing yet ......

Many kids do not let their parents know.  My own sister always seemed the good two shoes, adn my daughter was considered the wild oen.  Having talked to both girls mine is quite the prude compared t my baby sister who pretends to be so innocent but admitted otherwise to me, though she was over the age of consent.  My baby brother though a very popular lad also waited until he was 17, but he was awkward with girls even though they liked him a lot.

Sophie does talk to meluckily ..her older brother (now 25) never used to though :) )

I am pulling my hair out with my son at the moment, but at least he does talk to me about these things and all I can do is advise.  I told him all along I would not condone underage sex, and that it could not go on under my roof as I would consider it contributing to the delinquency of a minor.

With my daughter I only knew after the event and was pleased that she at least waited until she was 16 (actually I think she may have been a  week or so short of her birthday), but I now know she was considering it with the older boy she was seeing 6 months earlier   Luckily enough it didn't get that far before she realised what his game was.

For me the sad thing is that youngsters are even considering becoming sexually active in their early teens.

My daughter used to show the dogs for me, but by 13 it seemed that all the innocent types of interests were just not cool.  She dabbled at Cadets etc.  Seems here in Bristol anthing organised by adults for young peopel will be rejected out of hadn, and yet they complain about having nothing for young people.  Of course now that she is a working woman she is a sensible girl who needs her sleep.  The adult world of work has been the making of her, and I think is what made her boyfreind such a steady and sensible influence.

I may be hugely generalising, but the workign youngsters of my aquaintance are genrally far more mature and responsible than the students.  Though the students that are working their way through college and uni are very good.

I am very close to my daughter and she was 18 before she did that and told me before she was going to!  I can always remember when she went in hospital, just before she got pregnant with Beth, as she was severely aneamic and needed blood a.s.a.p (emergency) the nurse asked if she could be pregnant and no was her reply, when was the last time  you ??? she looked at me and said 'when was it?' talk about embarrassing!  But we do talk about everything.

I've got to say craigles, embarrassing as I'm sure it was :p if I was that nurse I'd be a bit impressed that your daughter trusts you that much she'd confide in that detail!

Still, bit of a face-hiding moment I'm sure :D

Thankfully, mine hadn't either.  I do wonder if it was because she had so many other interests in her life that she really didn't have time to think along those lines.  She was either working, studying, grooming dogs, getting up at 6am to travel to dog shows etc.  Boys just weren't as interesting as all the other things she was doing.

My best friend (at the time) was 13 when she lost hers and she quickly became known as the local bike. Not a nice thing to have hanging over you and its stuck with her to this day even though she's married with 1 child (and 1 one the way!):rolleyes:

I am the same Val, My daughter won't go to the shows etc but she is now 17 and thankfully has been a fairly " good girl". I told her how important it is to maintain a good reputation  I remember when I was at school who was classes as the " tartlets" ;-) and how that name has probably stuck with them all their lifes.