Some  of you might remember that my father nearly died back in October but somehow managed to get better. Unfortunately his kidneys have failed again and the doctors have said there is  nothing they can do :( I am off to Salzburg (this where he lives) on Monday to see him.  His girlfriend reckons that he is just waiting for me to go and see him before he dies.  He can no longer get out of bed and has to be pushed around in a wheelchair.  He isn't eating any more and sleeps for 19 hours out of 24 and unfortunately he is no longer with it.  Life seems so unfair.  He fought so hard the first time round and now it has happened again. 

Apart from my oh and kids he is the only relative I have left and I will miss him so so much. I am dreading going over to say goodbye. I am a very emotional person and am not coping very well with this.

Please say a pray for him for the end to come quickly.  Thanks  

My thoughts are with you :( May he go peacefully.

Daisy

My thoughts are with you. It's hard to see a loved one suffer. :( :( I wish him an easy passing.

Thinking of you at this difficult time.

Thinking of you {{hugs}}.  Be strong for your father - and then you can come back here and cry with us.

Margot x

Thanks everyone.  You are all so kind.

So sorry Melissa I lost my dad three weeks ago, but he hadn't been ill & simply fell asleep & never woke up. Cyber{{{{{hugs}}}}} to you It is hard, but you will cope & your furkids will be a great comfort

Thanks Moonmaiden.  My mum went the same way as your dad.  It was such a shock.  Flynn and the cats are giving me lots an lots of cuddles.

Big {{{{{hugs}}}}} to you too

Thinking of you at this sad time xx

Very sorry to hear that Melissa.  I hope he is comfortable and that his passing will be peacefull.  I'm sure he will be aware of your presence even if it is not obvious and it will bring him comfort :)

Thinking of you at this very sad time. Take care - you will be in my thoughts and prayers (((hugs)))

Hayley x

so sorry for you and the family.

My thought are with you also at this difficult time but i`m sure your father will know you are there , i hope he does not suffer I`m so sorry.
Take care of yourself
Lynn

So sorry to hear this :( I'll keep you all in my thoughts X

Thoughts are with you at this time, so sorry to hear this.
Yvonne

So sorry to hear this. Hope your trip is not too painfull for you, try to remember the good times you have had and not dwell on how your Father is now. He will know you are with him.
Take Care
Aileen.

Oh I am so sorry to hear this :(

I do hope your final meeting will be not be too painful and hope he ends his life peacefully and painfree :)

Take care

Lucy
xx

Thinking of you at this sad time

{{{HUGS}}}

Dill

(((((Big Hug)))) My thoughts are with you, when my father was dying, my mums words of wisdom were try not to cry infront of him as then you can't talk and say all the things you want, even if your dad is not really coherehant anymore some things still register and if you can say that you love him and talk to him a little tell him how proud you are of him, believe me it will help you a lot.

Most importantly don't hold things in, try to smile and be happy infront of your dad, but please make sure you cry and let all of your emotions out when at home that is very important too.

Loosing a parent is one of the hardest things we all have to face, he lives on in you and your children that is what you need to focus on, and when you think of him try not to think of your loss but on him and his strenghths and happy times, I found that made thinking of my dad to bring a smile rather than a tear.

My thoughts are with you.

You're all in my thoughts.

Be strong Melster, I'll be thinking of you! x

Thinking of you - we went through this all last year, so we know how you feel

Jo

I'm so sorry, what an emotional and sad time for you. Enjoy the time you with him, you'll get to tell him how much he means to you. I hope he has a peaceful and comfortable end. Big hugs, sending some emotional strength to help you stay strong for him.

Have come back from Austria today.  My visit was a very emotional one.  It was lovely to spend time with my father .  The day I arrived he was quite lucid and seemed to know who I was but he could not talk.  Yesterday he was asleep for most of today and this morning he was quite with it for a while and seemed to know who I was and his girlfriend.  About half an hour later he went blind and went into a very deep sleep with a rattly chest.  I said my good byes, told him how much I loved him and how much my children loved him.   He sadly died at 3.20 this afternoon as I was flying back to the uk :(.  I am sure he waited for me to go.  He never wanted me to see my mother and sister when they died and I am sure he did not want me to see him dead either.

The last three days have been the hardest in my life but I am so glad I went.  I got to hold his hand and told him I loved him so so much.

My father was one in a million and I will miss him for the rest of my life.  He was the best father in the world :(

{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{Melster}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}
You got to say your goodbyes and he is now at peace.
Feel happy for the time you had and he loved you enough to hang on for you to say your goodbyes.
Take Care
Lea.
xx

I know how I felt when my Dad died and recon you are feeling it, like one big empty feeling :rolleyes:

It was like my direction and reason had been taken away :(

It will get better :)

Oh Mel.......gosh, don't know what to say except that I'm so sorry and will be thinking of you through this awful time. I can only imagine your pain  :-(

loads of love

Hayley xx

I'm so sorry. {{{{{hug}}}}} I remember the terrible sense of loss when my own father died 20 years ago, and how it seemed that the part of me who was 'daddy's little girl' died too. The physical pain was intense. I'm so glad you got the chance to say goodbye, because so many people don't. Of course you'll always miss him; that's because you loved him. Be kind to yourself.

I am so sorry Melissa, but I am pleased that you saw him to say your 'Goodbyes'.

I'm so sorry it has been such a tough time for you but glad you seem to have achieved what was important to you both and I reckon that has to be a comfort for you as time moves on.

You have had a difficult and emotional time but your dad is at peace now and, most of all, you got the chance to tell him how much he meant to you which will have meant the world to him.

Thinking of you at this difficult time.

{{{{{HUGS}}}}}

So sorry to hear this Mel, just glad you got to see him one last time :(

Dee
xx

Sorry to hear this but it is good that you saw him and he knew you were there.

{{{{HUG}}}}
Joany

So very sorry. You'll always be glad that you were able to see him one last time.
Thinking of you.
xx

So sorry to hear this
x

I'm so sorry for you :( :(

Daisy

I'm so sorry - but you know that there is no more suffering for him now.

{{hugs}}

Margot

So glad you had chance to say goodbye.......
my love to you
Karen

It's good you've had the chance to tell him how you feel, it will be a great comfort in the future.

Thinking of you at this sad time

{{{HUGS}}}

Dill

{{{{{Warmest Hugs for you}}}}}}}}}

So sorry for your loss,it is so hard to say our good byes,my mum is at home now not many days left so I know how you are feeling I lie next to her on the bed and she holds me, so very sad,thinking of you and may yor dad rest in peace.

Sheila.x

Thinking of you too, Sheila.
xx

Thinking of you during this difficult time. My thoughts are with you and your family i`m sure your dad
will have known  you were there and you loved him dearly. Take care x

Thanks everyone for your kind thoughts.  I am not coping too well at the moment and am not really sleeping.  I find the mornings the worst as when you first wake up you forget about everything and then it hits you so hard :(  Have been put on anti-depressants for a little while so that I can cope with the day to day life with my kids (who are being very sweet).  I want their routine to be the same