As some of you already know my mum had a masectomy and chemo last year,the cancer has now spread to her lungs and liver,she is too poorly for more chemo she eats very little now,when I visit her in hospital she always has a big smile for me she has never once complained about her illness,last week she gave me a thousand pounds and told me she wants me to have a holiday around July I think she knows this last battle cant be won my heart is breaking seeing her go through this horrible illness.can you please say a prayer for my lovely mum.

Sheila x

My heart felt prayers are for you and your mum, can't imagine what you are going through.  A special time for you both at this point.
Much love to you both.
Yvonne

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I am so sorry to hear this.  Sending you all the positive thoughts I can for your mum, you and your family
Do as your mum wishes. Go on the holiday of your dreams and enjoy it :D
Stay strong.
Lea.

I'm so sorry, Sheila, that you and your Mum are going through this.  She sounds a wonderful person you must be so proud to be her daughter :)

Oh Sheila, I am so sorry to hear this.... I will say a prayer for her

Sheila, your mum will not want you to be sad.. life is a joy, whatever it brings us... however soon it takes us.... 

She is your mum... do as she says ;)

Hi Sheila. I remember reading your post last year and I have thought about it since. I'm so sorry for you as I went through the same with my dad 3 years ago. He said at the time and shortly before his passing, that the hardest thing for him was that no-one else would talk to him about the end and the here after apart from me. It sounds to me like she really wants to talk to you about it and you I bet know that too. Try to if you can. Let her lead you and just follow the conversation. I don't know what your beliefs are, or hers, but if she has one it will be easier. Dad and I just chatted about it as my belief is unstinting, which comforted him. He never leaves me, he's at my side. He always is.

Hugs for you and prayers for your mum............
Karen

Positive thoughts for you and your Mum Sheila.

{{{hugs}}} to you x

Sending positive thoughts to your Mum and you Sheila.
Joany

I am so sorry Sheila that you are having to go through this, but make the most of the time you have left with your Mum.  At least you have the chance to tell her that you love her and to discuss things that are important to her right now.........

Sorry to hear this. My very best wishes that your mum is comfortable for the time she has left and that she has a gentle end. She sounds like a lovely woman. At least you have time to say goodbye to her properly. My wondeful Mum had been ill but she died very suddenly and unexpectedly. It was good for her that she was taken that way but I so wish that I'd been able to say goodbye.

Thoughts and prayers are on there way to your mum and especially for you too at this difficult time, make the most of this precious time together we are all here if you need us.

She sounds like a wonderful woman and a lovely mother. She will be in my thoughts.

{{{{hugs}}}} to you and your mum xxxx

I'm very sorry to hear your mum is so poorly, Sheila. I pray she will be given the strength to cope with whatever lies ahead.  I'm sure she'll be comforted by having you there to support her.
Thinking of you both
xx

So sorry to hear how poorly your Mum is.  Positive thoughts and best wishes from me, and make sure when you go on that special holiday you enjoy it as much as you possibly can and do everything that would make your mum smile and nothing that would make her frown.

Thinking of you

Maxine

Am thinking of you both at this difficult time. I wish your mum peace and am sending lots of positive thoughts your way.

You and your mum are in my thoughts Sheila.  It's wonderful that she's smiling, keep on smiling with her and make the best of the time you have left.  I know exactly how you feel - I went through the same with my own mum 4 years ago - it isn't easy but if you keep each other's spirits up it helps immeasurably.  She sounds like an amazing woman, you're very lucky so have such a great mum.

-x-

Thinking of you both and sending positive thoughts and big (((hugs))),

Gabrielle xxxxxx

Sheila

My thoughts are with you at this very difficult time and hope your mum stays comfortable until the end.

Take care

Lucy
xx

I'm so sorry to hear this about your Mum Sheila, keep positive and take care
Maria x

Oh Sheila  :-(  Sending lots of love, gentle hugs and prayers to your mum and the same for you  :-)  Please take care of yourself and keep strong. xx

Hayley

So sorry to hear about your mum.  x

Sorry to hear about your mum.

Thinking of you.

Sheila - your mum sounds so much like my mum!   When she knew that nothing else could be done, she said "okay - let's get organised" - and terrible as it was, we did.    We enjoyed another five weeks with her, we did what she asked (no, what she told us to do!) and at the end, we could take some comfort in that fact.   

Be brave with her, but don't hesitate to cry with her too - you do have the chance to tell her how much you love her, how much she has meant to you, and that afterwards is comfort.   And book that holiday too - tell her where you are going, what you will take - she will take comfort in that as well.   And don't forget, we on here have big shoulders, all padded out, for you to cry on when necessary.

{{{hugs - to you and mum}}}

Margot.

Sheila - I know how you feel - I lost my Mum just over a year ago, and I still have dreams about the months leading up to her passing - it affects you so deeply.   So enjoy every minute iwth her, and laugh and joke if you will - it will help afterwards.

Love

Jo

Sending the happiest thoughts I can to your mum Sheila, and big hugs to you.

Dear Sheila, both you and your Mum are in my prayers ;) 

Your mum sounds like a star - a real trooper who's determined to go through this with dignity, pride and also forever thinking of your own needs and emotions at this difficult time.

You are each blessed with one another for comfort and strength.  So many of us have no warning but you and your Mum can share your thoughts, feelings and wishes with one another and I'm sure that although nothing could be further from your mind than a holiday, that she'll be glad to talk of your plans etc.

I don't know what to say to comfort you - there's probably nothing that would anyway - but please know that you're each in my thoughts and prayers.

{{{hugs}}} Teri x 

Lots of love and hugs to you and your Mum.

Barbara xx

In my thoughts and prayers x

I can say no more than "take care of yourself" Thinking of you Karen

Iam sorry -- prayers (((hugs)))

your mum will be in my prayers tonight. i understand how you feel as my mum has lung cancer and there is nothing more they can do for her.cherish ever moment.
God Bless
love Caron x

Thank you so much to you all for caring,mum had a very unsettled night last night ,she was feeling depressed today then when her friends visited she even managed to tell them a joke,arrangments are now being made for her to go to a hospice if thats what she wants,its all up to her.

Love Sheila x

Your Mum sounds very special Sheila.  Take care xxx

Positive thoughts for you and your Mum Sheila.

{{{HUGS}}} for you.

Paula

Mum would not see Macmillan nurse today,I explained to her that they would help her with all kinds of issues,pain relief ect,she has never discussed how poorly she is with anyone,out of the blue she said she was not going in a hospice and she wants to go home,so it is a relief that we know what she wants,so home she is going with the support of Macmillan nurses and family.

Sheila.x x

I know this will be a rough ride for you Sheila but I'm sure you'd rather have her at home :)

May God bless and give you both strength, comfort and support.

Teri xxx

I am glad she is going home.  The MacMillan nurses are truly wonderful and will really look after her.  My sister had them along with the Marie Curie Nurses. 

Big hugs from me for both of you.