>So how do I get over this fear and go get the darn things?
Your dogs whole make up and physiology is designed to rip,tear and digest raw meat and bone.Whether we are talking about Fifi the pampered chihuahua,or princess the shih-tzu,or max the great dane,makes no diff,as they are all carnivors and all have the same digestive systems.In my honest opinion raw bones shouldnt be classed as a treat,but as a staple part of
every dogs diet.We,in this modern convenience world of ours are trying our hardest to move our dogs away from their natural diets and push them onto high grain,preservative laden un natural commercial foods.... at our dogs expense :(

getting off my soap box now
I have been giving my dogs rmb's for 20 some years and have never encountered any problems. Some people when first giving chicken wings joint them into smaller pieces and bash them with a mallet,eventually working up to whole unsmashed wings.
You dont say what breed you have,but for smaller dogs chicken necks are a good starting point until both dog and owner get used to bones.