Just want to vent really.  After a difficult year, things are very slowly on the up and so pulled out all the stops and booked our first family holiday to Disneyland Paris and we leave tomorrow night!!!!! YIPHEE cant wait.  The girls are really excited.

However......

As we already knew, my MIL is coming to visit (niece in a local play so she has come to watch it) and is staying with my BIL.  She arrives on Monday but as we were away, she was staying until Friday evening so she could see us (we get back very very late Thursday night) BUT my BIL has rang to warn us that she has just told them that she has decided she wants to stay longer and as such, will be round first thing Friday morning and will go home Monday............!!!  Meaning staying here!

I know it is my OH's mum but I feel it is very selfish of her to expect this without asking us first or the fact that she hasn't even thought that after our first family holiday and the fact that due to work, this is the first time that my OH and I have been able to spend time with each other and she is expecting to come round first thing in the morning.  Believe me, when she says first thing, its not for mid morning coffee, it will be at breakfast time (in their house its 8 am!).  We dont get home till gone midnight on Thursday! :rolleyes:  I love my own mum to bits but I would even have to draw the line and stop her from doing this but unfortunately we can't do this with my MIL.  We did try to stand up to her once before and she totally ignored us and the children for 6 months .  She has 4 sons and only now speaks with 2 of them and is very bitter about life in general.  It has put a really dampner on things tonight :(.  If she helped around the house or even made a cup of tea it would go someway to help but she doesn't.  She and her OH expects me to do everything even when my son was 3 weeks old with the other 3 under 4, i still had to shop, cook and clean with no help (OH was away).

I know that many of you get on well with your MIL and and I can understand that she wants to stay longer to see us but why move from BIL's to here.  She just doesn't think about how what she wants affects everyone else involved.

I'm sorry for moaning and going on a bit, i just had to tell someone.
Kerri x

Perhaps because he (BIL) doesn't want her any longer than he has to and suggested it??

Perhaps suggesting your family won't be ready for around 24-48 hours might be a comprimise?
But get your OH or BIL to tell her :D
If it means she ignores you for 6 months let her get on with it, it's her loss not yours...

Hiya Kerri, One of the things that I didn't see eye to eye with my MIL (Now long gone!) is that she didn't take any notice of my kids!  Maybe your MIL just wants to see your children for a few days?  Perhaps you could just put up with her just for a few days...she won't always be around!  :)

Why don't you tell her that your flight has been changed and you won't be back until evening? That way you'll have the day to recover ;)

Excellent Idea! :D Why didn't I think of that one LOL

I cannot stand my MIL. She is needy, whining, pathetic and helpless - when my husband is around. If he's not here she's fine.

She even ignores her grandson when her son is about

Dont answer the door! :D

LindyLou- great minds and all :-D

Stacey x