Hi All,
Am very sorry to say that my beloved Mother passed away last week. I have been so moved by the posts by people who have lost theirs, that I wanted to share my grief with you.
I cared for my Mother for the last years of her life; Although it was sometimes difficult, she greeted every day with a smile, and we had a laugh every day right up to her last day.
I'm so glad she had a peaceful end, but I do miss her horribly...
Barbara

Hi Barbara,

I'm so sorry to hear your news, you must be devastated. I'm not so good with knowing what to say in these situations, but I am thinking of you.

Hold on to the good memories you have - although your emotions will be raw now and it may be painful to think about specific occasions and events, those will be memories to really treasure.

I don't know what else to say, but you have my deepest sympathies.

Claire

Hello Barbara,

I'm so sorry that you've lost your Mum - I lost mine 18 months ago and the devastation it brought to me was far greater than I would ever have imagined.  It's often felt that "grown ups" cope better at the loss of a parent but in part that makes things so much more difficult because we always need our family, no matter our age :(

It will be so much more intense for you, being your Mum's main carer - her loss will bring huge changes in your way of life and times ahead may be very hard to cope with.  Try not to bottle things up and put on a brave front.  Your grief will never truly go but facing it head on will speed up the process of being able to cope with it better.

Your Mum was blessed to have raised a daughter who loved her so dearly and tended to her when most in need - the circle of life is what we all take our place in, some do so much better than others and you're clearly one of that special number.

I've prayed for your Mum and you too.  May God Bless and give you courage and comfort.  If you ever need to sound off or pour out your heart, whether right now or in a week / a month / 6 months, I'm only a PM away.

Love Teri xxx

Very sad Barbara. :(  But you were lucky to have a good 'un. :)

So sorry to hear of your loss. My thoughts are with you
jane

I'm sorry for your loss - take each day at a time and don't feel bad about missing her or weeping for her - everyone must grieve in thier own way - how wonderful that she was able to smile and laugh with you each and every day she spent with you.

My thoughts are with you,

Rachel

I would like to offer you a huge great big hug.................I lost my mum 6 years ago and my dad 18 months ago, I do know how you are likely to feeling, so a big hug from me.
Karen

So sorry, Barbara, sounds like your mum was a very special person. 

Thinking of you
xx

'grieve not that she is no more, but in thankfulness that she was'.

I'm so very sorry for your loss. :( Bless you for thinking of the good times. You and your family will be in my thoughts.

So sorry Barbara, I can't even begin to imagine how hard it must be for you. HUGS.

So sorry for your loss, thinking of you and your family at this difficult time.
Mary

So sorry Barbara, thinking of you and sending <<hugs>>

Dee

My thoughts are with you & your family right now.

{{{hugs}}} to you x

Hi Barbara,

I really feel for you and know exactly how you feel.  My heart goes out to you.

Be strong and cherish the memories, things do ease with time and you always have memories.

Thinking of you

xxx

I lost my Mum in January after having cared for her since 2000. It was a terrible shock at the time and I feel for you.

The thing I find hardest is that I can't tell her all the silly little things good bad and funny that happen. On the other hand every time one of these things happens I think of her which is nice too. Every time I hear a song she liked I think of it as a message from her :)

{{{Hugs}}} to you

You must be devastated, I am so sorry to hear of your loss :( x

Take care of yourself xx

Does this fit Cava?

Death is nothing at all.  I have only slipped away into the next room. 

I am I, and you are you.  Whatever we were to each other, that we still are. 

Call me by my old familiar name, speak to me in the easy way which you always used.  Put no difference in your tone, wear no forced air of solemnity or sorrow.  Laugh as we always laughed at the little jokes we enjoyed together. 

Let my name be ever the household word that it always was, let it be spoken without effort, without the trace of a shadow on it. 

Life means all that it ever meant.  It is the same as it ever was; there is unbroken continuity. 

Why should I be out of mind because I am out of sight?  I am waiting for you, for an interval, somewhere very near, just around the corner. 

All is well.

Henry Scott Holland
1847-1918
Canon of St Pauls Cathedral

Says it all Val

I'm so sorry, Barbara, loosing your Mum is like no other loss :(  I lost mine 17 years ago and I still think of her on many occasions, some times major events but sometimes the most trivial thing will bring her to the front of my mind.  The pain does lessen though :)

Very sorry for you loss thinking of you and sending {{{{{BIG HUGS}}}}}

Sheila. x

I'm so sorry for your loss Barbara.  Thinking of you.  Simone x

I'm so very sorry for you, Barbara.   I know just how you feel - but you can still share those moments with her - quietly , when you are alone.

I lost my Mum on Feb 1st after a traumatic last month.    This was the poem of Walter de la Mare's that I read at her funeral - we used to farm, so it was quite appropriate:

When thou art as little as I am, Mother
And I as old as thou,
I'll feed thee on wild-bee honeycomb
And milk from my cow.
I'll make thee a swan's down bed, Mother,
Watch over thee then will I
And if in a far-away dream you start
I'll sing thee lullaby
It's many - Oh, many an age, Mother
We've shared, we two. Soon now:
Thou shall be happy, grown again young,
And I as old as thou

Jo and the Casblaidd Flatcoats

I'm so sorry Barbara, how sad to lose one so precious to you.

So sorry for your loss, Barbara. I lost my mum 18 years ago, very suddenly. It eases as time goes by but I am always thinking of her. {{{{{{hugs}}}}}} coming your way.

:( I'm sorry, she sounds very brave and you a wonderful daughter.

Thinking of you

Clair
xx

Very sorry to hear your sad news, but think of her often and think of what she would want for you and I hope you get some comfort.  Best wishes, Maxine.

My very deepest condolences to you, I'm pleased that you were with her throughout, I feel this brings an inner peace and helps a lot in finally letting go.  It is only the body that is gone though, you will forever have her in your heart and no doubt often hear her words :-) for our mother's have left a little of themselves in us to always carry on, we are our mother's daughters, try not to focus on your great loss, but on her forever guidance and wisdom which is always there.

My thoughts are with you at this sad time.

Barbara I know exactly how you feel having lost my Darling Mum in May this year.  If you want to talk, PM me.

Really sorry to hear this. :-(

So very sorry to hear of your sad loss.

Val

Im sorry your mum has died,my mum died 6 years ago tomorrow, i miss her!

So sorry to hear of your loss! :( My thoughts are with you and your family xx

So sorry for you,but, time, and fond memories always heal,
Ash x

Dear All,

Thankyou all so much for your kind words, I have read every message and they all help me a little...losing one's mother is a sadness like no other, but I have many happy memories, and no regrets about my relationship with her, and I am grateful for those things.
Thankyou all for your support.