As a visitor to this board everyday (virtually) for a few years now I felt I wanted to post this.

Friday, I lost my wonderful Mum, who had a heart of gold and the pain I feel is almost unbearable.  Life is so very unfair, she was loved by everyone she met and couldn't do enough for people, whoever they were.  After a relatively brief illness, she was taken into hospital, suffered quite badly for a few days and then was taken from her loving family and her loyal dog and cat.  I have her dog with me at my house at the moment and the poor thing will never know that she has not just abandonned him.

I take comfort from the fact that my sister and I are spending time together, helping each other through this sad time, and by all the good wishes we are getting from the many people Mum had befriended.

I am so sorry to hear your news. Thinking of you at this time :( x

I am so sorry Fiona.  I am glad you and your sister are finding such support in each other. 

I feel for you, as I lost my mum a year last March & know how you are feeling.
Hugs & sympathy
Diane

So sorry Fiona.... :(

Bless you, and take comfort from your memories of the Love you were given.

Oh Alexanders, Im soo terribly sorry to hear this and my heart goes out to you at this time.Always here for you if you need a waterproof shoulder.
{{{Warmest Hugs}}}} xxxxx

I'm so very sorry, it must be incredibly hard for you.

so very sorry to hear your sad news.

so sad & sorry to hear your news, your sister will be there to give much needed comfort to you & you to her during this sad time
you are both in my thoughts at this time
shirley xxx

My thoughts are with you - I've always found this poem comforting ;

Do not stand at my grave and weep
I am not there, I do not sleep
I am the thousand winds that blow
I am the diamond glint of snow
I am sunlight on ripened grain
i am the soft Autumnal rain
When you wake in the morning hush
i am the first uplifted rush
of silent birds in circled flight
I am the stars that shine at night
do not stand at my grave and cry
I am not there... I did not die.

hope it brings you some comfort too

Yvonne

Fiona

I am so sorry too hear the very sad news about you loosing your Mum :(

Lucy
xx

I am so sorry to hear your sad news. I can feel your pain through your words.  I wish you and your sister strength to help each other through this very sad time.

So sorry about your loss, what a very sad time for you and your sister. I pray you will draw comfort and strength from each other.
xx

I know how you are feeling, I lost my Mum last July.  I too, have a sister and we took great comfort from each other.  It is a terrible time, but it will get better........ 

So sorry to hear this news.  Your mum sounds just like mine and I must admit that I don't know what I'll do when the time comes.

Look after yourself.

Diane

So sorry to hear about your loss - I have no idea how you must be feeling and send warm wishes your way - take care of yourself xx

I can't imagine what you're going through, but am so sorry to hear of your loss.  My family's favourite saying when times are bad is, it will pass ... and it always does to some extent.  Eventually the pain will ease and you will remember happier times.  I know this is of little comfort to you just now and send you my fondest regards.  x

Have been there Fiona and no words bring real comfort but hopefully the knowledge that you're in the thoughts and prayers of many good folks will ease your sorrow.

Bless you, Teri x

How awful for you :(

My thoughts are with you :(

I'm so very, very sorry. :( :( Nothing I can say can make it easier for you. Your mother must have been a wonderful woman to be so loved by her family. My thoughts are with you. :(

So very sorry, it hits you hard when it's your mum...

Lindsay
x

Thank you all so very much for your kind words and wishes.  I was unsure whether to post or not about it, but am glad I did now.  As Teri says it is comforting to know that so many people are thinking of us.  Thank you once again - you are all very lovely people.

Aww can I add my best wishes to you..Having lost both parents I do kow a little of how you are feeling and I know that it is a surreal feeling for a while and then time is what you need. It doesn't heal just helps to ease the pain a little,

My dear Fiona

I'm so sorry to read this post - you and your sister must feel so devastated - but you do have each other.  

When my mum died, my dad read this poem below at her funeral, and when he died, my brother read it at his.   We found it very comforting, and Ie give it to you, with my love and sympathy.  Please remember, we are here for you.

DEATH IS NOTHING AT ALL

Death is nothing at all.
I have only slipped away into the next room.
I am I, and you are you.
Whatever we were to each other, that we still are.
Call me by my old familiar name, speak to me in the easy way you always used.
Wear no forced air of solemnity or sorrow.
Laugh as we always laughed at the little jokes we enjoyed together.
Play, smile, think of me.

Let my name be ever the household word that it always was.
Life means all that it ever meant.
There is absolutely unbroken continuity....
Why should I be out of mind because I am out of sight.
I am waiting for you.....
for an interval....
somewhere near,
just around the corner.
All is well.
  
{{{Hugs}}}

Margot

So very sorry to hear your sad news.
I've just read the poem from Margot..............those words, so very true.

Thinking of you and your family.

Val

I know how you feel, i lost my poor mum  6 years ago, when my mum died the family fell apart now none of us siblings see each other anymore, thank goodness i have my husband!

So sorry for your bad news.
Hugs,
Sarah.

So sorry for your loss. God bless

Sheila.xxx

Try not to think that you have lost her completely.

Like a great sailing ship upon the ocean of life, she has quite simply slipped silently, unseen, into the evening mist.

love and light.

I am deeply sorry for your loss! Your mother was obviously a very loved person and just keep in mind that she a had a wonderful life filled with happiness and beautiful children who loved her dearly!

Sorry to hear about your loss. I have no other words for you, but I feel your pain.

Lynn

So sorry to read your post. I know how you must be feeling.  My mum died 16 years ago, she was my best friend and I haven't been the same person since the day she died.
It does ease with time, it's just that life is different without your mum in it, I just cherish the memories and thank god for the time I had her and the person that she made me.

so very sorry to hear about the loss of your lovely Mum thinking of you at this very sad time.

Roni

Margot, that is a lovely poem, thank you for sharing it.

Thank you all so much for your lovely words and wishes.

We have arranged the funeral for next Wednesday and have decided to have a horse drawn hurse.  Due to Mum's age, that is what she remembered all funerals having when she was young. We think she would be pleased.

Fiona x

Really sorry to hear your news Alexanders.  I was in your position 12 years ago when my mother passed away very suddenly.  It was such a shock as she had shown no signs of illness.  All I can say is with time the pain gets a little better.  It never goes away but becomes something you can live with.  I still think of her every day but now my memories are happy ones and they always make me smile. :)

Just take one day at a time :)

I will be thinking of you on Wednesday

So sorry to hear of your loss.
Thinking of you.
Sarah

Dont grieve for me,for now I'm free
I'm following the path God laid you see.
I took his hand when I heard him call
I turned my back and left it all.
I could not stay another day,
to laugh,to love,to work,to play.
Tasks left undone,must stay that way.
I found my peace at the close of day.

If my parting has left a void,
Fill it with remembered joys.
A friendship shared,a laugh,a kiss.
Oh yes these things I too will miss.
Be not burdened with times of sorrow,
I wish you the sunshine of tommorrow.

My life has been full,I've savoured much
good friends,good times,a loved ones touch.
Perhaps my time seemed all too brief,
Dont lengthen it now with undue grief.
Lift up your hearts
And peace to thee.
God wanted me now.
He has set me free.
xxxxxXXXXXXxxxxx

I'm so sorry Fiona, I've just seen your post :( My thoughts are with you at such a difficult time, sending {{{hugs}}}

libs xx

I'm so sorry.

Keeping you and your family in my thoughts.