ok im 31,
im kinda of interested in someone who is alot older,hes very very keen & seems really sweet.into my sport etc etc
any advise

Common interest is a good start.  How about spending more time together (with the dogs?) as just friends and see how it develops?

that would work if he lived nearer.

i am looking for a relationship,(after the diaster of 2 years ago ive really not been looking) but feel ready now.

ive always liked older men

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At Bloooomin Last!!!!!!!!!!! :P :P

sometimes I think you get to a certain age where its irrelevant.. :)
Just take it easy, no pressure,no hassle.......enjoy the friendship, and what will grow will grow....
(personally Im off now to buy a hat!!! :D :D :D)
Ooooooooh its sooooooo exciting I love that tingly fuzzy tummy feeling of a new relationship starting :D
Que sera sera Mitch........enjoy it :D

do u think 31 would be a age not to be bothered. im not botrhered but think my mum is going to kill me.

im going to stay there tonight,as its close to tomorrows show!

im quite scared,but excited

my husband is 13 years older than me - been together 18 years so far!  age doesn't always have to be an issue!

cool. hes older than 13 years older though. my evil ex was 15 years older,we did get on really well,there were just errr issues(not age related w**ker related)

All those years back when I was much younger ;) - many people said it won't last, it won't last due to the age gap (I was only 18 then) - having said that my mum was hugely supportive but then my sister was also with an older man (she still is too) so I guess she really couldn't start having a fit at me!

Sure we have our ups and downs but then so do other relationships - nothing in life is easy is it.  Sorry to hear about the evil ex!  And glad you have found someone new.

At 31 I really don't think (IMO) it should be as hard as if you were say 18 when people can be more judgemental (sp?)  - go for it and forget about the age gap!  Most of the time I forget my OH is older!

Sorry to ramble on - hope some of the above is useful! :)

lovely thanks!

Go for it. Who knows, might last forever, might last a few weeks - as long as you enjoy eachothers company and have fun. Life is too short to worry about thing that might go wrong.
The start of any new relationship is so exciting. I love being married but I do miss that butterfly tummy feeling when it's all new and special !.

Val

If he makes you happy, then go for it.  Let Flynn check him out, if he says he is ok, thats the only opinion that matters ;)

well he will meet him tonight. one of my best friends went
out with him years ago,& she thinks hes ok

My OH is 11 years older than me and we are just so well suited.  We have no age issues at all and the only thing we notice is when he talks about popular tv programmes and says I must remember them, surely..........until I say I was only 3 at the time and a little young to be up until 10pm watching tv!!!!!

ok well,im going to go & stay tonight then,but have clearly told him nothing is going to happen!
(for god sake ive got a SHOW tomorrow!!!!:D)
youll all have to wait till monday to find out!

oooooooooh me thinks our wee MichyD will have an extra special *Glow* about her at 2morrow's show! :P :D
   Have a lovely evening,and dont worry about Mum if he's a good'un she'll be happy with that Im sure..plus its early days yet,she only needs to know he's a great mate for now.
   Ooooooh enjoy the warm fuzzy in lurrrrrrrve feeling Honey :D cant wait to hear how it all went.

"whyyyyyyyy do birds suddenly appear...everyyyyyyyyyyy time youuuuuuuu are near!...just like meeeeeeeeeeeeee, they long to beeeeeeeeeeeeee, close to youuuuuuuuuuuuuu!"

!!!! Ive turned into Karen Carpenter!!
;) :D

Hells teeth I hope not HG!!!....DIDN'T CHA KNOW SHE'S dead????? :P :P :P

And your point is Newf? :P :P :P

HG Might be a tad thin and smelly now??? :D :D :D

To be honest once you are a real adult with some expereince of life then age gaps are not going to make much of a difference.

My dads wife is 30 years his junior and slightly younger than me.

When they got together she was 19, so I did not really approve for her sake (taking on so much baggage has not been easy as Dad had five kids from 19 down to 7 years old), as he had expereinced so much in life and she hadn't yet really started hers.

My Dads sister married a man 25 years older than her who she had had a relationship with since her divorce when she was in her late 20's.

The only thing is with a large age gap the likelihood of being a youngish widow are increased, and health of the older partner may not be as good as the younger, but doesn't follow.

My dads wife at 42 has more niggling health issues than my Dad at 72.

There is also the older partners family to consider, they may disapprove, and you may find it awkward dealing with his children or other relatives without being a generation removed.

On the other hand I have no problem dealing with my dads wife as a freind, but there have been times where she as my Dads partner has tried to take an upper positon as his wife, and I have just let it go, but with another person might cause resentment.

ok loads of positives great.
im abit nervous.
ive seen him for years on the circuit,so its not like hes a complete stranger. weve been texting allweek & talked for 4 hours on the phone last night.

its abit exciting,but scary!

My ex was 18  years older than me and I was with him for 6 years, hes my sons father and if it wasnt for him turning into a violent drunk it probably would have been for life. The age gap didnt make a difference at all, he was interested in my generation and I in his, it was one of those "opposites attracts" things with us but at the same time we were similar sort of people. Go for it woman you only live once!!!!!

I wouldn't worry about it.  I have a friend whose husband is 30 years older than her.  She's now in her 40's and he's in his 70, he look as though he's in his 40's too though :d  He's very healthy.  I think tht they've been together for nearly 20 years now so it can work!

I'm single and although don't think I'd go for that large an age gap I know more than likely tht I will end up in a relationship with someone older, as most of my friends are a fair bit older than me!

ok coming clean,the age gap is 24 years!

Age is just a number in my book, as long as you get on it doesnt matter :)

Although my partner is a few years older than me I have to say for me personally I could never feel comfortable with someone who is old enough to be my father....or someone who tries to act like my father!

Michelle, this post isn't personally directed at you so please don't take offence - I genuinely wish you all the best.  Enjoy it for what it is now - not what it could be or maybe or might possibly be.....life is far too short to worry!

Good luck at the show!

i have father issues,prob why i like older men!

Hope he is working ticket..........might not like a partner who is doing better then him LOL :D 

judging it ;)

You not silly then :D :D

Too many clues mish ;) LOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOL

you arent to say anything on another site ...yet,

My lips are sealed(lol at a price :) )

it will be all out by sunday anyway

LOLOLOL ROFLMAO Off to text JanB with the news ;)

you dont know who it is

Don't I ????? :D

no shouldnt think so

give me the intials of who u think it is?

Nope I'll keep your secret ;)  Just been scanning a list of all the ticket judges & ruling out the females & a few more :D Hm interesting !

hes not doing a ticket this year

LOL It's a list of all ticket judges not just the ones are judging this year ;) all the judges who have judged a ticket in the past or have been passed to judge in the future !!!

oh noooooo..............

Fear not I'll keep stum ;) was thinking of going to Loughboro' but not going if it's off to rain I'm off to a sheepie trial instead :D

im not going to lough. going to cefn on sat & sherborne (stewarding for lynn goutte)on sunday

I decided I fancy watching the action in comfort from my car ;) Only a little trial but a nice day out & just up the road LOL

Michelle, my hubby is 15 years older than me...but I'll let you into a secret(well several actually!) they are FAR more considerate then younger men, you are NOT a notch on the bedpost! (owwwerrrr Matron) as an older mans 'Darling' he will never look for a younger bird...he's already got one!!! :D :D :D :P :P :P  Live life, enjoy it, it's gone far too soon, love Dawn XXXX

That will narrow it down then, thanks :D

That fell in the wrong place, replied to he is not judging this year

Hi Michelle, I don't think you should worry about the age gap.  If you like each other and enjoy each other's company then go for it girl!  Take it as it comes and do what feels right for you at the time.  IMO an older man could have its advantages.  Just enjoy yourself, life's too short to have regrets.  :)

A relative of OH started seeing a 17 year old girl when he was 34.

They are still together three years later and have a one year old child.

Relatives mum wasn't happy at first because she thought girl was too young but now mum realises they are happy and thats the main thing.

You don't get many shots at happiness in this life, it'd be a shame to let one pass you by just because of what other people might think.  If it's what you want, then go for it!! Better to regret the things you have done than those you haven't ;)