After a really hectic easter break from uni, I have yet again found myself with a day to go and 2 assignments not done I will probably be up all night tonight again and possibly tomorrow too. I promise myself continuously that i am going to learn to be more selfish but alas i cannot. This break had me driving my sister around organising stuff for her wedding on saturday, rescuing my best mate from a control freak boyfriend and having her and her children staying, having a flood in the kitchen, Merlin getting ill again from eating gross stuff up the field :rolleyes: need i go on. Problem being my mate has since gone back to this bloke, my sister could have completed hers by phone or post, the flood was OH not finishing his plumbing jobs and what can we say about Merlin, if it fits in his gob its edible One day i am going to learn that simple word, no !! Back to my 2000 ord assignment now, (hanging head in shame and frustration).

Oh, keep going, keep going, keep going!! you will get there! Lots of coffee may help, (my daughter swears by 'proplus'(?) if she has to do an 'all-nighter' with her uni work, I think its a caffine tablet?? (I blooming well hope its just caffine!) anyway, Im sure you will get it all done in the knick of time, just think positively! My daughter swears she works better under pressure, that is her excuse for leaving it until the last minute! sounds like you have had some genuine set backs, is there any chance you could get an extension...there are forms you can fill in for that kind of thing, you cant get much work done in a flood, can you!

oh this takes me back!! the amount of 'midnight oil' Ive burned in my (yet young!) life.. I should be as rich as the Saudi's :rolleyes:
   you'd think Uni would have conditioned me..but no.. still..Im here frantically doing today what I should have done (quite a few) yesterday (s) ago!!!
   Im a terrible Procrastinater though,Hamlets got nothing on me!and working from home at the mo has made it worse,I'll get this report in before the deadline...but First I better check on Isabel's hair,Lori's chocolate,Nippers exploits and LJS's sexploits!!! :D...oh and the CD Quiz,thats of course much more vitally important to complete than 'work' :rolleyes:
    I feel for you Stann! I just kid myself I give my best under pressure ;)
At least you did have good intentions (no shame in being a good friend) mine are all always purely selfish......:o <- red embarrassed face!
Now get outta here!!
good luck :D

I know the feeling - I had all the History/Geography schemes of work to overhaul for school over the bank holiday - kept putting it off and finding other stuff to do ( like going to Leicestershire County Show ;)- ended up spending ALL of my bank holiday Monday working on it and then had to tackle a mountain of Ironing ( as in North face of the Eiger ). Feel very hard done by but extremely virtuous.

Yvonne

2 assignments not done mad I will probably be up all night tonight again and possibly tomorrow too.

Boy do I remember that well.  SO well.:rolleyes:

One down and handed in, one to go. I got to bed at 5.30am and was up at 8, soo tired. OH has taken Merlin out and i am yet again hard at it. I am going to have to be more organised. I did have the best intentions, but i always have and it always backfires I cant get an extension, i asked today but they need proof and you can then only score a 3rd for that piece of work regardless of how good it is. I cant proove i had a flood and i am probably better off just getting done with the high possibility of scoring higher. Thanks for your well wishes. I have family coming on friday for my sisters wedding on saturday so i have called in some favours and am having a spring cleaning party tommorrow night, with guests bringing their own hoovers lol. I might say i am doing my own room and get some sleep sometimes it is useful to be a kind person.

Sometimes the best pieces you produce are the ones at the last min. Strange I know.  :-)

I was never a diligent studier but a Degree and MBA later I managed.. Somehow :-) 

Good luck. 

Hang in there :) I know easier to say from way over here ...

Stan, I know how you feel. I have a chapter for my PhD thesis to finish tonight for submission tomorrow and I am not even a quarter of the way through yet. I have had a bad month what with my partner needing my help with his business, trying to earn money at my part time job to cover the bills and to start paying back £1000 of my overdraft which my bank has asked back, and trying to do voluntary work to improve my CV. i am like the walking dead I am so tired and stress doesn't even come close to explaining how I feel. I know I am going to not make the submission deadline of September, because even if I stopped sleeping and eating I couldn't make up for all the time I have lost over the past three years, and so I know I face some serious trouble from the uni. I know hearing my troubles doesn't help you, but I hope you can see others understand what you are going through. I really do understand.

Oh dear to both of you {{{BIg HUGS}}} and keep going as you are both so near and the last effort you will put in now will reap it's benefits ! ;)

Take Care

Lucy
xx

Stann, I just wondered how you were doing? I managed to post my piece in, but it was incomplete (I have to add in notes about the missing sections in italics...) I tried my best and stayed up late and got up at 6:30am every monring to get it done but it was just too much. I have the supervision for it on Monday and I am dreading it - I feel like I am waiting for the gallows.
How are you doing? Did you get the assignments done? I just wanted to kind of remind you I know what its like, and I really can sympathise with how you feel.
Take care xxx

did manage to get them in, realised i had missread one of the questions completely so i dont hold out much for that one and the other one was a nightmare so fingers crossed for that one So angry with myself over it at the moment. The last one  was finished at 7.30 am after at 2.00am my computer crashed and i lost the whole lot and had to start again. I must do better next time. Good luck for monday, i will be thinking of you. Exams in 2 weeks for me now so i am getting my head down to try and pull something back.

Hey, thanks for sending out good thoughts for me. I will need them. My mum lost her job today so I am now seriously worried about how I will fund the rest of the thesis, as I was getting some financial support from them as well as what I earn working part time. I am so tired and demoralised with it all, and knowing I will face a telling off on Monday doesn't help. Well done for getting the work in. I have been there too when work is lost, printers break down and you misunderstand what is wanted form you. I also know how tired you must be feeling now. Good luck with the exams, and make sure you do a lot better for yourself than I have.
Love xxx

Hey you I am here for you ! ;)

PM me and I will get you in the right state of mind for Monday and I promise it will not be that bad :)

If you can tonight (I hope you are doing) is chilling out and having a glass of something and relaxing and forget what is going on !  :)

Chin up A

Lucy
xx

Hey there

I feel a bit better this morning, although I did have a huge cry last night and maybe that helped a bit just to clear myself. I am going to take my gorl out for a nice walk today and I always enjoy that, then I will sit in front of the telly and type some notes for my next chapter on my laptop. Bad news yesterday was my mum has been sacked. I rely on mum helping me financially every month to cover the mortgage so I am seriously concerned now about what to do, as well as about her as her job loss came under very nasty circumstances (nasty cow at work was a rascist, had a bangladeshi woman loose her job by refusing to work with her, and for some reason management backed this cow and so the poor lady lost her job. She also refuses to look at or speak to other women who are not British at the factory, and so she left, and then tried to claim benefits, couldn't because she has left her job so sent a letter of complaint about my mum and another woman saying they had caused her stress by not liking her and so she is taking legal action and suing the company - company seem to be on her side, even though it has cmoe out that she did the same thing with BT claiming compensation (and winning) for 'stress' when she left, so now my mum has to go to a disciplinary hearing with another lady on Monday, all the staff have to be interviewed, and all for a lady who refused to speak or look at 'foreigners', who called my mum a 'pakkie' (which she isn't), and said she had a weird religion and the wrong skin colour (all of which was reported but which the management did jack about), mum now has to see a soliciter herself, and all this when she is actually retired and just worked to help support me go to uni as I am the first in my family (well, my dad's side) to do so and I am an only child). Sometimes the compensation culture and the rascism in this coutry makes me sick. My mum has lived and worked over here for 40 years, has never claimed benefits and has never been out of work. She works for her local church and came over here to work as a nurse on a hospice ward, so she has done her time over here and deserves after all that to be excepted as a citizen of this country. It makes me very sad that she has to go through this, and also that this woman's actions have effected my own life too. Incidently, according to this woman, I am a 'lazy sod who can't be bothered to get a job' because I am at university. I have worked all through uni, at one time holding down two jobs as well as a full time course. My blood boils at this woman.

How did you get on today? Are you ok? I have been thinking of you all day, sending hugs your way.

I got on ok. I am basically facing the fact that there are some serious shortfalls in my thesis in terms of needing to make the argument stonger. As it stands my tutor can see what I am saying is valid, but in front of a vivia panel it needs to be a far more solid argument, so with the best will in the world with all the changes I need to make, I would never make the september deadline anyway. I am now looking at working up until september, not submitting, which will then lead the university to de-register me. I can then continue working on the thesis in my own time, and then submit it when I am ready. It is sad, and I am disappointed in myself, but it does take the pressure off a bit. I am facing some serious financial problems since the whole business over my mums job, so I am looking at taking on more paid hours than I am currently to earn more, so again that would mean I wouldn't be able to work full time on the thesis as I am supposed to (but hwich I have never been able to do because I have always had to work and was not one of the privileged few to get funding for my research). I am ok though. Today I am having the day off to tidy my house and just think through my options. I am going to try and sort out the problems with the thesis, but a lot of it means major new research which is going to take an awful lot of time, and also will involve me exploring an area I am totoally ignorant of, which makes me nervous about making mistakes too.
I hope it will all work out ok.
How about you, how are you doing? I have been thinking about your situation, and it is very true. You get caught up in this cycle of panicking over work, struggling to get it in, promising yourself you will work, and then getting caught into thing for other people which takes your prescious time, and then you find yourself back in the same place, up against the clock and struggling to meet a deadline again. It is almost as if you need to train yourself to be more selfish with your time, but it is incredibly hard to do that.
I hope it all works out for you though. It sounds as though you have the will to do it, and that you deserve to get there.

Take Care xxx

Im glad it wasnt too bad for you. I am seriuosly under acheiving at the moment, i am just about scraping a 2.2 so it looks as though my idea of doing a PGCE after my degree is slipping away. For a long time i worked full time along with uni, then i dropped hours and now i have quit my job, unfortunately i am so far behind that i just cant seem to catch up. the over achievers in my class have never had a job aswell. It is very frustrating because i know i could do better, but financially at the time i had to work. We are in a slightly better posistion now if we are careful. I just found it so hard to juggle work uni & home life. I have exams in 2 weeks so i am frantically studying to try and scrape something back. Like you i am the first to go to uni in my family and i feel that everyone is watching and expecting great things from me. I am currently on the road to training myself to be more selfish, unfortunately it isnt going down too well and i am feeling guilty. I keep telling myself i will make it up in the summer break, so watch this space. I think of you often as sometimes study is more difficult then work, you can never shut off and rarely have nothing to do. Hugs sent your way and chin up as I am sure you will succeed.

Hey, I know what it is like. All the other students in my year for the PhD had funding for it, which I didn't get (seemed to be all the ex-Cambridge student who got it), and the one person other than me who didn't get funding had a very rich husband (an Italian Banker) so while they were ok to study and have a social life (on a tax free some of £14,000 a year), all through my PhD (and my MA come to think of it) I was holding down a paid job and a volunteer job in order to improve my CV for jobs in the future. I am now facing having to take on extra hours. For the past four years I have had no social life, and have found that I don't bond with people well because I never have the time to go out or do anything sociable. When I do have any free time, like perhaps the odd evening, I am usually to tired to do anything. I knwo what it is like, and jus keep hold of that knowledge that you will have your summer. Plan things for it, and make it your goal, and know you have to put the work in first (which, of course, you do know) to get to that goal. You deserve a break and I know what you mean about trying to be selfish but having it not go down well. You are going to be OK, and don't worry about the outcome right now, even if you don't get the grades you need, courses can be incredibly flexible over admission grades, and so cross that bridge when you come to it.
Take care, and let me know how you are doing xxx