I have just had a fairly, lengthy and indepth conversation with a friend who is not very happy at the minute, I found it a bizarre conversation to say the least and didn't know what to say to her.  Basically they went out last weekend in the car which involved motorway driving, someone flashed her partner whilst driving for apparently no reason(??)  He then sped up to speeds sometimes of 120mph and despite having a child in the back and my friend asking him on numerous occasions to slow down please he didn't!  She was also telling me how he had the chance of a job that could have made their lives financially better which he took and on the day he was to start he threw a temper tantrum and didn't go!  He then got his old job back so he isn't jobless but I wanted to ask my friend if she thought her husband respected her but didn't quite no how to without offending her as she was telling me this as though it was just normal!  I said what are you going to do now then? and she told me how much she loved him and was just used to him being like that!

Im not having a go or anything, but if that was any friend of mine, id ask her what the hell was she doing with such an irresponsible loser! lol

No way would i ever accept any man driving like that with my kids in the car EVER! And as for not listening to me when telling him to slow down, he`d be history!

Im afraid id choose my kids and their safety over a bloke anyday, how can you love someone who does that? :rolleyes:

I suppose though you cant tell your friend what to do, just offer advice, unfortunately some people have to learn the hard way, i just hope nothing bad ever happens to her or her little one due to her husbands irresponsible actions!

Sorry for the rant, just sometimes men really irritate me lol

No way would I get in the car with him again with or without the kids.  Definitely would not allow the kids in the car with him, no way

He has an anger management problem and although this is a bit cliche these days the fact is that if he acknowledges it and seeks help he can learn to calm down.

Either he is going to kill himself in the car along with others or he will kill himself with a heart attack.  I wouldn't allow him to put me in danger again though.  You only live once.

I wouldn't speak to him in that way!!  Sounds like there's something else going on there with him.  Was he really worried about changing his job etc?  He doesn't sound happy and from the little you've put I'd say that he's worried about something.

Looks like they may need a long chat or help from elsewhere.

There is always 2 sides to a story and I always take it with a grain of salt... I too would be mad if my hubby was driving like a maniac with us in the car no exception :(

Sounds like them two really need to sit down with no kids around and communicate, thats a huge key in making things work...

Hope things get sorted with them, best :)

unless she is asking for your advice or help I wouldnt interfere ...married couples can behave appaulingly sometimes which is mystifying to say the least and does make you wonder why they're together but woe betide the person who ..interferes they nearly always come off worse!

I do agree that he sounds as if he has a few problems that maybe he has to deal with ..worry etc can make us all behave erratic and possibly out of character so dont judge him too harshly after all she said "she loves him" .

just be a good friend and tell her your around if she need to talk.

Roni

The only thing you can do is listen to her, be supportive in a non judgemental way, offer your shoulder when she needs it. There are always two sides to a story, and lots of grey areas in between, and you will never know the full story in anything that goes on behind closed doors. Marriage is anything but easy, and when the stresses of finances and young kids gets in the way it can make people act out of charactor. just be there for her, thats all you can do. Everything starryeyes says is so true. The last thing you want is for her to fail to see you as a friend, and this can so often happen if you take sides, even if its hers.