Take the old lady with the fat dog, she needs information, not being called ridiculous. There are lots of things going on in the background that could have a direct influence on what and how much she feeds. What i mean is that if someone is elderly and on their own, their dog may be their main thing in life, if they have never been told that bad nutrition will cause health problems/shorter life, how would they know?Yes you are right and some people just can't do it all the same, even with being told. I don't wish to speak ill of my mother in law because she means well, but 2 years ago when her dog had gained so much weight the vet told her (via us, she cannot go herself as she is disabled) that he could not clean the dog's teeth as anaesthetic would be too dangerous. The teeth needed cleaning, so she was told she had to get the weight down. In fact we started to supply her with the food to give him, in exact measurements, and told her the strict orders were that he was to have NOTHING else -nothing at all.
The next year he had gained more weight. By now we were getting desperate, and this is a Cavalier, so needless to say by then the heart had started to show a murmur. Again strong measures -not only I and hubby but grandson all went together to the vet, all went back with messages to mother in law. The dog MUST lose weight or he WILL DIE. By now we all figured real shock tactics was the one and only solution.
One year later and the dog had gained another 2 kilos! :rolleyes:
It isn't even as if she can go out and buy dog treats -WE do her shopping! She can't buy unsitable dog food -WE buy it. (And yes, of course the dog gets walked by other people.) But she simply gives him her OWN dinner. She's in total denial, always saying he's not fat at ALL.
It's awful,this is a dog that would for a Cav have had a good heart had he been the correct weight. As it is now, the vet has given up, saying all we can tell her now is that one day she will simply find him dead and it will be her fault and that's it.
Yes we have dicussed removing the dog from her, but even the VET said it wasn't a good idea. It was like this: my husband had divorced his ex and moved back home to live with both his parents for a few years, they had an elderly dog. Then he met me, and we bought a house. All of a sudden his dad literally dropped dead of a heart attack -went out in the morning , never came home. Then my husband moved out as planned. Then the old dog had to be put to sleep. Then the grandkids moved far away. So suddenly my mother in law had NOTHING left, and she asked for an adult rescue dog to keep her company. We picked one at the local stray kennels, but it died of parvo the day before we were to collect her. This Cavalier was bullied by one of mine so we figured perfect solution and gave him to her.
The vet now reckons that if we take the dog away, she simply won't cope -she is disabled, old, and has had several heart attacks already. And the dog, well he looks at me each time I see him and move as far away from me as possible, close to his new mum, making it very obvious he isn't going to come with me again. The vet said he reckons not even the dog's heart could cope if he had to live elsewhere all of a sudden.
It's a no win situation.