What is it with people who think all single people want to settle down and have kids!!!! All I get at work is "ooohh 2006 may be a good year for you, you may find a nice man". Despite me telling them I am ok as I am for the time being the penny doesnt drop and its pissing me off. Whats so bad about being single these days......

Although I speak from someone who is settled down, there is nothing wrong with being single! Its a lot less hassle, take this xmas I feel like I need to split myself in to 2 people to make sure I see his family and my family over xmas! Its ssssooooo much hassle being 'settled down' somtimes!

LOL Well, to be honest...it is the same as I feel being Catholic and married ..oh yes, and I like Christmas ...SO many people are anti those things nowadays that I often feel cheesed off...

Lots of people disagree with *Christmas* because it celebrates Jesus' birth ...LOTS of people think that living together is a far better alternative to marriage ...oh and Catholicisism ...well ...that is a huge no no with lots of people :D

Never mind ...I try hard to smile sweetly and ignore people who carry on and on about things like that ;) I tell myself everyone is entitled to their opinion and grit my teeth, I suppose you will have to just do the same :D

Don't worry about it Liisa, once you do meet someone they'll be harping on about 'when are you getting married'.  Then when you get married they'll harrass you about 'when are you having children'.  :rolleyes:  I'm with you, why can't people just leave you alone to enjoy your life, whatever stage you're at!  :)

oh no so it never stops then, so what do they harp on about when you have got married and had kids!!!  Personally I have never wanted kids, I might just move to the moon.....

this is how I see the questions through out life.. they start at school,

have you got a boyfriend if so how many
you should be thinkning of going to college at college
you should be thinking of going to uni
you should be thinking of getting a job
when are you moving out
shouldnt you be thinking of buying a house
back to the fav question: have you got a boyfriend if not WHY NOT
if yes, when are you getting engaged
when are you getting married
ooohhh when are you starting a family

then it all starts again for the kids when they get to school.....  maybe then the parents are in competition with each other about when their kids are getting married and when the grand kids will be along.......  does it ever end....

As the joke goes ... relatives who nudge you at weddings and say "expect it'll be you next" may re-think when you start doing it to them at funerals LOL.

M.

ROFLMFAO Brihow Collies :D :D Brilliant :D :D

:rolleyes:   Liisa I know the feeling :d

I'm 34 and still single.  If I find a man I find him, if not I can live life.

They either think you are very sad or gay!

What is it with this world that they think that the only way anyone can be happy is if they live with someone.

I love my life on my own with my four mad dogs :d

Even when you ahve kids people still think you need a man to be a whole fulfiled person.

It has taken my Dad years to work out that I want to stay single REALLY!!! 

I have two children (nearly 15 and 18) and split from my husband in 1990.  Apart from a brief rebound relationship that ended New Years Day 1993 I have been unattached since.

I admit some of it is cowardice, but mainly I just cannot be bothered, as I can't see the benefits of a relationship outweighing the minuses for me :D

To be honest I would rather be single and happy (which I am) in know of friends in relationships and they are miserable but stuck there because they lost their independance years ago and have become dependant.  It really is starting to annoy me now as the comments are all the time, why is it so difficult for people to believe that you dont have to have someone else to be happy.  Oh yes I am waiting for the comments to start that I am a lesbian...... LOL  They will have to find a reason why I havent got a bloke after all. 

I am 31 have my own detached house which I bought at 23, earn more than alot of couples put together, I suppose I am more career orientated but i have always been that way.  I grew up in the mind set that I had to get out there, get an education, get a career and not have to rely on a man to provide for me.  Why is that so wrong nowadays after all we are nearly in 2006 ffs.



 

Liisa, Liisa, Liisa....

I was just like you, single, loved it, could come and go as I wanted and couldn't understand how people were married and settled down and would hate it when people used to go on about me being single....

BUT THEN............

Last November I met the most wonderful man ever!  It was pure fate that  met him and we are now blissfully happy together and to be honest, I look back and think my life wasn't really that complete when I was single as there was things missing even though I would have punched someone for telling me that at the time!

Each to their own and if you are happy then that's brill!!

so what does any of this have to do with our four legged friends?? 

Its when you start to look at the differences between your dog and man that you know you are going barmy.
My dog is male and so is my OH.
My dog is stupid and so is my OH.
They both get under my feet.
Neither can wash a dish or load the washing machine.
Neither clean up after them selves.
And so the list goes on and on and on...................... :)

Liisa, you stay on your own for as long as you want, hon. I've been on my own for 10 years (3 kids, 1 grandkid) and I STILL get the 'why are you on your own, why haven't you a better job, what are you doing with your life.....it goes on and on. I just switch off :D Last night I got a phone call from a friend asking me if I was having an affair with her boyfriend Anyone who knows Brian can answer that one for me :) NO WAY - EVER shudder ;)

If you want to make them feel as bad and inadequate as they're obviously trying to make you feel, just tell them that unlike some people, you don't need a partner to validate your existence.

Not to say that there's anything wrong with being in a relationship, but it's about as annoying and rude as somebody constantly trying to convert you into a Jehova's Witness.

im the opposite! met my OH when i was 16 and 5 years on- still feel the same, every now and then i think 'will i regret being so devoted so young, but then i think- what would i have done different if i wasnt with him? the only difference was that i have to think more conscienciously about what i do- how it will affect him etc-
i can see the attractions of being single, and im sure if i'd never met my oh, then i'd thrive on my own too!
enjoy life for what it is, dont think too much about what it isnt!

I am not single but just married in April and i know what you mean as soon as we were married everyone was asking when the babies were coming along. I would like children but when i am ready and also i feel it's a little insensitive as sometimes it not always as easy as just wanting them mother nature has a hand as well.

Haha. You guys seem to have it easy:rolleyes: Try being a single man and then people finding out you show dogs! To top it all my I have over 30 Aunts and Uncles. Uncles ask " are you still playing Hockey?"-I am only 36 and Aunties ask " are you courting?" Be grateful for small mercies

i hate the surprise blind dates my mother does i have learnt never to go to a party she is throwing these days what she doesnt understand is im very picky i wont just settle for just any man i want to pick him and i wont to have alot in common with him ect and she just thinks i should just pick one

my mother even asked if i was a lesbian well if i was a lesbian wouldnt i be dating women instead of not dating lol

OOwwerrr Jeff, summit u wanna tell us???? LOL

Teehee. Sorry no secrets here. Still looking for the right girl but keep getting sidetracked looking for the right pint or my next TM!

Don't worry Jeff - if you decide to get a Chinese Crested instead of another TM, then we'll know you've REALLY started batting for the other team. ;)

I used to be young, free and single, but now I don't know what happened to the young or the free bit. :D

Even tho I do love my OH....

I must admit Henry will always be my number one man :-D

and I suppose if I had to choose........

I would have to choose Henry!!!

I reckon there's a little core of jealousy at the heart of all these "why not settle down?" remarks. Even if it is subconscious there are definitely some people who'd rather everyone was nicely sorted rather than being free and having fun!

I don't do marriage (learnt eventually that I was allergic to it!) but my partner's sister still can't understand why we don't see any reason to change the current arrangements that suit us absolutely fine. She'd also like us to be "unlapsed" too but I think she knows she's onto a loser there. ;)

Carry on enjoying the single life, Liisa. Only life is too short to do what other people would like you to do!

Liisa sweetie, just accept there's no pleasing folks. 

I met my OH when we were 15 and 18 respectively.  We married three years later and had completed our family by the time I was 21. All more or less normal if a bit early.

Was anybody (ie family/friends) satisfied? Of course not!  We had ruined our lives, would never finish our educations, never stay together and (the old favourite harped on and on about) would live to regret our lost chances.

Well b*ll*cks to the lot of them! 

Today is our 34th wedding anniversary, we have three degrees between the pair of us and will celebrate Christmas with our children and grandchildren and don't regret one moment of our 'lost youth'.

Only you know what makes you happy and no-one can tell you what is right/wrong for you ...but that won't ever stop them, believe me.

Have a lovely, happy, fulfilled and single Christmas and New Year,

Big wet kisses,

The Muttsinbrum (aka Missthing)

:rolleyes:I did it the oposite way around.We had the kids first THEN got married.Eventhough we have been together for centuries we only celebrated our first wedding aniversary this October.I said i would NEVER marry anyone.Shows how things work out. :)

Lovely lovely story Missthing - have a wonderful anniversary.

My parents celebrate their 50th wedding anniversary next year.  They married at 18 and had six children (of which I'm the youngest).  I'd like to say they set a great example but every single one of their children, bar one, has been married and divorced - me included :rolleyes: :D

cheers all,  I found out today that the reason this woman is harping on about is thats she is 50 never married and doesnt want me to end up sad and lonely, im only 31 ffs.  I wont settle for the first man that comes along, I do get offers but say thanks but no thanks, could start dating tomorrow if I wanted to...  but thats the point, dont want to.... will carry on happily as I am, if I meet someon then thats fine but if i dont who cares.... :-)

>I found out today that the reason this woman is harping on about is thats she is 50 never married and doesnt want me to end up sad and lonely

Unfortunately, I've known a fair number of married people who also feel distinctly sad and lonely! But it's a heck of a lot more complicated to do something to remedy the situation.

Ooooh Jeff you sound ideal :d  :d

I'm single could you cope with me and 6 SWD's ?  He, he :d  My friend has on TM with her SWD's and he copes well (the dog that is) :d :d

Ooh we could have a doggie folks matchmaking Forum.

I see lots of people in dogs that often have problems with other halves who don't share their passion, can be a very tricky line to walk.

Always wondered why the Dog Papers don't carry personals for canine folk, lol :rolleyes:

well, if youve got a dog you dont need a man.....

I'm 34,have 2 horses, 2 dogs, 2 cats, a good job and a nice house. So quite happy to stay single and happy. True friends don't judge or comment on whether i'm married or single, they see me as me and I'm aunty Karen many times over so the children thing doesn't bother me.
Now if i could find someone who loves horses, loves dogs, doesn't mind getting up at unreasonable times of a weekend morning to drive round the country for shows and quite happily share the bed with some furry creatures (I don't mean me) they there could be a future.  In the meantime I shall carry on enjoying my life, doing what I want to, when I want to with who I want to. It's a hard one but someone has to do it.

Megan.. I know just the man!!!! Unfortunately...he's married...TO ME!!! LOL

I knew I came on this forum for a reason.......  Its one of the only places I feel normal, except when I meet my new dog walking friends on the farmers field ;-D (me at my happiest)

I too am 31 single for 6 years and im as happy as pigs in poo.  No matter how much you tell people you are happy... I often get the response of "who you trying to convince, us or yourself" grrrrr  Now I am of the opinion that aslong as im happy in myself let them all think

a) Im a lesbian in denial
b) Im a bitter man hater
c) My dogs are substitute children (I dont like children)
d) Im still in love with my ex

Hee hee We have mentioned on here before that all us single ones should go out on a night out, but would we spend all night talking dogs and ignoring men???????  :rolleyes:

I know how you feel OP, though in my case I have the man, it's pressure from my mum regarding grandchildren I have trouble with!! Mind you, they would come in handy for Junior Handling competitions!

My mum is the same Lucyd, can get quite embarrassing sometimes.

Who needs men when we have dogs? If only my boy could be transformed into a human id have the perfect guy !!

I just wish i could find a man that would open up to his feelings - My boss has become my best friend spending more time with him than any of my other mates put together (even cured him of his dog phobia!!) - bring up the topic of whats going on between us he gets embarrassed and clams up hes 26 for gods sake! lol :) Im going to have to give up on him soon.

You stay single as long as you like babes - theyre pains in the neck and they break your heart way too easily!

Each to their own, I say! If you're happy single, so be it and if you want to get married and have six kids, well fair enough. Its annoying though when you get the married ones harping on at the singles and saying'you should do this, do that' etc, and likewise when the singletons go on about how wonderful life is for them and getting a chip on their shoulders.
If you are happy and well adjusted, what does it matter? I have friends (married and non-married). Some are happy, some not so!
I always said I'd never had kids and it became a real bug bear when HIS family started saying "Ooh, it'll be you next" at every family christening. If anything, it made me dig my heels in further. Then 7 years on I had my daughter - absolutely best thing I ever did (even with its ups and downs). You cant really say you are never going to do something although you might think it at the time!

Have to agree there.  I ahve a friend who had decided that she and her partner of 20 years would not have children.

Well they had a happy accident (her description) 18 months ago.

I always knew she was good with kids, but she is the most brilliant Mum.  She has so much patience, enthusiasm and imagination.

Unlike me who could never imagine not having children, comeing from a large family, but can't say I have much patience or know how to play with kids (or even want to).

I am one of those get the kids self sufficient as quickly as possible parents :D