i have a 7 week puppy girl cocker and she will not sleep anywhere but in our bed we cannot ignore her whineing because she goes on and on and on and then wees and pooes all over herself until we take her out.she also wont go in a box we have tried that also even tho it is next to our bed.now she is sleeping on our bed everynight.we dont want her to be so clingy but she is and then we feel guilty when she is howling at us.she is a very bossy little madam and growls like a gremlin and snaps if she is not getting what she wants.she is from a very good line of breeding i have seen her mum and her gran and her great gran is a show champion.i am very patient with her but i think its that what she is taking advantage of.any help would be great!
                                                                catherine x

There's being patient, and there is being consistent and they aren't always the same thing, the most important is consistency.  By being patient, you may be allowing her to get the reward she is seeking and she has learnt to repeat a behaviour until she has got what she wants.  Remember that it is natural for puppies to sleep together, she is only seeking what is natural to her, and by eventually relenting, you are teaching that if she persists in this behaviour, she will eventually get what she wants - which teaches her, inturn, to keep it up next time for as long as it takes, because you will eventually give in.  If you are going to let her sleep on your bed in the end, why not let her sleep there while she's still a baby, then, when she's older and more secure, you can teach her the benefits of sleeping in a crate or her own bed.  If you want her to sleep in a crate now, then you must be consistent and NEVER let her come to your bed.  You should make the crate an appealing place, perhaps by feeding her in it, making it warm and cosy, perhaps drape a blanket over it so it becomes a smaller space, use a hot water bottle (make sure she can't chew it) etc.

She's not a cat , she won't go in a BOX :D :D :D

Have you tried a crate?

Cat01

Sounds to me like you need the book "The Perfect Puppy" by Gwen Bailey, this will help you understand your puppy and her needs, it will be invaluable as your puppy grows :) :)

Try just having her loose in the bedroom, or you sleeping downstairs with her. If she wakes and cries, no attention but calmly go outside with her to see if she needs to toilet. If she does, calm praise and then back to bed for both of you! Avoid too much interaction or fuss at this time :)

It sounds as if she does get a bit agitated to be fair, but it's important to balance her genuine needs as a young pup within a new world, against letting her manipulate you. I keep pups with me, but not on the bed, either in a crate or loose with their own bed, to start them off and then, as they gain confidence in their new world, they are happy to be more independent :)

Lindsay
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On top of what every one else is very sensibly saying I find that if I have a pup on the bed the first couple of nights, then in an open box (normally something like an apple box) beside the bed for a few nights, where I can reach out and reassure her if required (or leap out of bed to take out for a wee) then the box goes in a crate beside the bed. Personally I find this leads to a settled, quickly house trained pup. IMHO they are helped not only by physical contact but also by hearing others breathign and moving in the same room, so seperation needs to be gradual. Oh and whilst the first couple of weeks may be disturbed by getting up to take her out for a pee it is well worth it as she will quickly learn that it is only acceptable to make a noise when the 'pack' are sleeping if she wants to go out (and that means going with her Im afraid and standing with her until she performs, then lots of praise and back to bed to warm up again). 

"wees and pooes all over herself until we take her out"

Ideally you should be taking her out before she wees or poos.  She's only a little puppy with a small bladder and she won't be able to hold it all night.  The best thing to do is to take her out once, maybe twice a night.  Set your alarm clock and take her out before she needs to, not afterwards.

"she is a very bossy little madam and growls like a gremlin and snaps if she is not getting what she wants"

Without wanting to generalise, but from my experience of owning a cocker, they can be a tad "grumbly" but I used to tell mine to stow it and he would always "apologise" immediately. However, given how little your pup is, she's probably mainly mouthy since all pups communicate with their very sharp little teeth until they are taught differently. Which can take a little while! :)