A friend's husband has died and I would like to add some small words of comfort on the sympathy card as a personal touch as I know how much this means from experience.  Problem is my minds gone completely blank :(   

I know this has already been covered on the forums but I can't find it anywhere :(   So if anyone can help I'd be really grateful.

I've tried searching the net too but all I can find are full blown poems (too long ;) )  and Bereavement gift baskets !!!???!!!   :rolleyes:   Only in America!!!!

It's always a dilemma isn't it? 

I agonise over breavement cards because like you say you can say too much.  I suppose it all depends how well you know theM etc but for me I try and find a card that seems most appropriate for the person I am sending it to and then often  end up putting the same simple words "I am thinking of you" and leaving it at that.

It's always difficult to know what to say, but IMHO anything, no matter how clumsy, is appreciated.  I remember when my father died (I was 13), and how hurt I was when many of the girls at school didn't say anything about it.  Of course now I realise that they didn't know what to say, but ten years on I still remember how grateful I was to those who did make an effort.

IMO what you write should depend upon how well you knew the deceased (and how well you know his wife), and the cause of death.  If possible, maybe it would be nice to mention a fond memory. e.g.
Dear Jane, I want you to know that I'm thinking of you at this awful time.  John will be missed by us all, and I shall always remember him making us groan with his terrible jokes.  If there's anything I can do to help please let me know.

HTH

I know that feeling, I was 9 when my brother died, family, friends, teachers at school never said a word and I'm still annoyed about it today.

In a card to a friend recently I wrote something like "Always remember the wonderful times that you had together and that they will always be there with you.  If you ever need anyone to talk to I'm there night and day you can just ring".

The person was a lot older than me and she told my mum that the words were so kind and that it really cheered her up.  You don't need to say a lot just for them to know that you are there is enough if they need you!

Thanks folks, I've done it now and its posted.  Opted for something really simple in the end ;)