I just wanted to see whether anyone else has a similar problem. It isnt so much to do with the dog but my other half! I am desperately trying to stop Chester from jumping on the sofa and chairs which seemed to be working when we were alone in the house but when OH comes home he pays no attention. I though this was strange until I came in the room to find them both sat on the sofa both looked up at me looking really guilty. This has happened on numerous occassions. Then yesterdayOH was on his computer sat on the footstool with chester sat at his feet then came back 10 mins later with OH on the floor and Chester on the footstool! I just cant get through to him that Chester cant differentiate between the footstool and the chair, if he thinks he can go on the footstool hes gonna think he can go on the chairs too!

I have the same problem with my hubbie and the kitten, he let's her mess around scratching and biting him, but then when she is 'playing' with our son and scratches or bites him, my hubbie tells her off!!!! :rolleyes: I have warned him if he even tries doing things like that with the puppy, he is going to go and live in the garage ;)

Hi Tracy,

Hate to be the bearer of bad news :(  But .................. it's just a guy thing :rolleyes:

The dog we can help you train but the OH :( :( :(   What beats me is that somewhere along the line they were all born of women   How did these mothers get it so incredibly wrong?    They must have known that their little boys were eventually going to grow into men surely   OK, tall, hairy little boys :rolleyes:

So sorry for you, but at least you know you're not suffering alone ;)   Teri

ps. perhaps "Chester" would have been better named "Axminster" - just a thought .............  

I'm glad to know Im not alone! I feel like the wicked witch sometime as Im the only one to discipline him (chester not OH I wish i could tho)

"How did these mothers get it so incredibly wrong?    They must have known that their little boys were eventually going to grow into men surely   OK, tall, hairy little boys"

Teri how right you are!

You are not alone....
One set of rules for you and another set for your OH. You do have to have one set of rules between you as your dog will jst get confused. I have had loads of arguments over how to raise the puppy.
It does get better. Honest :)

>It does get better. Honest

Poor innocent Sarah :(   We'll remind you of this conversation in years to come .......   Teri :P

Before we got the pup we never had one fight, she came along and there have been plenty....  I have  only been married 2 months and feel like its been an eternity... May move the OH to the kennel and the dog indoors..

Sounds like a good idea, probably get more peace in bed!

Our 11 year staffie snores just as much as OH and sleeps with us... Put both the boys out and the girls in... :)

Stick with me kid, you're coming along nicely

Teri's top tip:   Encourage your OH's interests in outdoors activities - not sport or anything ( creates too much laundry :rolleyes: ) - something that keeps him busy in a shed waaaaay up in the back of the garden ;)

We are the other way round - it's me that would take the dogs to bed if I was allowed, and let them cuddle on the sofa with me, and the OH would only allow in the lounge at certain times and then never on the furniture. But me and the dogs outvoted him!! :-D

LOLOLOL Lucy my dad is often smothered in cavaliers with a large GSD laid on his feet & pupster BC even tried bringing him his walking stick when he dropped it ! BTW he pretends not to like the little ones ;)

OH did originally want Chester sleeping with us in the bedroom, we had him in the bedroom with us on his first night but I think it must be some kind of mothering instinct but as soon as we got him I seemed to sleep with one eye open and listening out for any little noise and was up every hour with him, my OH though managed to sleep throughout the crying, cleaning poo up at 3am and carrying him up and down the stairs for toilet breaks. I had to insist he stayed downstairs in the kitchen, and he seemed to settle so much better! Still guess who did the 5am toilet trips, definately not the snoring person next to me!  Mind you he's nearly 7 months and i still listen out for him everynight and still get up at 5 to let him out although hes fully toilet trained and can hold it much longer, but its worth getting up so early to see him so excited to see me. He does this INCREDIBLY cute thing were he seems to run on the spot and his front paws go up and down,which only I get to see!!!! :)

Oh no Teri!  You marry a mechanic.  They can fix your car (for free) and spend all their spare time in the garage.  Even though OH gets a bit messy, it saves a fortune and I get peace and quiet along with it! :D

Sarah.

Hi Sarah :)

Too late for me :(  Plus there's the laundry issue :rolleyes: 

Although the peace and quiet sounds good .............
.................... Drat woman, don't confuse me - I thought I was living an idyllic existence  :P

Or marry a chippie :D :D :D

Margot (who didn't ;( )

What, Margot?   As in greasy fry-ups

Oh, I get it, you're picturing the cavorting in sawdust in overalls chippie (as opposed to chippy) aren't you ;)  But no, there's that laundry again!  

Give 'em some fiddly twiddly thingys and send 'em into a shed I say - sorted   :D

Guess what OH got for his 65th birthday????  Yep - a SHED!!! AND a sunlounger, AND a radio/light - which can be tuned in for the cricket/footie/rugger :D :D   It's his smoking den too - so the petrol for the lawnmower is kept somewhere else :)

We are actually training him for taking Freya into the ring - and as, at the moment, she is in season, he is having training .... on his own :D :D .   You should see him, doing a triangle, or an up & down - right hand on bait bag, lead in left hand  - and no dog on the end of it :D :D :D

This is the guy who took Thor around the ring at Crufts on the wrong side, then let him sit & shake hands with the Judge AND THEN allowed him to roll over for a belly rub!!!

Needless to say, we weren't placed :D :D :D

Margot

LOL, mental picture of "solitary dog-free ring craft" - toooo funny :D :D :D  

Sounds a lot like my show ring debut with my first puppy - an exemption show, she was only about 15 weeks old at the time (OK, spot the newbies :D )   They let me "do my thing" anyway - complete, initially, with pup I might add!  But she was on a half check that someone lent us to look more professional :rolleyes:  I had to blend in so copied the guy in front who had an Akita and he put his fingers under both sides of the chain and held up his half check so I did that too whereupon my pup reversed and went off to investigate the Highland cattle ring several yards away   We got a 3rd place too when dog and I were finally reunited (and not in the cattle ring!) 

Anyway, all that aside, would I be right in thinking that the shed idea meets with your approval Margot?  And I hope you've provided him with a heat source for the winter - or is that return of the petrol lawn mower and "smoke at your peril dear" ;)     Teri 

Oh yes - he's even got an electric radiator that he thinks he will plug in during the winter :D :D :D

(Extension lead, through to the cats' summer house where the beer fridge is kept ;) )

Margot

Oh Bless, sounds like you're good at this caring routine Margot ;)
pssst care for another ......... :P

PMSL a the thought of Margot's OH at Crufts!!  But hey, we've all had to start somewhere!  My first one was (luckily) an exemption with our first dog (looked like a white Groen!!).  I also had her on the wrong side, entered just about every class we could, incl. agility!!  We came home with BIS!!!

Sarah.

P.S. Would love to have seen you running round the Highland cattle after your pup Teri!

Oh we had the cheek to go back the following year and got RBIS and BPIS and my daughter won the JH with him too  (different puppy of course ;) ) Had it well sussed by then!  Just to be on the safe side we let him watch the Highland cattle before he went in (got it out of his system - he viewed them as steak :rolleyes: ) then let him "sing" along with the pipe band (he sounded infinitely more tuneful) and so he did us all proud - not often we can say that about a Belgian now is it!!!!

Teri :P
ps. still croaking after SKC ........ never again

Well done!  Poor Dyl. thinks cows are terrifying.  We've been to a few Companion shows since he was a pup and seen lots of different animals, but he can't seem to get used to these great big mooing things that stare at him!!  lol.

Know what you mean!!  I came back with a belting cold from SKC (could be from sleeping in the car with the dogs overnight!!).  Both me and the dogs enjoy the show though. 

Sarah.

You're lucky! I married a mechanic and he never fixes my car (well, not quite true - he does, but only when he's fixed all my friends' and family's cars first!;)

Yep, same prob.  Before we got Poppy I said she was not to go on the furniture because when we have vistors they may not want her on the sofa/their lap with them.  I could not stress this enough to OH.  Low and behold, first day we get her home, within 30 minutes she's curled up on his lap asleep.  From that day on, she's been on the sofa/chair/our laps.  We had a home visit from our current dog trainer before we started classes and she went loopy that Poppy was allowed on the sofa.  Gave us strict instructions on how to stop her, but I have to be honest and say after a couple of days of "off" and picking her up and putting her on the floor about 20 times a minute, we gave up and decided it was our furniture and if we wanted her on there we'd let her!

I must admit though, it is a pain when visitors sit down and within seconds they find Poppy on their lap with her paws round their neck and licking their ears!!!

We had the same problem too. Considering OH did not want a dog, he has become incredibly soft with Rufus. In the end we compromised, and taught him only to get on the sofa when asked and then to get off when asked.  Sometimes he forgets himself, but as he has got older he understands that he can go and sit on a chair if no-one is sitting there. Unfortunately, however, we do have friends who think it's great for him to jump onto their laps and wrestle with them when they're sitting on the sofa or chairs.  Mind you, now he's nearly fully grown I THINK they're starting to see the error of their ways...LOL
Petra

I am PRAYING that as Chester grows up that hopefully my OH will to!