
There is only one way to answer this question, and that is to say to the guest poster, that to know what FCR's are like to live with is to meet some! They are not a novice owners dog, as other posters have said labradors are easier, so are golden retrievers.
I keep my flatcoats for working, and find that I get better results if I allow them to "grow up" mentally before taking them shooting, consequently my dogs rarely go shooting with me before they are 3 years of age. I would expect a labrador to mature more quickly and be working fulltime by the age of 2 years. Do bear in mind most flatcoats in the show ring do work to some extent as well. So the working instinct is never far below the surface.
They are, as Terri says the "Peter Pan" of the dog world, as they remain very puppyish for a long time, physically they grow quickly, mentally they mature much more slowly. Add to this they are a very intelligent breed. They need to be occupied. This does not mean walking the young dog an extra mile or two to tire it out, all that does is produce a fitter dog who once bored can do more damage to your house and belongings in a shorter time! They need mental stimulation, so this means actually doing something with your flatcoat on not so much a daily basis as an hourly basis! They are always ready to play games. It has to be fun as well, otherwise the dog will find it's own "fun activities", which might not be your idea of fun.
Having a flatcoat is not easy, as there is no way you can describe it as "just the family dog". Having a flatcoat is a partnership between you and the dog, you have to teach it to love being with you and it will then do more for you. They can be frustrating when you have to yet again go over a piece of training you know a labrador would have had straight in it's mind months ago after one or two training sessions. They can be bold but very sensitive, so you have to find the right balance to encourage the boldness, but not allow it to be out of control, you have to balance discipline with the dog so that it does not become reluctant to work with you, and this is not easy. The balance can be very delicate.
I and I know many responsible breeders find that unless we are very careful where we place puppies, that the new owners especially first time owners find them too much of a handful and the pups are rehomed before they are two years of age. Anyone in this situation is advised to go back to the breeder, we know they are not everybodies ideal dog, and a good breeder will instantly take back a pup however old it is, be it 6 months or 11 years and over. We would rather that people thinking about owning one would meet as many as possible before hand and learn as much as they can, then get a pup. However most people want an "instant" family dog who is easy to look after and easy to train, so this would rule them out as potential owners.
There are some people breeding flatcoats, who do not care who they sell them to, who will not take the pups/dogs back if they prove to be too much for the family to cope with, these are not breeders I or any member of the flatcoat society would reccomend. I will leave you to make your own mind up as to why these people are not reccomended.
If you would like more information or to meet flatcoats you can easily arrange to do this, as most breeders are more than willing to invite you to see what their dogs are like in the home environment, also there are breed representatives for each county, and if you are lucky enough to live in the Surrey group area the county representative runs training classes and social events.
You might like to consider contacting the Flatcoated Retriever Society, whose web site is constantly updated at
http://www.flatcoated-retriever-society.org/
Other places to find out more about flatcoats before getting one are:
flatcoats@yahoogroups.com
fortheloveofflatcoats@yahoogroups.com
Please do make the effort to see for yourself what flatcoats are really like to live with before you decide to rush out and buy what you might hope will be an "instant" family dog.