I don't have a positive relationship when it comes to neighbours on one side, and I am not alone.  Everyone in the locality finds them difficult.

When building my pond recently, I put up a new fence inside the old one (both mine), they have laden my fence with plastic squirrels, fairy lights, hanging baskets and all sorts that have weakened it, so I put the new one up, leaving the old one. It also provides all the more protection against their gnashing dogs who are neurotic!

Now, one of them seems to have a problem with her co-ordination or basic horticultural knowledge because on sunday I was woken at 7am by water on the window - her hosepipe.  One about 6 occasions, my patio had been soaked by the hose over the top of the fence!  They have obsessive tendencies and need to wash down paths daily and water trees too!

We were all eating tea at the patio table the other night when we got soaked from the hose over the top of the fence!  I shouted loudly (as one would) and asked her to keep her water in her own garden to which the reply was "oh for God's sake, it's only water!"

I know I've only made things worse by getting cross because this morning, everything that was left on the table last night is well and truly soaked and the fence has changed colour it's so wet!

I am so cross!  Rant, rant, rant.  Any suggestions?

How bizarre? I'd probably get the jetwash out and blast her patio furniture into the middle of next week - but thats just my hormones talking :D

Perhaps you should go round and just explain nicely that anything that gets ruined by her water inaccuracy will be billed back to them. Alternatively move all your plants onto the patio and never have to worry about watering them again. :D

It is bizarre, but we aren't talking rational people here!  They live by totally different rules than the rest of the world!

Know what you mean Jakyjat,  some people don't DO rational :(

We had neighbours like this for about 7 years, they were ok at first tho not friendly, they gradually got worse and worse until last year I was threatened over the fence by the bloke (a loose term ;) ) while my OH was about 200 miles away (and yes he knew about this).  We started talking to other neighbours and discovered that nextdoors had fought (physically!! with a 75 year old!!) just about everyone in the street he wasn't pally with and half the street around the corner!  They loved to party in the little bit in front of the houses and also bought and sold cars on the doorstep.  Every conversation was at concert pitch. It was very awkward getting in and out of the house.  They also used our back garden as a rat run to the people on the other side until we put up lattice fences on the fence :rolleyes:  I was near to breakdown so we decided to move, but they put up for sale signs as soon as we decided!! Both sides, apparently they couldn't stand us any longer LOL    What beat me was how they knew everything about us almost before we did, things like conversations we'd had indoors, quietly and privately

Life's a bit quieter now but I'd still like to move, just don't feel right here anymore.

Dill know the feeling, my lovely next door neighbour actually broke into my house and wrecked the place, one of my dogs lives and mine.  Lana is slowly coming around 3 years later, would kill a child if she got the chance and is still slightly wary of men.  Such a shame that such a lovely dog could be ruined by a mindless act.  It was a nightmare when I got home, my wardrobes were all pushed over and my biggest fear was that I'd pick one up and Lana would be under it fortunately she wasn't as they'd taken her and then got rid of her a few days later.

The bloke was luckily chucked out the next day by his wife who was away on holiday but I believe that they are back together although nowhere near where I live thankfully.  I still worry every time I go out and when I come back from work.  One good thing was that I lost nearly 2 stone in 3 weeks although it's all piled back on again.

Their are some real so and so's in this country unforatunately"!

Oh that's terrible!  Some people never get over their schoolboy/girl bullying phase do they?  What an awful story though, from both posters, did you get the police involved?

You poor things,  every time I go out I check and double check, I wouldn't have been surprised if they'd come in, they were that sort :( 

It got so bad I was afraid to go out and when I had to I'd be sick and shaking thinking of having to come home, even staying in was a nightmare as they started banging doors very loudly and slamming the front door (a foot from mine) :(   He was dealing cars literally on the doorstep and would get nasty if we had to go out or come in while he was there, but he was always there! :rolleyes:  The police knocked regularly looking for him and the one on the other side :(

They've moved now but I still find it hard to settle, I don't think I ever will here, but movings not an option at the mo :(

I do feel for you all. I considered moving and looked into it seriously then realised I was looking for houses almost exactly the same as I had ;) and that I had the best neighbours ever the whole road - was "frantic" when they discovered I was considering moving and about 20 people came and asked "is it anything they had done? or anything they could do to help? or what a shame it would be"

So decided to stay. :) But I do feel for you - neighbours can either make or break your life I realise that.

Karen

My next door neighbour was found 2 years later and arrested via the DNA evidence in my house from the blood on his face due to the cuts from smashing my patio doors in.   We noticed this the same day but didn't think anything of it at the time.  He got community service and put on an anger management course!!!  Not much use when you think for him to have his DNA on police records he must of done quite a bit before doing my house.

Ok guys, you've put my problem into perspective a little! 

Jackyjat,

I don't think there can be a 'putting in perspective' its not how bad the situation is compared with someone elses, its how it affects you/your life, what seems trivial now could feel a lot worse 10 years down the track :(   Have you thought about mediation?  It may not be possible but if it is then at least you will have tried ;)  Hope you can sort this out as it really is no joke living with it.

Kazz,

I know what you mean about great neighbours, we had them in our first place and would have liked to bring them with us :)  I'm looking for a house that's at least semi detached so that I don't have to have someone elses front door right next to mine, I wouldn't even have to leave my front door to knock theirs and its too close for me these days :(  but our circumstances mean its all on hold.

You sound like you live in a great place, its nice to know they are out there.

my moaning neighbours actually move out in about ten days.They have upset me so much over the last three years it would take me a week to tell the tale.To be honest when they are gone I never want to have to think about them again,or even talk about them.I pity their new neighbours!!Its so hard to rise above it,the one place you should feel happy is your home.I could never stand up to them I wish I had been more assertive from the start but I dont think anything would have been different.I dreaded coming home too and that is an awful feeling.