i have been invited to a wedding, prob, they have lived together for over two years and have nearly everything they could want, what should i get them, and on limited rescourses, she is 19 and he is 21, they have 3 dogs and heavily into agility.
Carol

Have you not asked if they have a gift list?  I got married in May and hubby and I had already been living together just over 2 years, so we had everything we wanted, so we just asked for Comet gift vouchers towards replacing an ageing electrical appliance at a later date, then last weekend we bought a wide screen TV using the vouchers and putting a bit more towards them.

We have had this problem quite a lot as most of our frinds have lived together before getting married. Usually we too have given vouchers of some variety. Most recently, we gave Euros to a couple as they were planning to honeymoon in Italy.

Get them vouchers - you don't have to spend much.  It's the thought that counts :)

I'd ask if they have a list - as they were young when they moved in together, they may have 'made do' with cheap and cheerful things which they now want to upgrade.

I've just got married, and we lived together for some years before, but it's amazing what you find you do 'need' when you start looking - and it's nice to be able to buy the nicer quality/more expensive items you wouldn't necessarily buy for yourself, whether it's through a gift or a voucher donation.

Would recommend you find where they have a list, or which vouchers they prefer, though - much more useful than getting bits and bobs of vouchers from different stores.

M.

Another idea that I have used lately is to buy an unusual gift like a tree (woodland trust) or a goat (oxfam). Depends on the people but loads of charities do that sort of thing now and if they really do have everything it is a good option. Infact I have just bought a few trees for a friends childs christening and first birthday - thought it would be nice for him to be able to see the wood grow up with him and as he gets older give him an interest in the environment.

I don't think that couples who live together should expect presents when they decide to get married.  The whole idea of wedding presents is to help the couple set up their first home.  If they've already set up home there's no longer any point to the tradition imo.

I tend to agree with tyby about this topic.  My fiance and I are getting married in April after living together for four years.  I can see the sense in wedding lists for those who are setting up home or for couples who have children, as obviously much of their income would go towards the children.  However, and it's JMHO, I feel that in our case a wedding list would be inappropriate and a bit naff.  We want people to come to the wedding because we care about them and want them to share our day, not because they might buy us a coffee table! :)  After four years we already have a house full of crap and the last thing we need is more stuff!

I did however notice that a fair proportion of people wanted to give us something to mark the occasion and were quite insistent on this point.  We have now set up accounts with two charities, a multiple sclerosis trust and a cystic fibrosis charity, two causes which have personal meaning for us.  We have said that nobody should feel any obligation but if they would like to make a donation to one of these charities or one of their own choice we would be very grateful.  This arrangement seems to suit most people and it has also gone some way towards assuaging my guilt about spending so much on a wedding dress!

Mind you, the wedding isn't isn't for ten months and we've already received an odd gift.  An elderly relative of my fiance decided that she didn't want to make the trip to London (she lives somewhere in Dorset) but she informed the OH that she would send us what the train would have cost.  He assured her that this was unnecessary but sure enough, a few days later we received a cheque for $38.40 - the EXACT fare!  Nice but bizarre.

Sorry, I didn't mean to hijack the thread.  Some ideas for gifts (depending on budget)...
- a voucher for a spa day
- naming a star
- a framed copy of the Times or another paper from the date of the wedding.
- a bottle of wine or whiskey which needs to be aged.
- something luxurious to eat (or a hamper if you're feeling flush).
- finally, (my personal favourite) sponsor a donkey for them! 

OOh how could I forget about sponsoring a donkey? I sopnsor Tapestry and one day I WILL go and see him :)

I also agree with tyby and Mary Caroline. My hubby and I lived together for 18mnths before we married at CHristmas and before that we both had our own houses for several years so we had every household gadget imaginable. We put in our invitations that we didn't want any gifts, our gift would be for our guests to enjoy themselves, however if people felt they wanted to contribute something we put out a box for gifts to animal rescue. Maybe a sponsorship of an animal as suggested, a donkey or catr or dog??