Sorry i need a rant :(

I have a "friend" who i went to school with and shes the only person ive really stayed in contact with since i left 3 years ago, at school she went off with a girl who used to bully me and she joined in, in fact shes always used me but because i didnt exactly have hundreds of friends i stayed mates with her.

Well since school things have generally been ok but lately she has really been driving me mad, lots of little things like how her and her b/f come round ours drink all our drink then invite us round the next week but never mention it again. We were talking about all 4 of us going to florida on holiday but she said she couldnt fly for the 7 hours or whatever it is, so today she tells me shes going 2 mexico on a 9 hour flight its just lots of things like that and i need 2 rant or im in serious danger of smacking her!

The part that has annoyed me the most however is that she bought a hamster a couple of months ago, as did i ( ive had them before, had gerbils etc) This is her first pet and she claims she loves the hamster more than anything, would do anything for it etc. She then phoned in near tears saying she thought he had a lump and was going to die and what should she do - my obvious response was to take the hamster to the vet and get him checked out - this was followed by her asking " where is the vet? how much do vets charge? oh well i dont have any money so i wont bother and "how do people who dont have much money look after their pets" - By this point i was getting really annoyed that she could be as stupid as to buy an animal and never consider it may get sick and i informed her that most sensible people dont buy pets unless they can afford to look after them.
Then on deciding the hamster was ok she proceeded to tell me how much she wanted a cat! - If she cant afford a hamster how does she afford a cat? She asked when we do with leo if he gets sick and how much does it cost, i obviously replied with well he is insured but last time he had an eye infection it was £18 for a consulation, £6 for medicine, then £8 for claws trimming, £16 for frontline etc. She nearly died of shock that vets actually cost money.

Grrrr sorry rant over

And you're friends with this girl why? Sorry, you wont get any sympathy from me. If she winds you up this much and you obviously don't like her then tell her to get lost! Staying friends with someone who is using you because you don't have many other friends is a bit sad, not to mention makes it sounds like like you are using her too. You sound like a really nice person who is maybe just lacking a bit of self confidence? Tell yourself you are worthy of better people than her and find someone who likes you for who you are and isn't so much of a pathetic loser. :-)

LOL Just read that through and it sounds really horrible! What I am trying to say is get rid of her you are obviously a better person who is way out of her league and by the sounds of it she knows it, which is maybe why you never get a return invite. :-)

Bullies are low. I've never been bullied but if anyone tried it, making friends with them would be the last thing on my mind.
Why not try using her? or insulting her? or giving her a whack round the face with a bat to knock some arrogance out of her?!
She doesn't sound like a nice person at all and personally I would dump her, or give her a taste of her own medicine.

Two wrongs don't make a right, but they make it even!!

P.S. Don't listen to me, I'm a bad influence but give good advice :D

Just keep exagerating all the costs fo vet care!  A friend is doing this to another friend about breeding a litter!!! Trying to stop her but don't think she's having any of it.

I also don't understand the people who have pets but can't afford to keep them.

Do people think that vet care is on the NHS!!!! :D God I wish!!! :D

Do you do anything with your dog/s?

If you don't already I would recommend trying something like agility or ringcraft etc.

You meet a lot of people and make a lot of friends with the same interests as you. The majority of 'doggy people' are nice and don't care about your reputation or what you look like...

Also, I imagine you're under 24 as you left school 3 years ago.. you can join the Young Kennel Club. The YKC have shows and competitions in age groups, so you can make lots of friends there.

There you go, no excuses for not having friends now!! :)

Who says you don't give good advice Ana? That's a great idea! I met some of my best friends through agility; and some of the worst through obedience, but that's another story! :p

Hi GreatBritGirl
Sounds like this person just isnt worth your time.
Your better off breaking it off with her or telling her how you feel about all those things she has done and is still doing. Dont bottle all this anger up get it all out! It will help.
As anna_x says why dont you join more clubs and social events? Im sure you'll meet loads of nice interesting people that are worth your time! :)
Sorry to hear your so angry about it all :( Friendships can be difficult but its these circumstances in life that bring to light who your real friends are :)

Agree with ana in some ways.  I have made loads of 'friends' at shows, however not so many of my own age group!!!!  I will have a good friendly chat with people of all ages at shows.  also if nessercary I an always contact them for advice!!!

Won't say what i want to RE YKC!!! :D

Agility might be a good idea :) Leo loves things like that hes the most nuts dog ive met - think he would actually love 5 a side dog football lol.

I do have more friends now, at school i didnt i have friends from uni now, friends on the net, weight watchers friends etc but she is the only person i have really stayed in contact with from school.

I guess i do use her too when it suits me but lately whats been driving me mad is this new selfish side of hers, she has £100 a week to spend on alcohol but not any money to look after the "love of her life hamster", then she wants more animals she cant take care of and that drives me mad, even when i looked after her hamster a couple of weeks ago she didnt bother to bring any food round with him, he doesnt exactly eat a lot but that wanst the point.

The bit that has wound me up the most is that she promised she would look after my hamsters when i go away for a few days in august and then last night told me all about the holiday she had decided 2 book for when we are going away and didnt seem even slightly concerned that it left me with a problem, i was actually sitting waiting for her to say oh can you look after hammy while im away!

Anyway ive calmed down a lot now, thanks for your advice think i might look into doing agility and the young kennel club :)

Go for it! :D :D

This selfish girl doesn't deserve your company or friendship.  You don't need her bad vibes ;)  cut her loose and find people who make you feel good and don't use you :) :)

I would be upfront with her and tell her exactly what you think, nobody deserves to be treated like crap... If she can't treat you with respect and how she would like to be treated I too would drop her as a friend....Best of luck and I do hope things get better....

Stay away from her...and let her lead her sad little life, without you in it :-D