I split with my man about a month ago and im still having real problems coming to terms with it, some days are good but others like today are just completely rotten - I cant get out of bed, cant go to work and all I do is mope around cry my eyes out and think about him.  Ive told work today that im going to the doctors but I really dont want to be put on anti depressants, I was wondering if there was a herbal remedy out there for these days when I just feels pants about life :(

I would go to see the doctor anyway they may be able to offer other help than drugs, councelling for instance. St Johns Wort is a herbal remedy used for depression but it is not without side effects this site describes some of them.  You could ask more about it from your doctor I am sure they will be familiar with it.  There are a lot more pharmaceutic antidepressants available these days that lack the drawbacks of the old ones so I would keep an open mind and see what the doctor suggests.

i know its an old saying but time really does heel,i know exactly what your going through,when me and my boyfriend split up i couldnt imagine life without him,icouldnt think of anything else i lost 2 stone in just over 8 weeks ,but you do get over it i promise i know you dont think so now but you will,just try and be strong,and every day that goes by it will get slightly better untill the day wilol come when you dont think about him at all,

>>i lost 2 stone in just over 8 weeks

I wish I could do that  :D :D

Thanks for your advice, maybe I will give the doctor a call, I just feel a bit of a prat because I never go to the doctors even when im ill so going now because im upset my OH has gone seems a bit wrong.  I will call the doctor now.

i never go to the doctors either,but when we split up i went i felt so stupid i just sat there and sniffled i told him a couldnt cope that i couldnt eat or sleep he wasnt very helpful or understanding with me at all ,he wouldnt give me anything all he said was there is nothing on perscription that i can give you for a broken heart !!! i went away feeling worse that when i went in.i hope you have more luck than me and if you need anything or someone to talk to please p.m me .

Thanks scarymary, what an awful experience :(

I have made an appointment for this afternoon, unfortunately I cant get to see my own doctor until next week ( :rolleyes: ) so it will have to be another - I hope they are sympathetic :(

How about a massage :) A friend found them very relaxing during a difficult time :)

Daisy

Im a bit of a prude when it comes to massage by a stanger  - I know im sad :rolleyes:

im the same wouldnt dare let a stranger see my bare flesh and wobbly bits lol.

Claire

Noticed on your profile that you like to laugh alot and like to have a drink so that is what you have got to go do ! :D :D

Go an arrange some nights out with friends and start to enjoy life again ! ;)

You have to try and move on and it sounds like now is a very good time to start to do this !

It is hard but the more you do the more you will see that there is life after.........

Take Care

Lucy
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Thanks for your words, it is true laughing is a speciality of mine (even if I do have a slightly dodgy one :rolleyes: ) I have been trying to get out and have loads planned, I do have good days, its just that most are bad at the moment :(

I made a break through today, I took the boys for a long walk then went in the local pub - on my own   everyone as usual was really welcoming and I dont know why I didnt go in there sooner, made me feel 10 times better - especially when the landlord bought me a drink ;)

I didnt go to the doctors, I have decided that I need to do this on my, im feeling much more positive now - lets hope it lasts :rolleyes:

Good on you ! :D

It is good to know that life does go on ;) :D

Lucy
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Best remedy go out get your hair done with a really good expensive hairdresser change your style be adventurous buy some new make-up and treat yourself to a lovely new outfit with a great pair of shoes then go a few nights out with friends have a few drinks a  bit of a dance and enjoy yourself.