I found mine the second time around :) ( As in marriage, in courting I did lots of quality testing! :) )

I think I have only really been in 'proper' love and this time is the one ! :D

What do you think about soul mates and did anybody think they had this but it didn't turn out that way ?

Lucy
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Did a bit of quality testing myself ;) but never felt remotely like marrying them until I met my true love.  Have never clocked anyone, in a purely observational sort of way :p, since that would have done if he had not turned up so I think I have been very lucky :)

I hope they exist but then I am a bit of a romantic I suppose, and I also belive in fate but only time will tell :) I'll get back to you in another 10-15 years time!!!!
At the moment I'm in love with a very handsome, bearded, dark eyed, lovable......wirehaired vizsla :D !!!I have no time for anyone else at the moment ;)
Emily

Ahh, you can fall in and out of love many times, but if you are lucky will only ever have one soulmate. I married mine and had a few short, but very happy years together. He died 19 years ago, when I was only 29 and I knew there would never be another, but all my memories are very happy ones.  But even when he was alive, the dogs came 1st.  Well, he was perfect, I never said I was lol :D :D

How does that saying go agian Kay..better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all...would you agree with that??
Sorry you lost him at such a young age  :(
Emily
PS Are doing Nrth Counties gundog on Sunday? See , at the end of the day everything does come back to dogs..as I found out today they are often the only ones who can be relied upon..except myself!

I would certainly agree with that Emily. The right person is out there for all of us, but even fate needs helping 'shove' now and again ;)  It's not the amount of time you have together, it's the quality that matters ;)

No, not at Northern Counties, I will be in Wishaw (Bathgate Open) on Sunday and Low Hesket (Penrith Open) on Saturday

Aww, full of such wisdom :) Seriously, I agree.

We have a busy weekend too, having had a show for about 5 weeks!! Am driving down to Gloucestershire on Sat morning for a vizsla agility day(with Kayla and the little man)then we have the show on the Sunday, but can't miss it as we had to miss NEHPR last weekend due to stupid car(!) and we don't have more shows then until pups first show, which I won't be taking her too anyway...here's hoping it doesn't snow and that the roads are nice and clear for me to get back hom on Saturday night...what we do, ey?!!
Good luck at your show, was it Tia who had a write up in DW this week? It was a good one, anyway..well done :)
Emily

Wisdom, me, nawh, :D :D

If the write up you mean was Dumfries & Galloway for 20th Feb, yes, that was Tia. She took 1st in Grad, 1st In Open, BOB and G1. was really pleased with her that day, she just showed her little socks off.

Good luck with your weekend and weather supposed to be quite good :)

WOW, well done I didn't know she taken G1 too, what a clever girl she is :)  I'm looking forward to getting back in the ring, it seems ages since we were last...way before Crufts..I'm just hoping she behaves and is not too tired from the agility, more than likely that she will be fine, its ok for some who get to sleep in the car anytime we go anywhere and I'm the one stuck drining...wouldn't it be good if they could drive?!! Or am I really going mad now?!!! :D

Emily, if dogs could drive, they would by-pass the shows and head straight for the beach lol :D

And my apologies to Lucy for completely highjacking this threads, Sorry :)

LOL, dogs driving themselves to the beach, whatever next?!!!! :D
Ooh, yes, sorry Lucy..this is what PMing was invented for!!!

No you two carry on chatting ! :D

Lucy
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I am the same, second time around for me. Hubby causes me GREAT grief at times but we are soulmates , I cannot imagine life without him.

I never thought the same way about number 1 (who I still see around town and *shudder* at :D :D ) and could never see us growing old together.....mind you, I was only 18 when I married him ;)

18 years after meeting number 2 and we are still very much in love :)

(okay, you can vomit now :D :P )

No vomiting (well not much<g>) - that's lovely to hear about :)

I do believe in soulmates, very much so. I also believe that each person we  are involved with teaches us something and so sometimes a soulmate can bring up difficult issues for us to face, and we do the same for that person.  I believe in reincarnation, so believe that we may meet with many soulmates over many lifetimes. Once in a lifetime maybe, that very special person appears and it's up to us both to work our lives to be together. If it doesn't happen, I believe we may have another chance in another lifetime :)

Lindsay
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I'm happy to say I've found my soul mate.  He's wonderful (although can of course drive me nuts on times, and vica verca :D ), and very caring.  I believe it's fate as a year or so before we met I joined Dateline and he asked for an application form, and on his form it gave 'examples' of people he could be meeting, and I was on his list!!  If he'd have bothered to join we may have met that little bit earlier :D

Not found mine yet, possibly he is hiding through shere fear. Although I do have a strong connection with a male friend who I love to bits, but not in that kind of way. He has been an incredible friend. 

Still haven't found mine yet and I'm getting a bit old now, 34 next month :d  Hopefully he'll come my way!  Had a first love, that no-one else has matched up to!

My Mum & Dad celebrate their 55th wedding anniversary today. Not a day goes by without them having a moan about eachother but they always manage to have a laugh as well.

Val

I have found mine when I was 20 and never once considered anyone else.  Well not unless Hugh Grant stopped by ;)

I thought I had found mine. But looks as if not to be :(
I do hope I find mine. As am sure someone is looking down on me at the moment and laughing at all the S*** they are putting me through!!!!!
I hope my soul mate will appear soon, but am sooo off reltionships at the moment then he wouldnt have a chance if he did LMAO
Lea :D

Hi, i found mine when i were 15.... we got married on my 17th birthday and this year we've been married 10 years. And i wouldn't change him for the world....he's my soul mate and my best friend!!!!!!!

Took me two failed marriages before I found OH who is most definitely my soul mate.  I just cannot imagine life without him and he adores me - how lucky am I ??  :)

As lucky as I am ;) Lovely to hear people are the same but a shame that there were not more posts as does it mean people are not happy with their lot ??

Lucy
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:) :) :) :)

Same here. Thought I found mine when I was 25....but he turned out to be completely different than I thought.
Stayed single for 3 years after that. Than enjoyed my single life for a while ;)
After that 1,5 years with a guy that couldn't decide wether he wanted kids or not and even worse couldn't decide what he wanted. So said goodbye to him.(5 months ago)
Now 31, single and not sure I would give a guy a change. So fed up with men wanting everything but not willing to make a choice or give something up :(

But still hoping that one good day I will find my soulmate and have kids...still a romantic after all :-)
(just have my doubts about it happening :( )

Don't say that I am 40 and once bitten twice shy.  If mine is out there then I can't see him (woudl help if I could actualy see :D).

I'm the same without the marriage lol. I was married for 9 years and decided it wasn't to be. My OH came on the scene almost 4 years ago. He had never been near a dog and never wanted one. He wandered into my life in (would you believe it) a chatroom. We spoke online for about 8 months before we met. We both knew way before we met that we had very strong feelings for each other, so we agreed to meet and see what happened, it felt as though I had known him all my life. He lets me be myself warts an all and never complains about the lack of housework that goes on lol he usually does it himself :D I find it impossible to have an argument with him as he is so funny when he tries to get mad, I usually end up on the floor laughing. I love him to pieces and know for a fact that I'm a very lucky person to have found someone who is willing to still be here knowing fine well that kids and dogs come way before him :p Mind you in saying that now that he has his girls I'm sure they come well up the list before me :D He is my best friend and I don't even want to contemplate what kind of plonker I'd be with now if it wasn't for him :D 

Is there anyway we can hide this topic, if my OH sees this he'll get a god complex :rolleyes:

I do feel people put up with things but that is ok for some :)

I do however really strongly believe now that there is the soulmate thing ! I have seen old biddies so in love still and be so affectionate that I now think I will be the same ! :) Never had that with anybody before ! :)

Sucking sandwiches together riding up and down the Stannah stair lift for thrills ! :D :D :D That is my life hopefully planned out! ;)

Lucy
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I did the whole putting up with bit when I was married and I'll never do it again. Why should I? I am more than capable of looking after myself the kids and the dogs. My Mum dying put my whole life in perspective and made me realise that life is too short to be unhappy, so I did something about it and haven't regretted it once. Infact I'm happier now than I've ever been :D

My Dad dying was the same catalyst ! :)

Lucy
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After a lot of searching ;) I eventually returned to the chap who'd been my very very best male friend for seven years, and we got married. Twenty years later I can honestly say I haven't had a single day of regret. He really is my 'Other Half' and I never want to be without him. Cheesy I know. Sorry.

I met my soul mate at 17 who I had fancied since I was 15. We got married when I was 19 and this July we will be celebrating our 6th anniversary and there has not been one day that I have regretted it or had doubts. We don't argue cos we both end up laughing, and in the very rare case we have harse words the next morning it is all forgotten. He treats me like a princess and I love him to bits, thinking back to the day I first met him it was love at first sight, but took me 2 years and some "wrong guys" before we got together. Every day I wake up happy to be next to him. Wouldn't change him for anything (except Brad Pitt, but that goes without saying :-D)

I met my soulmate when I was 16, he was 19.    We married four years later, and now, nearly 42 years on, he is still my first thought in the morning, and my last thought at night.    We have been through an awful lot together, and I moan like h*** about him at times, but we are so lucky - we were both so young, but as we've grown up, we've grown together, and find that we can still laugh at the same things - and argue about the same things - and the arguing is as important as the laughing and loving!  (Making up is very good ;) )

An old lady once told us - if you are happy all the time, you don't appreciate it when you are!  It took me a long time to realise what she meant - it really is only in fairy tales that they "lived happily ever after" - after all, if you are never unhappy - you can't know just how good happy can be!

Margot

I have been with my OH 9 years today and we get married this september.  He is most definitely my soul mate, he has helped me through some of lifes most difficult hurdles.  My mum and dad were together for 34 years and his mum and dad have been together 36 years.  I am a right romantic and believe that the one is out there for everyone.

Michelle

I found my soul mate as a friend first, 4 years after i left a terrible marriage ( and 3 kids) we married another 3 years after that and have been married 9 years now, we have a big age difference but its fine with us and we suit each other so well, we are each others soul mate and would be lost without each other, only sad thing is we had to go through the bad to appreciate the good.

I wish my daughter could find her soul mate. Her husband walked out on her and her two little boys over 2 years ago,and she has been in 2 relationships since The first one was a part time one as he had so many interests that didn't include her or the kids,and still lived at home with his parents.The second one she met(on an internet dating site),and she was smitten. We are an easy going family,but none of us took to him at all,although we put up with him for her sake. he unceremoniously dumped her by text message,the week they had planned to spend a holiday together.Said all the usual cliches like Its me,not you.I need to find myself etc.He was a loser with a dead end job,couldn't even drive,lived with his grandmother,and carried a lot of bitterness from his 2 previous relationships. I keep telling her that there is someone out there for her,and I hope she meets him soon,as she is very lonely.

Hi, met mine 25 yrs ago , and still married, :D  He tells me every day how lucky i was to have met him..........;)

jackie

Oh Jeanb.... i really do hope that your daughter finds love. Not everyone out there is a bad person.. she just has to find the right one for her.
Take care. kerry x

Thanks kerry So do I. She is going on a date tomorrow with a guy she has only chatted to on the net and spoken to on the phone a couple of times. Such a worry.This week her husband was up twice to see the kids,never spoke to her,and today a letter arrived from his lawyer saying he wants a divorce.She wants shot of him anyway,but is hurt that he couldn't even tell her beforehand.Never mind,maybe this one she is meeting tomorrow will be Mr Right. One can only hope,and I am always here to pick up the pieces.her theme song now is "many a new day" from Oklahoma.lol

Lol Jean.... It's really nice that your daughter has a mum like you, i wish i had.... my mother was evil and only ever tried to hurt me. I do also hope that this man turns out to be the right one for her.
I'd of thought out of decency that her ex would of told her about the divorce, well at least she'll be shut of him.
Hope everything goes well for her.
Take care. kerry. x

i found mine also,i am putting my 1st marriage down to a learning and growing experience,if i hadnt been married i wouldnt have my girls now and i wouldnt be the person i am now,my new partner says the same we were meant to meet when we did,when we had experienced the downsides.now that has passed it is time to live on the upside.we share the same humour,and likes etc,we even share the same past times thats why we met in a tattoo shop... :D
mel:)

I married my soul mate.  I know how lucky I am to have him in my life.  He's perfect ..... well ok he's MY perfect :D
He puts up with my PMT so he must be.
I've had single people say to me that they want to have what I have with my other half so not only do I know that I've got something really special but other people can see it too :)

I know what you mean as people have commented on how we have such a good relationship as well :)

Lucy
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Lucy are you sure that he is not just after your car?? :D They are very good 'pulling machines'.

I met OH when I was 12, went out with him from 15 married at 18 - that was 23 year ago. Just beginning to wonder if I really want to spend the next 20 odd years with him. Dont get me wrong we have had some wonderful times together, but when he turned 40 he was looking forward to a quite retirement and now Ive turned 40 I want to do all the things I missed out on when we were fighting our ways up carear and property ladders. That and the fact that his life is planned ENTIRELY around work and motorsport and since I come after that and dogs and cats and anthing that needs doing in the house or garden - Im beginning to feel rather like a piece of furnature, who happens to cook and clean and dog walk.... Enough of me feeling sorry for myself it is truly heart warming to hear all of your stories and I have plenty of shows bookd in the next month so wont have to spend too much time with him :o .

Jan x   

Sounds like he needs a good kick up the bum ! :)

I am lucky as have a man who wants the same things in life :)

If you are not happy then go out and find something that will make you happy, life is far too short ;)

Lucy
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Oh Jan, that is sad :-( No one should feel like that, you deserve to feel special. I agree with Lucy, life is too short. Too many sudden deaths have happended in my life at the moment so I am living mine to the full, you never know what is round the corner and you only get one shot at this life!
Hope you can sort things out.
Big hugs.

Thanks for your thoughts Tigerlilly and Lucy. I guess that it is just as difficult to tell when you fall out of love. At the moment I am like the frog in the water that is heating up. Havnt noticed what was happening for so long and now Im not sure that I can jump. After so long together it is difficult to imagine any other life, so I guess Im just waiting for something to happen that will make me jump one way or the other! Having said that I absolutly agree that you should live life to the full and I am doing my best to do that in every other aspect of my life :D  

Don't tell us, tell HIM! :) Everyone has a right to happiness but we have duties too, we make our vows so should do everything in our power to stick to them.  You should at least try to deal with your issues together. And don't forget to examine what changes you could make to make his life better too :)

Trust me Isabel Im trying! I come from a very religious family and divorce is unherd of, so I am trying everything I know how. Unfortunately it is no good talking if the other person is notonly listening but taking and active interest :(

Jan talk as much as you want to us if it helps you work things out. I can't imagine living life without my OH, I wouldn't know where to start so I can understand how you are feeling. It must be very difficult. Talking about it to him must be hard as it is something neither of you want to hear, and there will be alot of denile from his side I expect. Like you say things creep up on you and it is hard to notice what is happening until it has happened. Maybe a thrid party may help in this, relate or something similar? Seriously though, if you want to talk do :-)