Just to let all the people of this board who so kindly offered words of support to me when I posted last Monday about the horrible allegations made against me, which led to me being arrested and charged.
I am so pleased to be able to tell you that my nightmare is now over, I attended the police station today where I had to wait for an agonsing 3 hours before being interviewed, within 10 minutes of my interview ending, the police said they would be taking no further action, and the matter has been completely dropped.
I cannot tell you all how relieved I am that this was the outcome, especially after hearing this malicious girls account of what happened, it was beyond my belief that a young girl could knowingly make such terrible lies up. And I have to say the police were very kind to me, and treated me very well.
Once again thank you so much, I can now have a good nights sleep and just get back to my normal life. And please any mums out there, or dads, never approach a child/teenager if you have a problem, go straight to the police.

Phew, what a relief!!  I felt sure that you'd be OK but in this day and age, you never really know until it happens!  So pleased for you. :) :) :)

Glad everythings worked out ok Tash :)

Glad it's all over now.

Margot

So glad everything has worked out for you.
Mary

Glad to hear that you were treated well(even if they did make you wait which they shouldn't have without explanation)& that the matter had been dropped

I would always counsel erring on the side of caution as you have so righted added re youngsters in this litigious era

Have a good night's sleep

Hi glad everything in the end turned out ok, i would of been surprised if any charge was made, and with regards to your waiting maybe the police officer dealing with it was on rest days or possibly holidays, anyway now you can sleep better,

That's great news Tashina :D  I'm really glad that it has gone no further, and that you can get back to normality :)

Lesley

Glad it's over!

I'm so pleased for you Tashina, I was fairly certain nothing would come of it but you never know, as someone else has said!

Take care,
Lindsay
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So glad to hear this :)  Don't suppose there's any chance of the police charging THEM with wasting police time???......

I'm so glad for you.  I can't imagine how awful this past week has been for you.  :)

Really pleased for you, thank goodness it's all sorted out.

Brilliant news!!!

Good will always prevail!!!! :)

what a relief for you! :) :)

Glad it is all over.  :-)

Think you are bang on with the advice about just contacting the police in future.

Pam

Hi all thanks for your replies.

Just to let the people who asked, I waited for so long because the custody suite was so busy, then  I was tansferred into a holding cell where I had to wait to be photographed, questioned (confirming name address etc.)  and searched in the custody suite, all not very nice.
I dont think they will be charged with wasting police time, I'm just glad the whole thing is over, thanks all.

Glad to hear things have now been resolved but have you thought about taking out a civil action against this girls family give a bit back and also include the bullying and abuse THEY'VE dished out?  I know it's strange but I do feel the more often we as members of the public stand up to the likes of these individuals using the Law the better as the police really don't have the resources to do so.  I was indecently assaulted last summer and am still thinking about taking legal action out against the guy who did it - he admitted the charge and now has a record for 5 yrs but it still doesn't mean I can walk the streets without fear of it happening again especially with it being someone I'd grown up around.

schip

Many of my friends have suggested similar things like taking civil action, or suing for false allegations, that kind of thing, I'm not sure of all the terms or things you can do.  The way I feel now is that I'm just so relieved it's over, I really dont want to stir up a hornets nest, really I should be going back to the police to make the initial complaint that this girl has breached her original harrasment warning from the police, but after this week I dont have the energy or the inclination to do so.
I really have no wish to get revenge or any payback, all I want is for my daughter to be able to go to our town with her friends without fear of this girl. Some people may think she has got away with it, but, in a way I feel sorry for her, she will not have a good life, if at 14 she can make up such dreadful things, she is already going down the wrong path and probably will seal her own fate eventually.
I am so sorry to hear of your own awful circumstances,  I wish I could advise you, the only thing I can say is that you should be able to walk in your own community without fear of this person, and if there is something you can do to protect others from this person as well as yourself, then you should do so.
all the very best.

Glad to hear everything turned out ok in the end. Hopefully the accusors think they have made you suffer enough, just hope it is a big enough town to stear clear of them in future. cannot say that you would get far taking action against them as they will probably just get legal aid and you would have to pay  the lot and would probably get more stressed about it? Put it down to experience and get on with enjoying life.

i just had an upset, where we live now we get a lot of trouble with kids, we moved here to get away from kids.Anyway the other day i asked the council again if we could have front fence as kids were coming onto our property to get snow as we were the only ones with snow left, and throwing iced up snowballs that hit our window, they have thrown things over the fence such as a base ball bat,1/2 a flint brick, rusted metal cooking pan, stones,footballs, sticks, so we or the dogs cant use that part of the garden,we have phoned the police when we found one kid on our shed and when the brick came over, then the other day someone knocked on our front door, i got the dogs in and unlocked ( we always lock it) the door to find no one there, so locked up again settled the dogs, it happened again so as our kitchen is at the front i looked through the window to see a girl running across the garden.So i told Mike to keep the dogs in and i went out and across the road was a few kids, i walked as if to go past but when i got close to them another girl said 'did someone knock on your door', the girl id seen running away, i grabbed her coat front bit she didnt move or run away so no need to move and said 'if you knock on my door again you will get more trouble than you want' the other girl was saying 'im sorry im sorry', i just walked away and left it at that.I noticed one of the nosey neighbours here looking from her front window as they always do,its like living in a goldfish bowl, and i knew she had seen as she had her head down.Just now theres a knock on the door with 3 or 4 women and some kids,saying did you asault my kid, i explained what i did and held the mothers front of her coat collar to show her, another woman was shouting and saying something about i had threatened to cut the kids throat with a knife,and said that id picked her up and dropped her and dragged her up the street, and they had one of my neighbours as a witness, they were going to take me to court to get me done for assault, which i had never done, im not too scared as i know i didnt do anything apart from hold the kids coat and tell her what i said which must have taken all but a minute and walked back home across the road, and told my hubby ( 74) what happened.Im upset and angry cause i didnt do anything like they all said and scared cause ive never done anything ever on the wrong side of the law and i dont tell lies but if other people can tell lies where do honest people stand.Im going to phone the police in a minute and see what they say, sorry just so fed up why dont people sort their own kids out

oh good luck,i think police know genrally who the real trouble makers are. you must be careful though.

Oh Sullysmum Im so sorry. Believe me I know how tempting it is to go and grab the little blighters. Unfortunately most areas seem to suffer with them. In our case I suppose that we are fairly fortunate in that most parents do care a little what their kids get up to, never the less we had weeks and weeks where every thursday, friday , saturday night we would have people ringing the door bell and throwing eggs ant the house (partly because they knew it would set the dogs off). I have to say that the only way we have found of dealing with it is to share numbers with neighbours to make us feel more secure (Im often alone in the house at these times) and Hubby managed to get talking to some of them, gives them sewwts occaisionally etc and the fact that they now konw us seems to make them less likely to target us. Since early November we have only had 2 incidences of things being thrown at the house, which is a massive improvement.

As to dealing with angry parents, you will have to judge which (if any) it may be worth approaching individually and explaining your side of the story.

Finally Im sure that you cannot be the only one suffering these problems and so find others who you can contact for moral support, even if it is only popping across the road for a cup of sugar at key times ;) It is also worth speaking to neighbourhood watch and the police. We found that because people were 'suffering in silence' and not reporting incidents, because the police wouldnt do anything any way, we were not deemed to have any problems and so didnt need any policing!!!!    

I know it isnt easy to deal with, but just remember that you are an adult and need to deal with these things in that way, reducing yourself to their level (much as we would like to occaisionally) will give them the upper hand. 

Oh and as regards a fence, can you not be a little creative? Neighbours of ours solved the problem by building a raised bed on the boundry of the property (not high enough to sit on though). Or even some nice spiky shrubs!

Best wishes Jan

Thanks, we have put Roses intermitantly all around the front garden last year about a foot apart but it didnt stop any of the kids with the snow or the knock down  ginger ones running across the grass and through the gaps.I didnt shout back when being shouted and screamed at, just told them what i had done and then the mother said 'what did you say to threaten her' and i just said ive just told you, i said to the girl come and tell them what i said to you ,but she was shivering and shaking ( pretend or not) behind someone else.Ive just phoned the police and told the lady there, she has given me 2 incident numbers from last year when i contacted them and the one from today which i have to give to the council on monday.Wish i could have a 6 foot fence all around the front like we have at the back.

Sounds like you are doing the right things. Sadly Im not sure that a 6 foot fence would be much of a deterrant. Maybe more of a challenge?

I have to confess that when I feeling nasty I just opent the door and let the labs chase them. I know they wouldnt bite, but it gives them a run for their money :p 

How about with a lid on it!

Please be careful - for your own sake as much as anything else.   Don't know how old you are (but you mention your husband being 74) - but I'm assuming you've got 30+ years on me and I wouldn't dream of tackling a group of kids/teenagers/youths whatever - even verbally never mind literally :(    Apart from the fact that they could make up any kind of lie about you or target your property still further for vandalism etc, you are also taking a chance on being physically abused by them and the way I see it it's just not worth it.

I'm fortunate to live in a quiet residential area where there's rarely any trouble but if there's a hint of it I just call the police and specifically tell them not to call at my house when they've done with their cruise patrol of the area.  Sadly I don't think anyone can be TOO careful these days.

Try not to worry, as said already the Police usually know who the local trouble makers are.
best wishes,

Teri ;)

Im 48,my husband is my toy boy x.

Shouldn't that be sugar-daddy :D

Well wipe that grin off your face, you're still older than me :P , Teri

We call it the otherway round for fun,

  (my fave smiley of the moment, lol)

Along with the roses, couldn't you try something like berberis shrubs for hedging - safe I think for the puplets but will scratch the little #*#%@# to pieces :P  Can't you just tell I love kids?????  OK, I'm not a fan - only ever liked one and she's my own ;)

Good luck, Teri

Well we will see what the council says they did refuse us first last year on a fence we wanted cause everyone was using our front garden as a loo with the dogs and we have a huge park one bungalow away why kids and people and there dogs have to even be near our garden i dont know, anyway if they say apply again in April like they said the other week cause of tax year no money left etc, then we will put more Roses in between each gap and hope they intertwine into a hedge type thingy, thanks for everyones support, it might seem little but the upset is awful.

There are some roses specially for hedging (ish) I believe they are called Rosa Rugosa - have sweet smelling flowers and lots and lots of thorns ;)
You may have to get them from a specialist catalogue,
Lindsay
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2 days ago i got a knock on my door whilst i was in bed, and it was the girl who caused me all the aggrovation, she said to me 'do you remember......etc etc......I said yes, she said she was sorry! I aksed had she told her mother the truth about what happened and that i didnt do what she said, she said yes, i told her i had been sad and upset and please not to do it again she said she wouldnt.I still feel a bit emotional about the whole thing but hope i can learn from my experience, just thought you would all like to know.

I hope they've learned a lesson from all that unnecessary nastiness. Maybe the police gave them some 'advice'? I hope so, and that your life settles down again now.
:)

Although i made a formal complaint about what they accused me of to the police,i didnt know who they were or where they lived,and the police said they hadnt had a complaint at my time of phoning,i would have liked the parents and all the mothers who were screaming abuse at me to have apologised too but doubt that will ever happen, at least it seems to be over with.Thanks.

Hopefully it's all (unpleasant) history now. Fingers crossed.
:)

Its seems theres hope for this girl yet.
Best wishes