I have just read Bobo's thread and feel I want to gather her up and just cuddle her,how very awful for her to be going through this. We too got tragic news yesterday a very dear friend died whilst out walking his dog yesterday.He has been a friend of ours for over 15yrs,my husband has run a local scout group with him all this time. He leaves a disabled wife in a wheelchair and 3 sons who are not all together well themselves,they have epileptic fits and have bone disorders needing various operations through their lives.
He was a person who would do anything for others,he worked hard,loved his family and his dog.He had just returned from shopping and took the dog for a walk on the common,but never came back, a suspected heart attack.
I cannot comprehend how his wife will be feeling through all of this and his son called my husband last night but could not talk on the phone he was so choked up with it all.
We will be there for them if they need anything,but what can you do but offer to listen and to be there for them if needed.
We only get one chance at life and we have to make the most of every single day.
Jacqueline.

These two threads have made me reallise just how fragile our hold on life is:  we can all think we have it planned out - but then something happens.

Just give let all your loved ones know how much you care for them all - we've got all the bally-hoo about Valentines Day tomorrow - but it's TODAY that's important.

Thinking of you, and your friend's family - sounds as if you are going to have to be strong for a lot of people - and I pray that they are given the strength to go on.

Margot - who is going to find the OH & give him a hug

So very true, Margot. I remember being told that it's better to give flowers to people while they can enjoy them, rather than put them on their grave.

When OH and the Boy go out I make sure I've told them I love them. If (please no) the worst happens, I'll know I've told them.

It certainly puts a lot of things into perspective :( I was just sitting here - prior to reading these messages - feeling very sad because I'd just received an email to say that my second cousin in Canada had died. He was in his 70's and had had cancer for some years. I didn't even know of his existence until about 6 years ago when I 'discovered' him via the internet. He had become - to me - a sort of substitute uncle, although I only met him once. But he had had a full life and although his family will be missing him dreadfully, it is nothing in comparison to a family with young children losing a father (or mother). My mother lost her father when she was 8 and it had quite an impact on her life :(

My thoughts go out to both families

Daisy

Treasure what you have now, today. I lost a brother when I was4, my mother at 24 (2days before her 50th birthday) and my husband when I was 29. I have no other family and my daughters are everything to me, and now, when I never thought it would happen, I am going to be a grandmother.

We all need friends at times like these Porkie, even if we say we are fine. Just knowing that someone is there and cares, goes a long way.  I am sure you and your husband will find a way of helping her through this, even if it is simply just to hold her hand

porkie, i am sorry for your friend and his family .why do the good people have to go like this...

It's so sad when life hands you these blows, only yesterday i was on the phone to my aunty and her daughters friend one of a twin fourteen years old had fallen down the stairs and they had turned of the life support machine yesterday morning 10 minutes after his body gave up.