Honestly, sometimes I am glad I have no brothers and sisters!

My aunt, who is 100 years old in August, lives with my mum and dad. They never get a break and have had her living with them for 14 years. She's a nice enough old lady but its still a strain. Add to that they also look after my Grandad who is 90 and reasonably fit & healthy.

Anyway...my aunt's neice died a couple of weeks ago (also in her 90's) and my dad, who is 65 himself took my aunt and my grandad the 100 odd miles to the funeral.

My aunt has today received a letter from another neices son saying he will never ever speak to her again because she didn't get my dad to do a 50 mile divert and pick up his mum!! My aunt is 99.5 years old, its christmas, and she gets a letter like that

She doesn't want anyone to know she's had the letter. I want to ring him and give him a damn good earful.

How can people be so bl**dy nasty. She's spent the afternoon crying.

I am sitting on my hands so as not to get involved. No-one ever comes and takes my aunt out for the day to give my mum and dad a break, yet they expect my dad to run round after them!!

What a rotten git that cousin of yours is! He deserves an earful for being so horrible - what a wicked thing, to be so deliberately nasty. I don't think I could be as restrained as you - though as it would upset your great-aunt I'd have to be ... Hateful person! Selfish inconsiderate ...

Families eh who would have  them :(

Nasty, nasty piece of work So typical of todays culture of self, self self :(

Chloe you're a better woman than I. I'd have to lay into him. Darned bully :(

and why couldn't he take his mum?  damm family members think they can take advantage...Did he ask before hand?

I think with families sometimes they say things that they wouldnt say to others purely because they are *related*  and therefore think its ok :(

I honestly think that is warped and cowardly. His wife (who fell out with my aunt years ago over something my aunt allegedly said about her dad ) invited me, mum, dad and grandad to their daughters wedding and deliberately left aunty out - even though she was living with mum and dad at the time. That upset her aswell. Is there any need to be so petty to someone who is 100 years old?!

That said, my cousin who wrote the letter lost his wife to an unexpected heart attack at 50 and he has the early stages of Motor neurone disease and he knows he is going to die...I wonder if there is some resentment there for auntie living to 100.

Even though he is that ill there are other members of the family who could have at least brought his mum to my dads house (he's still driving). My dad is 65 and still working from 7am to 6pm to support his family and no-one EVER helps him and mu with auntie even though she was one of 14 and has countless relatives!

I wonder if there is some special prize I could nominate him and my mum for? Any ideas anyone?

I think that quite a few local councils do their own Carer awards Chloe, you could possibly check the net for something?

Someone in our village in similar cicumstances got invited to a Buckingham Palace Garden Party.  They had to be nominated.  I don't know how it works but it might be worth looking into.