I'm feeling rough been up with a tummy bug all night, went back to bed at 8am and slept till 12noon, when I got up.  The house is an absolute pig sty!  The dogs still in!  Everything a mess, I couldn't believe it, I just sat and cried.  Eldest then went off to work, I didn't say a word, half hour later the phones ringing saying can I bring he babies bottles to childminders as she's forgotten them, I said 'NO', i'm not normally mean and two wrongs don't make a right but why couldn't she help me knowing i was ill (i did say this on telephone).  I'm feeling slightly better and have managed to do some stuff and will continue to do it slow as my mind is tellinng me to get on but my body ain't letting me!  she came back for bottles, slammed in house, got bottles from fridge and slammed out again.  Now why do I feel so damn guilty!  The dogs are outside running in the leaves!

I think she needs to apologise to you for being so ignorant !

Forget about the house and get on the sofa with your feet up and wait for everybody to get home and get them to do the tidying and the dinner ! :)

Lucy
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you feel guilty cos you normally run around after your family !!!!!!!!!! but then it's your turn for help no one bothers ....Oh sounds like my house ..... put your feet up and let them cook their own tea and see if anyone offers you any ???..hope you feel better soon

I agree with what the others have said.  Go and relax on the sofa and let everyone else sort themselves out for a change.  They're adults at the end of the day and should show a little more appreciation for you!!

Hope your feeling better  :-)

My Ex husband used to do that sort of thing - make me feel guilty for his behaviour - it's one of the reasons he's my Ex, but I don't think you can divorce children can you???  :(

I think it's a learnt behaviour - and I blamed his mother for making him the centre of attention when he threw a wobbler which just perpetuates the behaviour - NOT that I am saying YOU do this Craigles, but maybe somebody in the house has taught her to do this?