Hi All,

OH has gone away for 2 weeks for work and, my god, am I missing him! I didn't realise how much I would until I took him to the airport at 4.00am Saturday (yesterday) morning, It must be love as I would NEVER get up at 1.00am for anyone :D I don't know what to do with myself, and 7yr old daughter is not making it any easier :( She cried herself to sleep last night and ended up hogging my bed

You would think that it was for a year, not 2 weeks  and it got me thinking, how on earth do people stay the pace when they are married to people in the forces?  I don't know what to do with myself, the dogs have had 2, 5 mile walks so far :D and they are not appreciating my loneliness :D  I always thought that I was a self sufficient person (emotionally) but this has taught me something about myself that I'm not sure I like I am not currently working due to illness which of course doesn't help, has any one got any ideas as to how I can amuse myself and STOP me feeling sooo sorry for myself? :( I am intolerant of self pity in others, so why am I now, for the first time in my life, feeling like a very weak and vunerable person??? At this rate I will be turning to the wine for comfort :D :D

Ok guys, you don't have to go overboard with the "dear Deirdrie" advice, know its not a problem page ;) but was looking for some support from my co-dogriate fellow citizens as to how I can stop being a pathetic soul and try to start living, instead of existing again, without mooning about like a teenager. (god, now I come to mention it, I wouldn't want to be a lovesick teenager again for all the dogs in the world) :D CHEER ME UP!!! somebody............please :( :(

Awww I'm sure you will be fine and you won't miss all his nasty habbits (toilet seat will always be down!! ;) )

Not sure what you could do, me only being a youngster doesn't quite fully undersand and my world ends when my boyfriends dump me!!!!! :D he he,

Nasty habits, oh god, uurrhh!!! Thats true :)  We have just had the most terrible row on the phone, (he was doing this as a favour for a friend) and it has made me think, was our relationship good anyway? basically, I have re evaluated my life and have looked at it from a different point of view! I wouldn't even question living with my dogs because thats unconditional love but with him...perhaps a different thing :( :(  Or am I being an irrational woman?

Ok be careful with what you say between now and him coming back, don't make any rash dessisions, and don't (try not to) get into another argument, ok so I don't know what the last one was about, but try and think, are you turning all grumpyish (not quite the word really is it) because he has gone and your missing him?  Surly though if you miss him it tell you that you love him...etc....

But yea what do I know...I haven't yet been married, let alone in a "PROPER" long term relationship.. (I'm only 16...can help teens, but adults....I'm not so good at... :)

This is very typical self-defence when faced with being alone and having to adjust.... you could well be needling him in an attempt to get him to confirm his feelings for you and reassure you. Its hard to advise on here but feel free to PM me. Been there done that bought the t-shirt :)

At this rate I will be turning to the wine for comfort

Give in - come into the darkside..... :D

I was married to the forces for ten years - I hated Paul going away and hated the way I then got used to it and then ended up hating it when he did come back and messed the house up! Now I am with Jon and I can't be without him for a night - how pathetic LOL

ChloeH, I have already given in and entered the darkside :D For me, there is no going back :D I will now drown in the world of wine or any other alcoholic beverage that happens to be on offer :D

But because of my female psychie (sp) I fear that it is already too late! I have just done what thousands of females do and given him the "I don't give a s***" what you do but because you have hurt my feelings you are NOT coming back to me!! Why do I do it when I am not quite sure that I mean it??? My bitch is now doing the same thing to my boy, except he is not out of the country (I think that she wishes he was though) :D :D at least she can make it up to him whenever she feels like it though :(  In fact they are flirting with each other now, god, I'm jealous. Can you imagine, if we all communicated and flirted like dogs? picture the scenario if you will, laying on our backs, teeth out, rear end wagging, and hands touching each others faces and of course, the grumble to tell the world that we are touching base :) We would be arrested, especially if we all did in public what my boy is now attempting to do to  my bitch

I've been living on my own for 7 years (god, is it that long ;) ) , well not quite. My kids and dogs are with me. GO AWAY JENNI :D . I love it on my own, but would occassionally like someone to cuddle up to. I spend my time walking the dogs, on here, on eBay or doing cross-stitch. Haven't gone over to the darkside yet ;) after living with an alcoholic I'm afraid I don't even keep the stuff in the house. (sad, or what :) ) I find that the best way to pass the time is throw the clock away, that way you won't be watching it all the time :D Find something you like and treat yourself. A beauty treatment, for example. Or at least a day at the shops

My OH lives in new york city...you just get used to it, and its cos you are not used to it that you miss him. I bet I couldnt cope if mine actually came back to live with me! i might actually have to start cooking properly, tidying up,  and heaven forbid actually having to tell him when Ill be home :D   And there would be no room for him in the bed with both affies in there...Oh , I'd much prefer he stayed in NYC ( good for cheap hols too :) )