My Ex husbands mother died last week and I would like to send some flowers to her funeral. My ex and I are still on speaking terms and he said they would be welcome, but I don't know what to put on the card. Something simple that isn't too over the top. She was a lovely lady who suffered from Parkinsons Disease. I hadn't seen her since we split up 5 years ago, I was the one who instigated the split and so I'm sure I upset many of his family members at the time and wouldn't want to cause any extra upset to them by writing something that might offend them at the funeral.
I have no idea what to write, any help appreciated.

I went through this recently... I put "Thinking of You" and bought my ex's dad a rose in the name of his wife instead of flowers :)

How about .....''you are in my thoughts at this difficult time '' ........or thinking of you ......or just ''sincere condolances ''

Don't do what my son did when I trusted him to order flowers for an Uncle's funeral and put 'sorry you're dead' on the card. I could have died myself when I saw it when looking at all the flowers after the funeral.

How about Rest peacefully, love....

@ Harriet's son!! I agree, the simplest messages are often the most effective at times like this, you don't need to write anything of length, just put what you want to say, no one would think any less of you for writing what you feel! :)

Harriet would you mind if I use this in one of my training sessions - I am a counsellor and I am always looking for stuff like this for icebreakers during training!!!!!

No Manxpat, go ahead and use it as an ice breaker. Just hope you're not a bereavement councellor, it would go down like a ton of bricks wouldn't it.

Just keep it simple - such as "my thoughts are with you all on this sad day" - It is difficult to know what to say, but to say nothing is worse - no one can be upset because of your kind gesture.

In these circumstances I would choose wording to show that the flowers were being sent as a  tribute to the memory of the deceased.  Such as 'with fond memories of...' or 'in remembrance of....'

Thank you every one for your help and suggestions.

Joules