:-) ...before we decide to have Emma strung up by her thumbs...dare I venture to say that sometimes those who are used to being ****on from a great hight recognise in other the use of humor or being flippant (sometimes totally inappropriately) to hide their real feelings. It is not always a sign of irresponsiblility, but something that becomes second nature after a while and is used to help people to survive :-(

I agree with you reddoor, Emma has owned up to her responsibilities as far as I can see. Flippancy is a failsafe, I use it and so do many other people. If we didnt we would all be babling neurotics, nervous wrecks and zombied out on Prozac.

I dont know Emma's situation, but if she is not in work and wants to have dogs to keep her company (and sane) then thats her business, however she chooses to pay for their keep.

Emma, never done the skip thing, but am a car boot sale junkie.

Good luck

Kay

Every comment you have made has indeed come from something ive said in my posts..... however you have totally mis-read, and twisted what i have said.

In my first post, which i wrote not half an hour after the incident had happened (and was very shaken and in tears), i am pretty sure i stated that i gave the man my name and address... that was MY suggestion, he was still screaming at me and threatening to call the police and suggesting that if i left i wouldnt come back.

What part of giving someone my address, full name and telephone number suggests im trying to wriggle out of my responsibilities?

Yes, im afraid i DO use humour to protect myself, i find it quite common in a lot of people with low self esteem, or depressive tendancies, such as i have.

Surely the fact that i have posted here, no matter how my post comes across, suggests that i DO want advice as to how i can sort this situation out, and if you had read my first post properly, i did in fact state ' i want advice'.

Maybe i didnt make myself clear about the bichon frise.. as i was leaving the car owners property, a bichon from one of the other houses in the row came running out, and despite me shutting the gate, escaped and followed me FOUR times, each time i returned it, and tried to catch the attention of an adult, but there was no one around.
So yes, i WAS being flippant about 'keeping' the bichon, who HASNT made a joke about keeping a dog thats followed them repeatedly???

As i may have said before, insuring THREE dogs isnt an issue, id only have to insure two as Abby (the dog who caused the damage) is nearly ten, and too old to be taken on by any insurer..... she has only been my dog for about 3 months, and i took her on BEFORE my financial situation changed, or i wouldnt have taken her on at all.

I do care very deeply about the trouble i have caused, that may not come across in type very well, but i do, if i didnt why would i be publicly baring some private and personal details,  knowing full well that humourless or uncaring people can have a go at me?

Em

Em there for the grace of god go most of us, we are in a similar situation ie no pet insurance and hubby and myself both off work through illness, everyone of us should be wishing you well and hoping that all goes well for you as we could everyone of us be in a similar position at any time I hope you get it sorted and I for one dont think youve tried to duck your responsiblitlys good luck and I am sure it will be sorted once the man has cooled off you have done your best to sort it so try not to worry to much
Maggie

fine.

Aahh...Takes me back to an old post where I mentioned my pup trotting up to a border collie - I got mostly grief because I didn't have a 100% recall over a seven month old sight hound.  But now we are all sympathetic to a dogs prey drive because it was chasing a cat :rolleyes:  Funny old bunch sometimes...Em, dont ask this lot, sort the damage out caused by your dog in a responsible and amicable way - I'd be well p***** if someones dog scratched my car, although i would hope, sympathetic because I'm a dog owner...Unfortunatley you were there to blame - do the decent thing...
Sarah :)

ps. I meant 'this lot' in a nice/humerous way...Dont tell me off :D

dont worry Rozzer, i have sorted it out....

Im not tellin anyone off.... i *get* humour! hee hee

Em

Nice one Em :)

I haven't been on here for ages and have just sat and read through all the comments.

I have to agree that,  in particular to me your very first post has come across as very flippant and really seemed to be getting at the car owner, as though it was his fault.  If you are genuinely sorry about the damage caused, perhaps you should have worded your post better eh?  Please read it again and understand why some members are a little peeved at your attitude.

ARGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH

Right, for the FINAL time....... i wrote taht post not long after it had happened..... ok, mr car owner, stroppy man whatever i called him (dont forget, I met him, you didnt) was an annoying little git, he would have been an annoying little git if i HADNT knackered his car, and quite honestly no im not sorry for making a judgement like that about some one i dont know. After all he made the judgement that i was a big fat tattooed *insert insult of choice here* council estate *insert another one here* and taht i had no intention of coming abck and sorting out his car.

He was VERY offensive, VERY threatening and i was VERY scared of him!  Dont forget, i OFFERED this man my address and phone number, i couldnt leave in case he followed me and i was scared i was going to get smacked, so i stayed trying to sort it out, just to get more abuse.

I didnt want to mention this, but i suffer depression, anxiety and mild agoraphobia, so i dont like going out anyway, although obviously i have to to walk my dogs, the LAST thing i needed was for this to happen, and i havent been out of my house except on the fields where there are no other people since.

So YES i was flippant, and yes ok, im an awful person, ok.   This man does have a garage and where he lives there ARE animals running about freely that might scratch his car, so if he is THAT upset about some scratches, he could USE his garage.

I have explained several times WHY i come across as bieng flippant.

At the time i was actually incredibly upset at what had happened and i did/ do want to do as much as i can to sort the problem out, that is very difficult bearing in mind i dont have a pot to piss in at the moment!

So, has everyone finished having a go at me?  lucytia, did you have anything useful to add? or did you just think you would come and make me feel even worse about this? because now i feel even more shit. If YOU had read the thread you would see that a number of times ive said i can understand perfectly why people have reacted the way they did. So, ta for your opinion, if you have some ADVICE, please give it, i didnt ask for your criticisms!

Em

I still loves ya Em!!  :D:
Dawn.

  ... Em :-)..... problems come to everyone at sometime, we deal with them in different ways and the circumstances are not always apparent. It's best not to judge anyone when we don't know the full facts, hope your and your dogs are ok :-D

Thanks guys! :)

Em

I do feel that there was absolutely no need for you to be so rude to me, I most certainly wasn't rude to you.  Perhaps you should have waited before making your first post about this unfortunate incident and then some members wouldn't have taken your comments the wrong way eh?

maybe i shouldnt have been, but i had explained on at least one post before yours, why my post came across the way it did.

Yep, mebbes i shouldnt have posted as soonas it happened, but i DONT have the benefits of living with anyone i can share these problems with, hopefully you do, so you can talk to someone else, but for me, i dont, so if i need advice, if i need to get something off my chest, here (or other message boards) is where i come.

I was asking for ADVICE and you didnt give any advice, you just jumped on the bandwagon of having ago at the way i posted. So that is why i was rude to you. Dont forget, when you put your twopence in, to a thread like this, its a REAL person at the end of it, a real person who may have not come across in the right way, but was incredibly upset at what had happened, and really did want to put things right, NOT get an earful of abuse at the way id asked for the advice!

Here endeth this thread, and im no longer going to respond to anything posted on it.

Em