I have a large 6 year old deaf boxer, we've had since he was a pup, attended classes and very challenging till he was 2 years but has turned into a gentle giant. 3 years ago we introduced a rescue toy dog,male (now aged 6 yrs) who feels he should be top dog who was never socialised,walked etc We've worked hard with him and although he beleives he is top dog I'm not so sure. But the 2 dogs have a good relationship and I recently felt we had room in our life for another toy female dog.
We brought her into the family 3 weeks ago and the 2 males were both besotted. She is a happy dog and although the same breed as the male totally opposite, he can be a real Victor Mildrew!
The 2 toys paired up and were madly in love for 10 days until last w/end when our little male
started snapping at her occasionally, normally over a chew or if she was bouncing around him.
I've also noticed that with me he seems quiet and I'm wondering if I've done the right thing. He is still treated as top dog but he is checking constantly if I'm making a fuss of her. I make a fuss of her quietly or when he's sleeping in another room. Is this right?
My 5 year old female lived in outdoor kennels and is not toilet trained, lead trained and sometimes when we call her name she will cower and skulk along the settee. The other thing is that our female has finally found her bark and will bark at both males and I'm not sure if she's trying to be top dog. My large boxer is keeping out of it all. The two toys   have had a couple of tussle and spats this week always over chews, I have been told to leave them to sort it out themselves. They are not hurting each other.I'm afraid I have a number of questions here but my main concern is my little male, at times it appears he is sulking and he moves his ears backwards and down yet he still wags his tail when they are out in the garden together. Any ideas to help this relationship along. I'm sure in the long run it will be fine and I have plenty of patience but tips greatly received.

Can anyone help?

It sounds as if the new rescue is starting to find her feet and settle in to her new home.  It usually takes anything from one to three weeks.  Your male is bound to be wanting your reassurance that you still love him too. :) and it's perfectly normal and OK for him to tell her off if she's being a bit too bouncy and OTT.  If chew bones are going to cause a tussle then pick them up and only give them to them when you can separate them maybe.  Don't worry too much about who is going to be top dog or at least don't try too much to influence it.  Best to let them decide.  It can change between dogs by mutual agreement.  Usually the women let the men think they are 'top dog' just for a quiet life.  :D
HTH
Sally

Thankyou, thats reassuring. I was quite worried when I wrote the message but funny enough over the weekend my male toy has suddenly become really friendly with all of us again!