my daughter phoned me tonight and told me she is getting a bullmastiff at the weekend, her boyfriend has bought it for her, he paid £130. for it apparently has all its papers its 8weeks old, i dont know were he got it from, not only does that sound suspicious ( i mean £130.) but my daughter has two sons 2/3 yrs old 2 kittens and she lives in a ground floor flat, they cant keep up with there bills never mind getting a puppy, this is all because the boyfriend wants a dog, they are always fighting and only last week she and the two grandsons came to stay with us for two days because they had a argument, i have tried to put her off the idea tonight by telling her how much the puppy will cost for vets fees etc, i can see us falling out over this.

Heidi

i cant say i understand what your going through with your daughter as mine is only 8 but from a daughter to mother i can say sometimes be cruel to be kind, be there for your daughter when things go badly but let them get on with it, bit of a catch 22, if they get skint help with the youngens but not the so called adults.
be strong and i hope you are ok through this.
sam

£130 for a Bullmastiff sounds very cheap. However there doesn't appear to be much you can do to stop them getting the pup :(  Some people will never listen, you've done your best, that's all you can do. I just hope as a 'Mum' you don't end up picking up the bits!!

liberty

my mum always reminds me about the past, what help she had the heartbreak and the peices she had to pick up after me, now i have her living with me at 70 years old and i love her to death, its my turn to look after her. shes never regretted it really and i know in time when my daughter is older i will do the exact same, this is what mothers do.
all the very best to you
sam

I agree Sam, Mums' are great for being there when things go wrong, but does Heidi really want to end up re-homing a Bullmastiff, because her daughter and OH can't cope with it, despite her efforts to educate them at the start ??

liberty :)

when they decide they cant afford it they will expect me to take it in,
Heidi

Must have posted around the same time Heidi :)

i dont want another dog, as much as i love all dogs, i choose to have one so that he gets everything he needs and he is absolutely spoilt rotten, if i won the lottery i would have a kennel built and have loads of dogs but i havent,

Heidi                            

no matter how heartbreaking for you youve got to be strong and say no.
im the same i would turn this house into a rescue centre if i could, on monday when i was getting mums pension there was such a friendly dog, a boxer, actually with a long tale:
lerking outside the post office and the post master came out several times to shew him off anyway i pined he had no collar on and looked so lost and cold, mum was with me and she glared over as she knew what i thought.
its hard to say no but you have to.
sam

To be honest Sam, and this is not a critisism (sp) a dog without an owner should be taken to a Rescue Centre, it may be lost/dis-orientated.By shooing the dog away, you could end up with dog running into a busy road, and injuring not only itself, but also mototrists, unable to avoid the dog.

i agree !  i didnt shew the poor love away it was the postmaster, i had my mum in the wheelchair and needed to look after her, i wish i could have done something but i couldnt

Fingers crossed for you Heidi, that they give the dog a good home, and if they look to you to re-home it, at least you should be able to pick up lots of information on here, about where to go.

liberty (ever-the-optomist)

syncranized timing liberty haha

the trouble is, by the time they decide they cant look after it i will be attached to it and wont be able to say no .
Heidi

Daughters, you know that you are the last person that she is going to listen to, here comes yet another big lesson for her,,,,, what mums really do and all those big poos.  You know it's going to come to a re-home but you have to think of the dog ;)  Those with 8 yr olds brace yourself for whats to come, you have no idea.

yippee good news,
apparently he hadnt even been to see the pup and they found out this morning that the last pup has gone, my daughter told me he had bought it and they were getting it at the weekend, maybe ive put them off the idea because i text my daughter this morning telling her all the info i had found on the net about Bullmastiffs, you all and i know they are wonderful dogs but i only told her the bad thing that can happen :D

Heidi :)