It will be fine ;)

Do a lovely leg of lamb and a lovely apple crumble and it will remind him of what he is missing :D

..and remember - smile sweetly at her - and DON'T DIG!!! She does have some taste - it's your boy she's gone for!!!

Just come on here & explode when you want to say something to her!! :D :D :D

Margotxx

Yup the less you say the more it will get to her more as she dosent want you to be seen as the good one.and your son wont have anything bad to think. i think she has a problem by the sounds of things. scared of loosing your son so much that shes scared his mates away and trying the same with you. pretty sad i think, my cousins hubbys the exact same , 

Well the meal went ok last night - all a bit guarded.  She wan't really well, she didn't look at all well, but the evening went alright, they left early because she wasn't feeling too good, it was genuine.
They had asked to walk the Dogs today, we'll see if they come, she might not be up to it, I think she suffers from Sinisitis(spelling x).

Will update

Sweep xx

From the sounds of it, things went quite well - you sound as if you are feeling sorry for her - and that's not a bad feeling for them to go home with!    Let's hope that the foundations are there for the future.

Keep on letting us know how things are - and remember - come on here & EXPLODE!! Don't do it to them .........yet!;)

Margot

Well they did arrive to take Dog out, she looked and sounded not too good, but thought the fressh air would do her good, although she did have a thin jacket on, I suggested she borrow one of mine, she gladly did. It is absolutely freezing here and very windy.

Sweep x

Fingers crossed, Sweep, that the first bridge has been mended. Don't rush it, and I'm sure things will continue to gradually improve. Good luck.
:)

Good to hear positive results. :)

Well a few days have passed now and I had their washing to do, which I did and tumbled dryed it, I rang them Sunday afternoon to say all was done, they said they'd pick it up sometime that day!  Have heard nothing from them since - Hubby fuming - they do only live 5mins away, I did say to Hubby perhaps we should take it round, that went down like a lead balloon.  So I have done nothing. 

The other annoying thing is that my supplies of W.powder/conditioner have gone down as they didn't give me theirs to use on their washing!  Quite surprising as 'she' is quite particular about the products she uses.

I am moaning again, sorry, but I will not ring them, when and if they deside to get in touch to pick up this washing it will be at our convenience!

Sweep x

Just seen the updates Sweep.....soo pleased for you that things are finally going well.  And well done you for not saying anything......I KNOW how hard that was :D
You're getting your son back, and it was probably him that felt a bit awkward - after all, he knew that he'd been avoiding you.  Give it a bit of time, and play it as if nothing has happened, and things will get back to normal.
Good luck

There's always something going on in my family.....this one not talking to that one etc..........oh happy families lol

Just leave the washing on the side....they'll come for it when they've run out of clean clothes :D

Don't make a big issue of it - but say - oh you owe me for 1 pk of washing powder - I had to get "your" one as I know you use a special one - and I'll bet they'll cough up for it without a word!

Of course - they MIGHT just be hoping that you will, ever so nicely iron it all & bring it back to them on hangers..... but DONT GO THERE!!!!

Margot

Yep, I have been so pleased with myself for not ringing them etc. I have put the bag of washing upstairs out of my way, to be honest I have been busy with the pups/christmas/friend losing her Mum, it seems so trivial, sorry you lot for going on about this when there are far worse things going on. 

Sweep x

Guess who rang me last night?? Yep, my Son, I was very laid back, he asked if he could come and pick the washing up today after he had been to see the Manager of the place where he had the the interview for the Job.  I am really hoping that he has got the job, they wouldn't ask him there to say he hadn't got it would they?  Still I will let you know the outcome. Fingers crossed.

Sweep x

He got the Job!!! I am so pleased - a bit more independance from a certain persons family!!

Sweep x

Well just to update - Saw them on 5th with bags of washing for me to do.......found out he had new job......rang them 6th to say washing done .......haven't heard a thing from them.............yes I know he has a new job and she works too but they live around the corner and have to pass our road every day!!  When I was walking the dogs this morning their car wasn't there, so they are at her parents again as always. 
I am so fed up again.....can't say any more

Sweep

Just hang on in there love - things won't change overnight - just keep coming on here and moaning, and don't moan to him - don't let yourself become a doormat though - let THEM do their bl**dy washing - not you!!

Margotxx

good luck I have a son who is equally ungratefull I do most of the ringing and have done all the running I just hope it pays off

They must have a huge wardrobe, Sweep. HUgs sent to you (((((()))))))

We caught site of our Son yesterday....outside his new place of work, we acknowledged each other(we were in the car) he still never phoned or came in last evening for their washing.  As my Hubby said " well, that's it we've seen him, that'll be it for the rest of the Year!"   He's probabley right.

Sweep

Well........the plan was they would stay with us Christmas Eve then leave Christmas Day afternoon........hhhmmmmmmm.......they turned up after 1030pm Christmas Eve(they had been with her Family that Day) she was tired as she had been driving.  Christmas Day they stayed until 3pm and then left to spend the rest of the day with her Family and also Boxing Day. Yes I guess I should be grateful they came, but I feel they visited out of some sort of duty and they couldn't wait to get to her Family.
Also I had asked that because Hubby had to go to bed so didn't see them much(he was on Nights)if they would pop round one evening for a drink as Hubby was off until Tuesday(yesterday)!!!
We haven't heard from them since Christmas Day. 

What will the New year bring????????

Sweep x

Hi Sweep - Happy New Year to you!!

Who knows what 2004 will bring - but at least you have left the door open for them in 2003 - as I'm sure you will in 2004!   The trouble is, I think, that most youngsters(omg I sound SOO OLD!!) are wrapped up in themselves, and when as parents, we have always been there for them, they just take it for granted that that is where will always be - in the background.......  Just hang on there, girl!!

Margot (who probably should be disappearing in the dust behind the sofa, or something :D )

Oh Sweep!  I have just read your saga and sympathise!  My 19 year old son has just found himself a 25 yr old girlfriend.  She seems to have been here every night for the past few weeks.  It was beginning to frustrate me slightly and so I suggested she should spend time elsewhere too!  Row of all rows and he is totally smitted with whatever it is she is teaching him and he sees no reason why she shouldn't move in with us (after just 3 weeks of knowing him)!!!!!  Kids - who would have them?!!

I do hope it all works out for you.  Happy 2004.
Jacky