Does anyone else have their funeral all thought out?

If I die young, I want a purple velvet coffin, I want to be buried, I want everyone to wear black except for my children (but only because I love black and I love traditional funerals), I have decided the music I would like playing, but I keep changing my mind...and I want a space leaving next to me for Jon.

I want the poem Autumn Rain reading by one of my children. I want to be buried so the kids can visit me, but not feel beholden :)

I'll probably just end up with "She had too many animals" written on my headstone though :D :D

Anyone else?

Well, there won't be anyone who misses me except my other half if he's still around. I want to be burned and put anywhere really, I won't be there so I don't care what happens to my old worn out body.

We shall make sure any animals left will be taken care of, otherwise we don't really have anyone who will care so it doesn't really matter.

When my mum died she said she wanted her ashes put in the river severn, which is what I did.

I'm quite a strong believer in life after death, for me there are too many unexplained things for there to be nothing when we have gone. Our bodies wear out not what makes us the people we are.

Juliet :)

I was going to be cremated then my ashes scattered over the wreck of the "Bay of Panama" which was my first wreck dive here in Cornwall and also my most favouritist dive ever, but then when Mom died last year she wanted to be buried in the local church yard, so now thats where I want to go, the church yard is so peaceful and it over looks the sea. I would like my headstone in Cornish granite and part of the Stevie Smith poem inscribed on it, the bit that says "not waving, but drowning, he was always to far out", I don't want my birthdate or death on the headstone, I want "A life was lived" instead and if the Vicar would allow it I would like people who came to the service to bring their dogs, like they do in the pet services. I'm not bothered about the coffin but a beech one would be nice and stainless handles rather then brass. I don't want people to come back afterwards just to make small talk and wondering if they had stayed long enough to leave with out embarrasment, just go home after the church and get on with life.

Robert

I want a cardboard coffin, and the ashes of my previous dogs in with me, and to have a beech tree planted on top of me. At the service (wherever it is) I want The Seekers' "The Carnival is Over" played, and the verse about "I am only in the next room" read.
:)

I want to be cremated. The only other thing I want is not a wake but a party, death is a sad enough time without having everyone moping around feeling even more miserable.

My friend's father had a wake with a difference - he decided to have it before he died! He was never one to miss out on a booze-up ....

I agree. I also want a cardboard coffin with a tree planted on top.

I want a cardboard coffin and one small posy of flowers picked by my children - definitely no flower arrangements. I want to be cremated and my ashes scattered somewhere beautiful my children can visit. I want a short service and then a big party. Shame I'll miss it! :-D

Depending on how I die of course - they can have any bits of me that are useful, but not my eyes.

I want to be cremated, cause there are enough people polluting & filling the top of the earth, without going under it!! And I don't do worms, bugs and beetles. Ugh. Chuck the ashes on Exmoor.

The cheapest coffin possible so that whoever is left behind can have good party afterwards & look after my dogs.

Something from Queen, maybe Fat Bottom Girls or Who wants to live forever.

Not morbid, just forward thinking, but hopefully I've got another 50 or so years to go.

Julia

Good point - I forgot to say that I want them to take any bit of me thats of use :)

Good idea re the cardboard coffin - but I want it wrapped in purple velvet - purple is so ME!! I hope it doesn't get wet though - I might fall out the bottom on my way to the graveyard

I never wanted to be buried, I was of the opinion that I once I was dead and gone they might aswell do whatever was easiest... but then I experienced a couple of close losses and the time i spent at a graveyard helped. Hence, if my children are young when I die, I would like to be buried for them.

Feel much the same, Julia :( I don't want any grave - just my ashes scattered somewhere - or put in the dustbin, if that's how the hubby and kids feel :D . My father's were scattered at sea, as that was what he loved. Definitely NO FLOWERS - I just hate these huge 'MUM' things on the side of the hearse and have promised my children that I'll come back to haunt them if they let anyone buy flowers for me :) We went to a funeral just a week ago and seeing the flowers outside the crematorium really upset me. We always send money to a local hospice (or a charity of the families' choice).

Daisy

Flowers are a waste of money. I'd rather they sent it to Labrador Rescue or a local charity.

I agree:)

My Uncle had a funeral at a place on the South Downs where he was buried in a wicker coffin and buried in the woods.

The woods are slowly being replanted with trees that are proper to this country so that it will go back to how nature meant it to be.

The only thing is there were so many roots around and we had to trek nearly a mile and a half to get to the hole and several people tripped up and nearly fell down onto the hole ! It was also a non religious ceremony.

All in all a good way to go !

I want to be buried as well with my husband. We have both said when we get old and either of us looses it with dementia or Altzheimers then we will go together !! I wouldn't want to be a dribbling mess being looked after not knowing what was going on, no dignity I feel.

Lucy

I don't need to get old to be a dribbling mess :D A night out can do that!!!

But I know what you mean.

We are just waiting for news.My friend was in a fire last Monday.
They are doing tests this afternoon to see if she is brain dead.
She is on a ventilator.They are going to turn it of today if the results show she is brain dead.
Morbid is not the best subject for me today.
A little prayer from everyone might help.
Chow

I'm sorry to hear that Chow.

I hope the results are good.

Regards

Julia

Thanks all for your kind words.
We have just had word.
Linda is brain dead.
She is only 34 years old.
We never know what is round the corner and what life has in store.
Chow.

So sorry for you and Linda's family, Chow.
:(

Sorry :(

Daisy

Chow

So sorry to hear this.

Lucy
xx

Chow I'm thinking of you, your friend and her family with love & prayers. Be strong

Margotxx

Chow I'm so sorry to hear the bad news. When my mum died she donated her body to medical science. It helps to know that someone benefited from her death. She was 54 when she died. Its never easy when you lose someone.

Chow very sorry and for your friends family as well, and so young. Yes you never know what could happen tomorrow or that day :( Sorry again :(

Thanks again to everyone for your support.
One good thing to come out of this .All Linda's organs that can be used have been donated.
Now hopefully someone will have a much better life or it may even save someones life.
Chow

So sorry for you Chow :-(

Words cannot express hope you feel at this time, and cannot grasp never seeing that person walk through the door again, and expecting to see them through your day, I have lost a few friends that have died in the best year of there lives but you still expect to see them round the corner, I think this is were a funeral helps to say for final farwell it brings it to reallity.I want to be buried in a hessian bag in a green field that is designated for this kind of funeral without all the words and no flowers if people cannot bring me flower's when I am alive I do not want them when I cannot appreciate them, I would rather the money will benafit greyhound rescue.