
Hi Susan,
We may have to have a long question-and-answer session, so it might be easier if you registered with the site!
I have both male and female dalmatians (glad to see you can spell it properly - lots can't!) and have known many others of both sexes, and honestly, each is an individual. A neutered male can still get excited, mate and tie with a bitch, so don't let anyone tell you otherwise!
Most of the bitches I've met have been as soft as butter, especially with people, equally, so have
most of the males. The dogs tend to have a more independent streak when they're out, but in the house seem to be more "childish" than the bitches, who seem to be more sensible (a bit like humans really!)
Hope this helps :)