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- By besy bunter [gb] Date 21.09.20 11:12 UTC
hello.. I was trying to write on a thread about new puppy yelping in its crate and the next door complaining about any noises she hears but could not find it.. so I am having this problem. I have three dogs range from 3 year to 9 weeks old.. all dachshunds.. miniture.. I have to put a bark colar on my eldest to go for for a wee in the garden.. each time, as going to work at 6.30 on an occation she barks and they say it wakes them up at 6.20.. which is fair enough.. a couple of barks only but the next door lady is like a bull with steam coming out her nose when complaining.. I have been nice to her over cat spikes and the best side of the new fence ect. and she still moans.. my pup is crate training and hates it in there just had a session in there just now.. over 3 1/4 of an hour screaming and barking in my hall with cussions and blankets over the crate to sofen the noise as much as I could.. I live in a semi 0ver 30 years and have had to put up with 10 years of moaning.. I still work but only a few hours aday 4 times aweek.. it seem now i am nearing retiring age my life is resticted and I am a nice lady and my dugter who lives here too is a gental person. I have insultion in my walls but still hear them diy for the last 10 year nearly every day of the years.. saws hammering and that drill is the killer for headaches.. I do bang on the wall sometimes but to remind them to have a break.. they have no insulation in their side of house.. maybe that would help.. they even have hard flooring that makes sound travel. I do not .. My neighbour is really strange.. most say she is down our road... she had to move from their last house because they could not stand the noise.. She complains to the council about large trees over hanging and cat pooh on her garden etc.  They should live in a house that is not ajoined or live with understanding... I am worried she will get my dogs taken away from me. I am so stressed here trying to avoid her coming to my door all the time....I waited to have these dogs for 23 years.. as worked to many hours before and love them all so much.. they are my life. I try to be a good understanding person to others.. I do not know how to be one step in front of her of late.
- By chaumsong Date 21.09.20 11:38 UTC
Oh what a shame, it's really hard when you don't get on with your next door neighbour. I can definitely see their point if one of the dogs is barking so early in the morning, with hindsight it may have been better to choose a quieter breed knowing how sensitive your neighbours are. However, that's moot now, you have the dogs and you love them.

Could you perhaps use a dog sitter or doggy day care, find someone that would be willing to either collect the dogs early morning or have you drop them off? I can imagine that it is the early morning noise that would be most annoying to a neighbour?
- By besy bunter [gb] Date 21.09.20 12:08 UTC
My oder dogs are fine and roam in a kitchen dinner and are ok.. my new pup is my problem he is the one I will worry about leaving next week.. but am hoping now I found a spot in the house for the crate and pup away from them I can manage with out involving anyone else. the other side of them have small breeds too and they yap and I know they are hated by her too.. I have two cats that do not pooh in their garden but do jump fence from my garden at times into theirs..she has taught her kids to throw stones at them or chuck water over them.. they have a rabbit and had two chickens before that. I am very indipendent and my daughter is sharing the time with them.. My son pops in too to cheer the dogs.. I have a lady next door who hates cats and is not keen on dogs..5 people in my road have puppies now.. and 7 have cats..  I can not wait to retire.. the last three years of going over the retiring age has near killed me and my plans to have a dog or two again.. but it is done now and I just have to learn to rkerb my stress. and do as I am told from the angry bull next door... thanks for your surgestions.
- By 91052 [gb] Date 21.09.20 14:46 UTC Upvotes 2
It is awful when you don't get on with the neighbours and some people are really sensitive to noise (me included).  I think you might be going a bit awry with the crate training, maybe doing too much too soon.  Have you socialised the crate properly, feeding in there, treating, putting in there when very tired just for a few moments with door open and then closing the door and going into another room just for a few mins and building up from that.  If you have only had the pup for a week 3 1/4 of an hour with the pup screaming and barking doesn't sound quite right.  I would perhaps start again with the crate training very very slowly reading some of the great articles on how to do it with as little stress as poss as it does sound like your pup is hating it already when it should be the safe place.
- By MamaBas [gb] Date 21.09.20 16:10 UTC
I've not read all your post but what stands out, for me, is the noise your poor puppy is making in his crate.   Listening to that noise for 3 1/4 hours would drive me nuts, let alone your neighbour!   That's not how to get a puppy to be happy in a crate.   You need to set it up in the main room you use during the daytime, leaving the door open and top and sides covered so it's a nice den.   With any luck (unless your puppy is now too traumatised re being in a crate) the pup should use the crate as a bed, like any other dog bed.    When you need to get other things done (and who can be there 24/7!) play with the puppy so he's a bit tired, take him outside to empty and back to his crate for a few puppy treats and shut the door.   If you have timed it right, he should maybe complain a bit but then settle down for another nap.    Which is when you do other things.

As for the other barking before 7 am.   I'd suggest the neighbour is again quite entitled to be miffed at being woken up by your dog yapping.    That too early.   Can't you take that dog off to attend to biz if you have to leave early.

As for leaving the puppy crated, when presumably it too makes a noise when you leave - maybe your accommodation isn't going to make any attached neighbour happy.

ps   Years ago now we had attached neighbours who both worked full time.  They wanted a Westie but were turned down by Westie Rescue - did they take the hint?   Not a bit of it.   They went up to Scotland and bought a puppy Westie from a man off a ferry.   When she came home with them, of course she sounded off when being left on her own.   In the end, rather than listen to her, I offered to take her with my lot (in our puppy pen) in during the day, feed her lunch etc.   Eventually I decided I wasn't really doing her any favours so she went back.   She was quieter.  Then they bought a Lab.   AND MOVED!!!
- By besy bunter [gb] Date 21.09.20 17:04 UTC
I have read up on it and yes I am doing most of what you are saying.. but yes I am in a hurry now to get him happy in there.. as I have to work on thursday and am off for just over 4 hours and I will hate to leave him screaming.. I have managed to settle him three times today.. which is good.. with door open..The other dogs are getting on with him better, but there is training there to address.. I am leaving my daughter in charge of it all and know it all could go backwards... I have had him for 5 days today..The worry of him making a noise or barking was affecting my crate training. The next door lady is not understanding at all. so I have found a quiet place in my home where she may not hear him in case he makes a noise..The lady next door is a trouble maker she was unliked by other when she lived at her last house.. I have heard she complained about a baby crying at her last place too.. she is very strange and selfish...

I do think she has a right to moan.. but because I put up with diy machinary most days of the year because her husband changes his mind on what he wants to do next I feel she is a little over the top at times.. most of the house owners here in my area have had her complaining about things.. so sad she thinks she is always right which is not the case.. I have corrected her a few times on the law and they don't listen.. like lighting fires at 2pm in afternoon.. built up area.. non smoke.. if they have to light one contained then it is after 6pm because of washing and thoughfulness of others.. I sometimes think we all should look at what noise we make.. and what we will put up with to be nice to each other...My dog wears a dog bark colar which is my effort to shut her up and my pup is going to take a little time.. to settle.. My pup is in his crate asleep again now.. door open.. so he is learning...
- By Jeangenie [gb] Date 21.09.20 17:42 UTC Upvotes 4

>my pup is crate training and hates it in there just had a session in there just now.. over 3 1/4 of an hour screaming and barking in my hall with cussions and blankets over the crate to sofen the noise as much as I could.


If your puppy is screaming in its crate for more than about 5 minutes you're not crate training properly. The idea is to make the crate the puppy's safe place, where it's happy to be for an hour or so during the day, not to be left to scream in distress for hours. No wonder your neighbour's upset - to be honest I'm surprised she hasn't called the RSPCA. Poor puppy.
- By Goldmali Date 21.09.20 17:57 UTC Upvotes 2
I think the OP meant three quarters of an hour i.e. 45 minutes, but I agree that is far too long.
- By Goldmali Date 21.09.20 18:01 UTC Upvotes 2
I have had him for 5 days today

This is your problem -why did you get a puppy when you knew you'd have to leave it alone so soon? I would never even consider selling a puppy to somebody who hadn't made long term arrangements for the pup not being left alone - weeks or even months with the time left being built up very slowly. Sounds like your only option is to get somebody in to stay with the pup, and I would stop closing the cage altogether for the time being.
- By furriefriends Date 21.09.20 18:17 UTC
Could your daughter either be with the dogs when u are out and oversee careful slow crate training so pup learns to see its crate as a place of s comfort and security.  U need to work at pups speed not your's I am afraid or you risk having a very scared dog .
If.that not possible can your son or daughter have the pup with them as I assume the other dogs are quiet when u are out.
- By besy bunter [gb] Date 21.09.20 18:41 UTC Upvotes 1
yes this is what is happeing.. my family are helping as much as possible..  I am more stressed a bout next door than my puppy training after all I have reared two all ready. I just hate them being stressed.. I have only been out once so far.. to shop.. just over an hour.. I have docs tomorrow.. but son is over for an hour to keep and eye on the pup..
- By besy bunter [gb] Date 21.09.20 19:00 UTC
I have arrangements in place.. if it don't work I will drop my hours again just to get to my pension..as these dogs are my whole life. Reason why I am so stressed about pleasing everyone. All my pups I had holidays to start them off.. and they worked out fine.. this holiday seems to have flown by and I still feel I have not acheived what I usually do.. I always keep the doors 0pen.. I feel this pup follows me around and is so needy of my attention.. so I have backed off as much as possible so he spends time with his pack.. He is now in the big crate and the other two older dogs are lying here on the sofa with me.. all doors are open.. maybe things are changing.. hope so... love my fur babies.. they make me as a person.. no more though.. Been taking the pup out in a dog carrier every day and walking other two.. he has loved it he is quiet and looks around.. so all involved in our walks too.. so do my best to rear him. He has seen the vet and is to have boaster in october.. so a week or so after that he will be able to have 15 min of walkies... and back in his dog carrier.. lol:grin:
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