I found the perfect dog on Pets 4 Homes.  I know she would have been welcomed by my dog.  I telephoned and she was available.  I had to disappoint the seller as too many people I know have an opinion after reading everything they can on the internet.  Everything said do not bring a second dog in the home because of this, that and other.  In the old days we would have just gone ahead and everything would have been alright but there is a saying which I can't quite remember about a little knowledge is a dangerous thing.  I have to keep everyone happy and I have to be disappointed. Got that off my chest.

Oh dear, do you want to enlarge on the story? Sounds like you really wanted this new dog, why were you influenced by these people?

Oh dear, you're not a happy bunny.

You found the perfect dog? Quite a statement, (Not a great website for pets that one - however guess you get the odd quality dog/pup on there) why was this dog perfect for you? It must have ticked a lot of boxes for you, with regards to its health, temperament, age and you being the right home for its breed traits and character, so if you feel so strongly that everything was right, how did people so easily dissuade you? **shrugging shoulders**

TBH no dog would be my perfect dog until I'd met it though, regardless of anything else.

Their points for not wanting the dog, seems to have over shadowed yours for having it, knowledge is only dangerous if not used correctly, was theirs not right? If so you should have corrected it, or did they say things you did not want to hear?

If the dog was everything you think it was, then I wouldn't listen.......the fact you turned the dog down, makes me think perhaps they made a valid point?........... Perhaps?

Just to make you feel a little better, perhaps it wasn't the perfect dog, we all get pulled in by cute photo's, sometimes we need a strong no! from others........ I might be wrong but, maybe in the long run they did you a favour?

As a family we have owned this breed of dog.  I always go by my gut feeling and (big-headed) I'm always right.  The dog was the right age.  The right sex. Far enough away from home not to bump into the breeder. My present dog was bought from Pets 4 Homes.  I would usually just go and collect her but because of the car journey I would need my husband to come with me. All the web sites were negative.  Still didn't persuade me but I was out voted 7 to 1.

>  Still didn't persuade me but I was out voted 7 to 1.

It sounds like the majority didn't want another dog then, which must be very disappointing for you.

>In the old days we would have just gone ahead and everything would have been alright but there is a saying which I can't quite remember about a little knowledge is a dangerous thing.

It's interesting that you should say this because I feel the same at times. I can remember my parents introducing a 'new' (and older) dog into our 'doggy' household when I was young and the only 'actions' they took, were to separate them on the first night in case there was a 'dust up' and to feed them apart. There was no faffing about, the dogs were introduced and (I assume) as they didn't lay into each other, they were more or less allowed to get on with it. There was the odd spat over the years, but a sharp word from my mother stopped it before it got out of hand. As children, if we were teasing the dogs or doing something we should not have been, she would say "keep that up and he will bite you" and if we did not heed her warning and the dog did snap or bite us, she would say "That serves you jolly well right" and if we had been especially stupid, she may even have slapped the back of our legs for good measure! She certainly would not have blamed the dog or sent it for 'counselling'!

When I bought my first dog on leaving home, I purchased her via a local newspaper advert (shock horror!). Although I had been bought up around dogs all my life, I didn't do any research before getting her. I just knew I wanted a dog and what breed and I found her. She lived until she was 15 years of age and although there was the odd hiccup along the way, we learnt together and just got on with it. Common sense played a vital part in our life together and I learnt a lot from her. My dogs from then on where more thought out but as you say, at times I do wonder if we know to much these days and allow it to cloud our judgement and make things far more complicated than they really need to be. As my mum would say "It's A Dog!".

It sounds to me that nobody else in the family is ready for another dog....any dog. You are feeling frustrated because you wanted it so much. It would be the same in my house as I'm the driving force regarding dog buying here. The time was just not right sometimes you just have to wait a little longer than you would prefer. My Mother always says "the best things in life are worth waiting for" and she's always right.

Far enough away from home not to bump into the breeder.

Now you've really lost me -what would be the problem with that?

The way I read it, it wasn't the family that said no but people on various forums??

Sorry, Goldmali, I shouldn't have said breeder. I meant that a lot of people buy local so the dog is likely to meet its siblings.  It's just the way I am.  The puppy, young dog or newly re-homed dog gets a completely fresh start.  Though saying that when a dog I had many years ago met her family she acted as though she didn't even recognise them and showed no interest at all.
No, it was family members that read other articles on the internet.  Two children, their spouses, and their children which persuaded my husband. 
It was my husband that thought another dog would be good.  If I could have just brought her home she would have been kept no matter what.   I wish I hadn't enquired of the seller now because I feel quilty.

Thanks, now I understand.

What are their reasons for saying it's not a good idea?

No, it was family members that read other articles on the internet.  Two children, their spouses, and their children which persuaded my husband.

Nope, now confused.

What on earth did they read on the internet?...........if you or they wanted a knowledgeable and honest opinion, (many of us may also have agreed or disagreed who knows, but) no better place than here, you know you have a wealth of information and trusted breeders and dog owners, other sites may not know what the heck they are talking about, you know that, how many times do people give wrong advice.... if you and your husband feel the dog was/is right, which would live with you - not them, it joins the family with your dog - not theirs, so it is your choice, not theirs.

(But......I still wouldn't get one from that site.....)

What on earth did they read on the internet?
no better place than here, you know you have a wealth of information

Oooh........here is on the internet...and so are they...www.gov.uk/browse/education

A bit confused.Did you meet the dog/seller? Had you discussed having a second dog as a family?  I'm the main one out of us as a couple that wishes a second dog but aware it will have to be a mutual yes from both of us. We walk with two people who both brought from the same litter and they are firm friends! Not sure why meeting a sibling would be a problem?
I'm hoping my breeder has a litter from my boy's sister and we would happily take a dog.
I hope you are soon welcoming a second dog

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I have just got to update this post.  I read everyone's comments which were really good.  The reason I thought the dog I was referring to was perfect was because it was nearly 5 months old and I already have dog, apart from other reasons.  I have been lucky enough to find a dog which everyone is in agreement with.   It's a puppy of the right breed, right gender and just a mile from my home.  I won't get it for another 8 to 12 weeks.

Awwww that's great new. Am really happy for you. Maybe these things happen for a reason.

Great news that you have a new companion joining your family and all members are happy about it. Just out of interest but what breed of dog are you having?

The reason I thought the dog I was referring to was perfect was because it was nearly 5 months old

Unless the breeder had done all training and socialising you will probably have had a lucky escape.

It is a German Shepherd.   This will be our fourth one.  The first and second were when they were called Alsatians.  Same breed just a name change but still can't stop my husband saying Alsatian but then again he stumbles over my name

Yay! Another shepherd person!