There is a topic running on here about timewasters and posters asking a question already asked and answered.  I consider myself a timewaster and would not like people like me.  I have a dog but I prefer having two.   My husband has his own ideas on what he thinks is appropriate to our household.  I have to do the job of searching and asking questions then reporting back to him.  I have found the perfect dog for (us) me.  I shall be disappointed if it's sold as I could collect it today.  I'm very tempted just to do that.  My dog would also love her.   It has been born into a household like mine with a house and garden like mine etc.,etc., but husband not too sure!  When it is sold we will just have the one dog as I know we will never find another like this one and I'll stop looking.  So I shall never be a timewaster again.

Take her home - I did that with my beagle, my dog and my husband loved her and she is my dog in a lifetime.  So nearly missed out on her, he refused and refused to entertain the idea of another dog so in the end I turned up with her and a bag of food!

Go on, go and get her, your husband will learn to love her! Mine said 2 dogs were more than enough and we now have 4!!

I guess it depends on your OH, in your situation, if I brought a puppy home, I know Eddie would be cooing over the pup after half an hour.

I'm looking for homes for kittens born in my backyard.  I've already turned down two neighbours who proposed getting one without the husband's approval, indeed even without his knowledge.  So I say this is not a good idea.  All the family members need to be on board.  I will not let a kitten go to a home where someone may not want it.  I imagine most with dogs that need homes feel the same way.  I work with rescue and we ask that all the family members come to see the prospective new pet just to be sure that everybody wants it, dog or cat.  Sorry, but I think you should keep working on the husband.

I'm with Jetstone Jewels. What kind of breeder would even consider selling a pup to somebody where they could not meet both parties in a couple and know both were agreed? I wouldn't.

And this is one of the many reasons that I am single :-P

And this is one of the many reasons that I am single :-p

Yep--and the best ever reason for staying that way :-)!

well yes, the husband left eventually but I still have my girl.  He would probably have gone anyway, and I would have regretted losing out on my girl much more than losing him! :D

You need to make a joint decision on what is right for you and your family before you waste valuable breeder's time, speaking as a breeder who has dealt with many timewasters

We have recently lost one of our two dogs and, as the other is 12, we could find ourselves without a dog in a year or two. My husband is not sure that he wants another dog. I feel that I would like another, but after a gap to allow for holidays possibly. There is no way that I would get another dog if my husband says no ! Surely it is important for the happiness of the dog and for it's training and control that both parties are agreed in wanting the dog ?? I am sure that there have been instances on here of couples where the dog's behaviour was seriously affected by one party not really wanting the dog ? It is similar to adopting a child when a relationship is already shaky - not a good foundation for a successful outcome !

Nothing to do with husbands, but I wonder if I was considered a timewaster a few years ago.  I phoned a breeder who had a litter of puppies of my chosen breed.  I only wanted one for a pet so was not put off when I was told they were "mis-marked".  However, despite spending quite some considerable time at the breeder´s house with these puppies I found I could not really "take" to any of them.  I tried, but they just didn´t do it for me.  The breeder was lovely and told me not to have one if I didn´t really take to it.  I later went on to find a puppy of the same breed that I fell in love with and he´s still with me.  Was I a timewaster?  Should I have asked for photos of these mismarked puppies before making the long journey to view them?  No way would I have felt right taking one home with me if I didn´t fall in love every time I looked at the new pup.

Was I a timewaster?

To me (as a breeder) you simply did the right thing. If you are going to spend the next 12-15 years with a dog you must be SURE. Also as a breeder I would have sent photos first, but there is nothing to say that would have made a difference.

>And this is one of the many reasons that I am single :-p

>Yep--and the best ever reason for staying that way :-)!

Ain't that the truth.  :-)

Years ago my mother sold a dog to a seemingly lovely person to have to take it back 6 weeks later totally traumatised because the husband hated it ( & had done gxd nows what) .  No husband had ever been mentioned up to that point. No evidence of him when she visited the house, no passing comments when she phoned to ask advice. 
 
The whole family needs to be on board & if they're not well dump the husband & then you don't need permission.

> Yep--and the best ever reason for staying that way :-)!

Oh I don't know, if I could find someone who could put up with 8-9 dogs and me, and not stop me when I decided to get another then I'm all for being with someone!!

Of course if I did find someone and they did try to say no, I'd be single again rather quickly :-P

Oh I don't know, if I could find someone who could put up with 8-9 dogs and me, and not stop me when I decided to get another then I'm all for being with someone!!

Perfectly possible! :) I told my husband on our second date that nobody was EVER going to tell me if I could have another dog/cat/whatever or not, and it's never been a problem. I'd never go and acquire another dog without discussing it first, but he's never ever said no and we've been together for 13 years now. Might be why I now have more than double the number of dogs and cats I had when we met.........

I could have been called a time waster, I was torn between two breeds and put my name down on a breeders lost after meeting her and her dogs.. As the time came closer to the bitch giving birth I had to be honest with myself I didn't have time for the coat care and actually really wanted the other breed. I told her and she was fine about it and to this day we remain good friends. The dog ended up in the ring doing rather well too.

Honesty really works, by stringing owners and breeders along is not fair on the dogs, that is what it boils down to.

I suppose I could also be considered a time waster, but it was best for the pup in the long term.
My dream dog was a black bitch of my breed. I had waited years for the right time and spent that time saving up, researching and asking questions.
The time came and I put my name down with a few breeders. One of them told me that the only female had died ( small litters) and there weren't any others available as they were all being kept for breeding/showing.
I was offered a male and agonised over it as I knew in my heart I wanted a bitch but others told me I would learn to love him.
I packed the family in the car and travelled 2 hours to meet him and the breeder. The breeder was lovely but I just didn't feel any connection with the pup. I cried like a baby when I phoned to say no as I felt like I had wasted her time and upset the kids.
Fast forward a few months and I got my dream dog. She was worth the wait, and I hope the boy got a good family who really wanted him.

>As the time came closer to the bitch giving birth

Then I certainly would not have called you a timewaster simply undecided.

ditto this >I was offered a male and agonised over it as I knew in my heart I wanted a bitch but others told me I would learn to love him.
I packed the family in the car and travelled 2 hours to meet him and the breeder. The breeder was lovely but I just didn't feel any connection with the pup. I cried like a baby when I phoned to say no

At time water is one that says yes to an actual puppy, which you then reserve for them, and turn away other potential good owners.

Where's the 'like' button for some of these posts?!