>If my girl does need a cesarean can I ask that the vet keeps any puppies that don't make it so I can see them?
A resounding YES!
Years ago I had a large Yorkie bitch carrying a large litter. She had whelped 5 pups very easily, but continued with strong contractions. (I don't leave mine very long before getting to the hospital.)
It's always at night isn't it? :-( The out of hours vet could just about reach the toes, but could feel no sac. The ultrasound looked as if a pup was caught in the ribs high up, we couldn't see the head. A section revealed that the head was twisted backwards, and caught firm. The contractions would have ended up causing damage.
I went into the operating theatre afterwards and saw that my bitch was in a heated cabinet to recuperate. I had taken a heated box with me, which had her 5 pups in, and the vet had put the pups on to suckle once mum had come round. We discussed the malpresentation, and I was told that it was really just very bad luck, and there was no reason why the bitch couldn't have a second litter with no problems. I was asked if I would like to see the dead puppy, and he was fetched from a little side room. It helped me to see that he was perfectly normal, no deformities, and the same size as the rest of the litter. I stroked him, and yes, it was upsetting, but I am glad that I saw he was a normal puppy.
Edited to add: By the way, I have 9 dogs buried in my (very large) garden, and I have never, ever experienced anything being dug up.