>but im just sick with worry and would love to hear from anyone who'd gone through this.
I haven't gone through this, but know your worries, and wanted to give you some comfort.
My eldest Beardie will be 14 in October, and collapsed in June 2005. She had a haemorrhagic tumour on the spleen that had burst. And she was very, very poorly. I had to try the surgery route, and had the spleen and tumour removed. She was so weak, and I was told, even after surgery, that we had to hope that she pulled through the first 7 days. She was such a weak dog afterwards, and lay on her mattress resting most of the time. I was told to just allow her to recuperate. She stopped making the effort to greet me when I came home from work. Weeks and weeks went by, when the day came that she ran up to me, and did her "tippy toe dance" asking if she could jump up and put her paws on my shoulders. I burst into tears. :-)
I still have my old girl and cherish her. Major surgery can be a huge worry, but it can also be so, so worth it. I know that won't stop you worrying, but I want you to know we are all sending positive vibes. :-)