Hi all,
Here I am back with another problem!
As you may know we have three dogs, 1 female aged almost 12 (no probs with her at all) a nearly 2year old neutered male and a ten month spayed female.
From the time we got our little one there has been a lot of friction between her and the boy who was 1 year and a month when we brought her home. He thought he was the guy in the big picture and wasn't too long in showing baby who was boss. As time passed things got a little better but then when little one started to grow to around same size as boy he retaliated by going for our old girl. He got very aggresive with her and had to be seperated on several occassions. After a few good telling offs he got the message and stopped attacking the oldie.
Problem is the two young ones are constantly lunging at each other and boy will not let anyone speak to youngest without throwing a tantrum and yelling as if to say "do not dare speak to her when I'm around to talk to instead" He gets right in there and shifts her out of the way! We ignore them both when this carry on starts. Same thing occurs at walkies time. He has to have his lead put on whilst sitting on grooming table as he goes ballistic when hubby goes to the bathroom (he seems to associate bathroom with time for walkies lol) and attacks girl whilst bringing the house down.
They are also making a terrible racket outside as they just never leave each other alone. We have tried bringing one in and letting other out but one just dances around kitchen making as much noise as they possibly can!!!! (Neighbours not amused)
To add to the problem young girl has taken to peeing and pooping in the house if we go out. We have a normal routine and stick to it. I go out four mornings a week for 3 hours and maybe two of those mornings my daughter would be at home. The problem is the young lady will be taken out first thing in the morning 6-45 am and refuse to do anything (believe me we have tried) and then maybe after her breakfast she might submit and perform or maybe not. I have tried taking her outside for 10 minutes at a time and if she doesn't do anything bring her back in and repeating this often. At times she seems determined not to do anything and she is the same on a walk. Male does his business, she does nothing!
She was crate trained and never toileted in her den but would quite happily come in from outside and sit down and pee on floor. Never ever pooped in house until now. She has been out of her crate for nearly three months now and up until past few weeks she was fine but now when I'm out she chews the other dog beds, has eaten four radiator caps and two thermostatic valves so it appears she is wide awake when I leave the house and my daughter has told me when she has been at home she hears her getting out of bed and our boy telling her off so maybe that is what starts the wrecking behaviour and the peeing????
We are at our wits end now as there seems to be no peace in our home at all and my hubby has even got to the stage where he is afraid to ring me during the day because of what he may hear.
BTW if I come in and there is pee and poop in the kitchen I put the two young ones outside and clean up before letting them back in. I say nothing. Well, not out loud anyway!!!!!!
Thanks for any helpful advice you can give

I think you need to get someone in to see what is happening. From your post there are several red flags in my mind straight off, but it's all ok reading it seeing is another matter.

You don't say what breed they are which mattersand if your elder dog is neutered. Whilst someof it seemsto be attention seeking and possesive behaviour, someis occuring whilst the dogs are in a very heightened state. Hopefully it could be brought under control but you need a professional in I think.

Let me know where abouts you are and I can see if I know a good trainer near to you you could use if you like??!!

Just seems to be so much happening it needs breaking down into manageable programs you can follow.

Hi Happyhoundgirl and thank you so much for your reply,

They are TTs and all are neutered. We have no problems with the older girl, she does her own thing which is usually sleep lol! She never got to be top dog in our home,  hard as she tried at an early age our Westie put her in her place. We then had a Shih Tzu who definitely became top dog. Sadly the Westie & Shih Tzu have left us now. Oldie  hasn't tried to be boss with the present dogs. We think our boy is taking his frustrations out on her when he gets the chance as she seems like an easy target. He is not allowed to get away with it!

I know there is a lot going on and  I feel the young boy is put out by the baby as he was spoiled as a puppy! When things got bad with him we took advice and got him calmed down. He was fine for months until the new puppy started to grow up.

Now, we think the young girl is doing her utmost to be top dog and she hasn't a chance!!!!

Attention seeking was our first thought although we do our best not to make differences and both get played with on equal measures. She is not as affectionate as the boy and ignores us at times

I have spoken to someone and have been advised to put baby girl back in to her crate when we are out but I'm not sure if that is a good idea or not seeing as she has been out of it for a couple of months??????