Do you hate it when someone borrows something and you never get it back, or worse, you do get it back but its broken!!!! My new rule NEVER lend anything again!!

Rant over ......

My grandfathers saying was " never a lender or a borrower be" one of his others was never to carry postage stamps that way if anyone asks to borrow you dont feel you should

Yes its v irritating

I learned when I loaned a book of mine out and it came back in tatters.

I remember that one in my old house I had a next door neighbour like that. First day they moved in she asked to borrow a needle for new curtains, didn't return it ( wasn't bothered but just the principle) then she asked for my weighing scales, none return 2 days later had to knock for it, then my garden sheers 1 week later no return had to knock for them, my step ladder 3 days later I had to knock for it.

At that point I'd had enough and vowed I wouldn't lend anything else, I made excuses or said I didn't have things when she next asked.

The worst one was the neighbour the other side of me who was a painter decorator he lent them his ladder as I told them mine was broken, **wink, wink** I warned him that he shouldn't and would have to knock for it and told him they were going on holiday the next day, I don't think that he believed me that they would not return it, well, what did they do? They went on holiday for 2 weeks and locked his ladder in the house whilst away, he was fuming as he needed it for his job.

They were exactly the same whenever we took in a parcel for them, they never came for it, we always had to take it over, in the end I stopped taking in parcels too.

Snap Norman - well almost!
A very good friend asked to borrow the most expensive book that I'd ever bought - £40.  30 years ago that was the same as a month's mortgage repayment!  I wrote it in my diary to remind me to take it to her and did so.  It was a breed reference book and about 9 months later I needed it and when I asked for it back, she denied that she'd ever had it!!!
I have to say that it put a strain on the friendship and I haven't seen her for years. :(
As much my fault for lending her something that was so precious to me but for a friend...................

I've " lost " so many dog books by lending them out,the problem is I forget what I've lent to whom, some of them I've just had to go out and buy again !. Most annoying one was a book by Rien Poortvliet ( you may not have heard of him, he's an artist ) called Dogs, really beautiful portraits of various breeds and very very funny anecdotes, a friend had a loan of it and in her typical fashion she left it lying on the floor and her Beagle ripped the dust jacket to bits....grrrrrrr.

I am going back many years ago, but it still riles me when I think of it.

I had bought my first house and saved for ages to get a good carpet shampooer.  There weren't the zillions available like there are today.

I was thrilled with the results on the old carpets in the house, and my mother asked to borrow it.  To this day I can't believe that, after using it, she lent it out to a neighbour.

It was returned to me totally filthy and I had to clean the brushes thoroughly, and it took an age to remove the rubbish from the clogged up bristles.  I was very upset at the time.

a bit like lending money to your kids
if you cant GIVE it then dont lend it
i always give it (to the kids anyway!)

Amen to that.  Whether you loan or give your kids money, the end result is the same.

>Whether you loan or give your kids money, the end result is the same.

Our kids must be different then, because if we lend them money they always pay it back, probably because they think if they don't pay it back they won't be able to ask again.....lol.

Whether you loan or give your kids money, the end result is the same.
My daughter is the opposite.  Never asks but if I offer, she always pays back every penny plus a dinner/present to say thank you!

> Our kids must be different then, because if we lend them money they always pay it back, probably because they think if they don't pay it back they won't be able to ask again.....lol.

I don't see any problem with either lending or giving money to children BUT they must learn the difference :) A loan MUST be paid back by the agreed date. A gift is just that, a gift and not a god-given right :) :) :) All part of children learning about money :) By the time they are adults, I'd expect them to be appreciative of the difference and look upon both as something to use as a last resort :)

Daisy