I hope that happens with mum too then, but I can't get my hopes up too much. Thanks for the thought though! :-)

A Video camera, wont feel so awkward to pose when your on holiday and you can have a giggle. See if your mum will make a video diary for you. xx

Use the time you have left with her to the fullest. xxxx you may find you will spend more time together knowing you have limited time than you would have done in the next 10 years without the limited time. I know that is no concelation and I have no idea what you are feeling just know that we are all here for you if you need any thing whether it be advice (and I know several people on here have been where you are now) hugs or just to shout at xxxxx
Lea xxxx

> I hope that happens with mum too then, but I can't get my hopes up too much

Just take each day as it comes and make the most of each and every one of them. As Lea has said - knowing that time together may be limited gives you the chance to spend as much of it as possible together.

Thinking of you and your mum at such a upsetting time,I know how you feel went through the same thing with my mum,chemo ect,and was with her every step of the way,It is so very hard,you are in my thoughts.

Sheila xx

hope all goes well and that your mum feels a little better after this. As others have said, there are lots of listening ears and sympathetic shoulders on here--not the same, I know, but we are all rooting for you and your mum xxx

(((hugs)))

Hi Lucydogs- Sending you hugs x - This week will be the first anniversary of the day my mum died from cancer and every day has been so hard. Like you I knew what lay ahead- some people may say this makes it easier but it doesn't and for me it was the first time in my life I felt useless- I wanted to change it all for her but could do nothing. I know the numb feeling and disbelief you will feel right now.

My only advice is spend as much of the time your mum has feeling well with her as possible- to me that's better time than later when she may be ill and not enjoy the company so much- reminice, laugh at daft stories, look at photos and just be together. You will both enjoy this now and for me this really helps me now- remembering.
I wish your mum good luck with her treatment and you the strength to keep smiling when you want to cry.
The love between a mother and daughter is so strong and it never ends x

How are you coping? if you need a cyber cuddle we are always on line (as my OH tells me)

Viv
HUG!!!!!

Just to say we have been thinking of you today and hope there is some sunshine for you, literally and figuratively xxx

Thinking of you.

I'm hoping that there's not more bad news for my mum.  She had a MRI scan and CT scan on Monday and has had to have another one today which was unexpected, just hoping that nothing else was seen. 

perrodeagua, hoping you and your mum have better news--thinking of you with a hug going your way

Hope your mum's scan goes ok. My mum's been in for her scan and liver op, sounds like the hospital are not treating her with the care she deserves, my Dad keeps ringing up with tales of unsatisfactory food, fellow patients who insist on turning their TV up too loud, and Mum not being able to rest because the light is on all the time. And of course the lack of food has given her a migraine. They're not letting her out until they get the results, hopefully that will be tomorrow morning so she can come out at lunchtime. Poor Mum!

hoping the time in hospital passes quickly for your mum, it must be very upsetting for all of you--take care
Judy x 

Thanks all! I got a lengthy email from Dad last night which if I understand the technical stuff right, seems to be saying they are all ready to start a course of chemo which will hopefully shrink and / or halt the various tumours, but they need to do yet another biopsy first because the first two didn't get the right stuff to determine which particular sort of chemo will be best. But at least we are finally seeming to move forward, and the news they consider it worth trying chemo is good - I know it's still inoperable and incurable, but hopefully chemo will give her a reasonable quality of life for a while yet. I appreciate all your good thoughts!

Fingers crossed for your mum Lucy - if the biopsy comes back ok, then the chemo is generally pretty good at keeping things under control - we were told that it could give Adrian another 12-18 months - but unfortunately his biopsys weren't good enough to allow the chemo to take place - so I've got everything crossed for your mum.  You know how to contact me if you want to ask anything.

{{hugs}}

Margot 

Great news Lucy I hope that chemo will work, and lets hope a great Mother's Day soon for you and your Mum
Viv
X

Let's hope so. I'm so sorry it didn't work out for Adrian, though I have to say even if we get another 12-18 months that doesn't seem much considering she 'should' have had another 15-20 years as she is only 64. Oh well, it's better than nothing!

Enjoy your time together Lucy and I shall send positive thoughts for a good outcome from the chemo.

thinking of you all and wishing you good days you'll always remember x